my girlfriend has been under alot of stress lately at home she is 400 miles away with her family they have been so so nasty to her her brother has been hitting her and beating her up and her mum and step dad wont do anything about it they dont care what happens to her at all. she is moving in with me in the summer up to scotland i have offered her now but she wont come because of school she wants to finish her last year until june. i want to help her desperatly i know going down there wont solve anything they hate me i wan to help how can i help?????
2007-03-22 07:35:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have to phone her back at 6.45 i dont knwo what to do its so hard i want to go and get her but she wont come
2007-03-22 07:37:49 · update #1
You will just have to patiently wait for her, what else can you do? It seems that it is more important for her to finish school at this point and worth the sacrifice. June is right around the corner. Respect her wishes, it will be better for her in the long run.
2007-03-22 07:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to do something about this. You cant wait patiently or let her get on with it. If she is 400 miles away I assume she is in England? Its late now I know but in the morning try and contact her before she goes to school when she gets there she must go and speak to a teacher, counsellor, the Head anyone there will do even the Head Admin person to get the ball rolling. Her brother is committing domestic violence/ absuse on his sister a serious offence, her mum and stepdad by not doing anything are neglecting her safety. And if its bad as you say then there will be evidence on her body.
If she cant do it you pick up the phone and speak to the police, please for her safety , possibly her life if its that bad stop it now.
2007-03-22 13:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, does she have other family members there, maybe they are mad that she is leaving. If I were you I would try to get a hold of some family members or something around that would let her stay there until she gets out of school, yeah don't mess up her last year you know both you and her will regret it. If she feels threatened then call the police no one deserves to be hit! They have hotlines for things like that locally this is sad, but try to do what you can to help her you know I think other family members would help.
2007-03-22 07:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by cake23us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well June is just a few months away, Let her finish school help her in her hard times... try offering her something, spend time with her man, take her away from her fam. go take her to the movies or something.
If its long distance relationship. Make sure shes telling the truth... sometimes women lie about alot of the phone/internet.
Good luck man, if i knew her name id pray for her safety
2007-03-22 08:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
who does her brother think she is first of all. you can help her by sorting out a school there and getting her to move with you where she will be safer and happier. you both should go to the police and report this monster cos if he can do it to his own sister will he do it to a girlfriend??? i have been hit by a bloke and it makes you think that you did something wrong all you can do is talk her into moving up with you sooner rather than later. please try and make her see sense she is making the biggest mistake of her life staying there and she will not do well in her exams with her brother beating the crap out of her whenever he feels like it!!!
good luck to you both. go down there and get her she will thank you in the end.
2007-03-22 09:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by EMMA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be supportive of her and the decisions she makes. Even if it is one you don't agree with. No one can help her and make decisions until she decides to do it herself.. You need to tell her that you will be supportive of her, stand by her, let her know help from you is just a phone call away. And give her options, and tell her to think about them, and you're really trying to help, but you can only do so much without her wanting to help herself.
And that whatever she decides, you'll be there. She does need someone to lean on, and it would be good of you to do that for her no matter what happens.
2007-03-22 07:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is underage then if you try to make her come with you you could get into problems legally. You don't say what country she is in with her family, but they must have abuse hotlines and agencies. She really needs to report the abuse. she may be removed from the home but would be placed with a foster family and could finish her schooling until she comes to live with you. Or she could go to her school guidance officer or school nurse to seek help (they would be confidential but would still be able to help her). Good luck and may God Bless you both.
2007-03-22 07:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely insist that you go get her,if not get her,stay with her for as long as you can. Tell her to speak to somebody at school too they might be able to help,perhaps she could finish school somewhere else.is there any friends nearby that she can go to after school to get away from her brother?
2007-03-22 07:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lor24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how sad...isnt there any other family she can stay with? - you didnt say. if she wont come to you just yet...just re-assure her that summer is not too far away & it wont be long until she is safe..with you!
saying that....NOBODY is allowed to lay their hands on you to beat you...and if i was her..i would call the police!! - sorry...sounds tough - but i HATE bullies!!
2007-03-22 07:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her decision to stay. Be honorable. It cannot hurt to ring up the police and voice your concerns.
2007-03-24 18:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋