Well my really good friend and I have always liked each other on and off. Everytime we try to move on, we find it hard to because we like each other. He flirts with so many girls, that it's hard for me to try to compete. I really like him, but I'm scared that if I come back to him again, he'll just hurt me. You see everytime the 2 of us start getting close, he'll push me away, but once I move on to a new guy, he likes me again. He told me that when we hang out he falls for me, but when we're apart, he starts to fall away from liking me. I don't know what to do this time!!! I still really like him a whole lot and I know he likes me right now 2, but I don't wanna make a mistake. We had such an amazing time this past Saturday night. I need some advice pronto!!! Thanks!!!
2007-03-22 07:38:35 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he is really into you. He's just really scared of it. Maybe he got burned in the past? Who knows, but he has to figure it out for himself. I'd say there's potential here if he figures out what he wants with you. Be as patient as you can be. I know that's not always easy.
2007-03-22 07:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tropical Babygirl is right. What does your gut tell you? Seriously. When you come down off of the high of the amazing weekend you'll be back to wondering what this guy wants.
I'm trying to make sense of this: when you start getting close, he pushes you away. He says when you hang out he falls for you, but when you're apart he starts to fall away. Don't get it. Sounds like he just wants to keep you as an option.
Find someone who really likes you and wants to be with you, the way you deserve.
2007-03-22 07:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say he is vagabond kind of person. Just forget him & find out somebody else where you have your future. Girls should get married before 30 & have children before 35. Girls life has a limited time for marriage & reproduction. People reproduce at 63 too but that is not with their own eggs. So what is the use of having children.
Men have tendency to go tothe many girls if you have found now he is very much of that type. Just forgetdon't waiste time of your life again & again. Leave him & move on.
2007-03-22 09:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what this guy seems like he's just playing games. I know a bunch of guys like him. I think you need to be firm with him and tell him that if he really wants somthing to happen only then should he start "falling for you" otherwise its just best you be friends and keep your feelings aside and then you can move on. Becuase if he keeps hurting you i don't think its worth it. So many girls let guys take advantage of them dont' let him do it to you. For him he feels that no matter what he always has you as a saftey or something. Anyways hope my opinon helps
2007-03-22 07:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Phew, that doesn't sound good. I wouldn't invest any more time in this guy, but then again, I'm not in your shoes. This is what I think. People learn in various ways. One of them is through experience (good and bad). That is why, when you are young, you experiment with relationships, which is what you are doing right now. You do that to figure out who you are in a relationship, where you stand, what you want from a bf, et cetera. It sounds to me as if you have a pretty good idea of what you need in a relationship. That idea is probably expressing itself in the doubts you are having about this boy. I would say, hey, listen to yourself, be true to yourself and make decisions based on that. Good luck.
2007-03-22 08:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know the answer in your heart. You see the pattern of the relationship now and that is how it's always gonna be. You are just holding on because you like him alot. I would recommend that you date someone who is at the same level emotionally as you are. I wish you luck..I am sure you're an awesome person..just empower yourself to move on!! GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-22 07:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by tropical_babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a complete waste of your time! You deserve someone who thinks about you all the time, not just when you're together! He has proven that he's untrustworthy, move on. he only wants you because he can have you! Like you said, it's when you get a new boyfriend that he starts paying attention to you again!
2007-03-22 07:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this guy just doesn't know what he wants. It might be better for you if you just move on. He's playing too many mind games.
He really needs to grow up and stop hurting you this way.
2007-03-22 07:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know whats going to happen, keep it as a "friend" thing that you share, have fun with it. anything else, your friendship won't be the same. you know once a new chic come into play, he's off looking to be with them, love him at a distance, don't wear your heart on your sleeve for him, when those "amazing moments" come appreciate them, it sounds as if you are his in between chic.
2007-03-22 07:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes a player, he doesnt want you until you meet someone else. sounds to me hes using you then you get close he pulls away because he doesnt want the relationship in that way. so i would tell him look we will be friends but thats it. were on again off again and that aint working. i may be missing out on mr right. just be friends and thats it. cause i think hes playing with your emotions.
2007-03-22 15:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋