I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months, only on weekends. He is the one to say which weekend, seems like I have no say so. We have fun together. He will call about once a week and that is it. Time to move on, huh??
2007-03-22 07:35:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this hurts, but yeah it is time to move on. You deserve better than this. It sounds to me like he is very controlling and that he gets to decide for both of you. You don't even have a say so. You deserve to be in a relationship where there is mutual decision making. Just think, if he's already deciding when you 2 can hang out and when you can't, then what's gonna happen when you get to even bigger decisions to make. You deserve a guy who will listen to you and who will call you more than once a week. You deserve the best!!!
2007-03-22 16:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, seems to me if you stay, he will always know he can control the relationship. not only that but if you only see him on the weekends and he only calls once a week, then he probably has another life (maybe a family) that you don't know about! good luck with all!
2007-03-22 07:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by yoursalwaysmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave him control by always letting him set the time and place. You still have a chance to get the control back (or move on).
Interestingly, my husband placed me in the same situation you find yourself in when we first dated. Guess what, wrong person to do that to, since my waiting list of admirers exceeded 10! As soon as he saw the demand, I gained control and I started setting the time, place and date! LOL, now we are married, more happily than not.
2007-03-22 07:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may have another girl on the side. He is planning the times and when. What would happen if you just showed up out of the blue? I think it's time to let go and move on to better things.
2007-03-22 07:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by padros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he wants to dictate when, where. Forget that noise girl, he will be a controller of the relationship. When he puts in his next week (once a week) call to you, ignore the call. When he asks you over, tell him you are afraid that you have made other plans.
2007-03-22 07:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but yeah it's time to move on to somebody better....somebody that will actually be there for u whenever u want to talk to him...or be with him not only on the weekends....
good luck!!
2007-03-22 07:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by J[o]a[N]n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not. Totally up to you. An alternate strategy might be telling him you're busy next time he wants to do something with you. Do that 2 or 3 times and see if he doesn't try a little harder to make time for you, with you.
2007-03-22 07:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Switch it up a little...next time he calls and makes a play date..tell him that wont work for and schedule it for a different weekend...see what he says about that.
2007-03-22 07:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control freak and very self-focused. Try asking him to go out during a weekday (find an occasion to label 'special) and get his reaction. If he saids no way, you can bet he has another priority than you.
2007-03-22 07:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
..unless you simply like being the random weekend relish on his appetizer tray hun?...I'd say it's time for him to find and go tasting another new appetizer here darling...but that's just me talking sweetie! He's in this for his own pleasure hun...not yours. Find someone that WANTS to treat you well darling. You deserve nothing finer then the best...and this ain't him hun. Are we cool?
2007-03-22 07:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋