My fiance and I wrote our own vows and they are somewhat lengthy in comparison to traditional vows..I'm concerned with whether or not we will be able to memorize them. Is it acceptable to read them off a paper or does the minister tell us what to say or do we just have to memorize them and deal with whatever happens if we miss a word or two? Especially with all of the emotion and such I think that it would be easy to forget some of it. Please help!!
2007-03-22 07:39:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Definitely sounds like you need to do some editing of the vows if they are that long... but... if they are original then no one else has ever heard them and won't notice if you make a mistake! So nothing will happen... no one will laugh if you make a mistake because they won't be able to tell... so just say what is in your heart and have a lovely wedding :)
2007-03-25 21:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I suggesat going with the traditional service then you can add something to that before the minister or person presiding over the marriage says your vows.
Like he could start off by saying we are here today to join so and so to so and so then he could say that before we start
the exchanging of the vows the bride and groom have written something of there own they would like to say to one and another. This then can be a small something easy enough to
memorize and not a novel that the guests will forget or get bored with. Remember one other thing both you and your fiance will also have a toast or time tosay something memorable about each other at the reception so you could also consider using part of those vows in your toast instead.
Congratulations and I hope this helps a bit.
God Bless and Best of Luck may your day be one your best
and may you shine for your hubby.
2007-03-22 14:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to write them down and read off a piece of paper. Normally when you write your own vows the minister does not have you do the repeating, he just says you have written your own vows and you say them. You should practice so your used to saying them, but don't try memorizing you will forget the day of the wedding anyways, trust me. I had memorized my vows in spanish, we did ours in english and spanish, and I forgot the day of, there was too much going on and I was way too excited for my mind to work properly.
2007-03-23 18:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Janice O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write the vows in the way where the minister says most of it, and then asks you if you want to marry each other - then all you have to say is "yes". It takes the edge off. Or shorten the vows - "brevity is the sister of talent"; short and poignant is better than long-winded and poorly delivered. You can still have a piece of paper with you to jog your memory - but reading the whole thing off a paper would be tacky, IMO.
2007-03-22 14:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with reading them out. After all, for the traditional vows, couples repeat the lines as the minister says them.
2007-03-22 16:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to be so filled with emotion as it is on your BIG day it is more than acceptable to read them off of paper. I've been in a few weddings in the past couple years. Where the person has just spoken from the heart, or she has just read it off the paper. The one bride who read off the paper, cried while she read due to the emotion she felt while declaring her love to her husband to be. It brought tears to every ones eyes as well. So reading off pf paper IS more than acceptable. That way you can also read them a few times before that day and make sure you are saying everything you want to say and not missing a word or feeling or memory.
2007-03-22 16:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by mdbdter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is acceptable to have a card with it written down. I dont suggest you write it word for word, just jot down the main idea of everything you want to make sure you tell your partner during your vows, but most importantly, speak from the heart. At that point in time, nothing else will matter.
2007-03-22 14:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS NOT THE QUANTITY ITS THE QUALITY OF THE VOW! EVEN THE VOWS THEY GIVE YOU IN CHURCH ARE SHORT AND TO THE POINT. BUT HOW MANY FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS TO YOU SEE REMEMBER WHAT WAS SAID ON THAT MOST SACRED DAY? HOW MANY OF THEM ARE DIVORCED HOW MANY OF THEM ARE CHEATING AND HOW MANY OF THEM HAVE LEFT WHEN TIMES GOT TOUGH. A VOW IS SACRED MEMORIZE THOSE VOWS AND NEVER FORGET THEM. IF YOU CAN MEMORIZE THE LYRICS TO YOUR FAVORITE SONG YOU CAN MEMORIZE YOUR OWN LOVE SONG. WORK OUT THE VOW WITH THE MINISTER AND GET HIM TO LEAD IT OFF. THEN YOU GUYS TAKE IT FROM THERE. ITS LIKE SINGING A SONG BUT INSTEAD OF HARMONY ITS IN UNISON. SET A TEMPO AND GO WITH THE FLOW JUST DO IT. GOD BLESS AND BEST OF LOVE FOR YOUR FUTURE...PAPA HANK
2007-03-22 14:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by papa_hanko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen weddings where they held papers with the vows written on them. You could assign an usher or groomsman or create a "vowsman or vowswoman" to be responsible for holding them until they are needed and taking them after they have been read. You could put them on really nice high grade paper also so it would look nice and you could put that in your scrapbook afterwards! Good luck and God Bless your marriage.
2007-03-22 14:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, shorten them. But your minister usually reads them for you to repeat. It's not a big deal. Don't stress about it. If you miss a word or two, nothing happens.
2007-03-22 14:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋