i hate being single.. just want my relationship back!?

Question

I pray to god that this love will leave me alone..
that this pain will go away!
i dont want to miss my ex.. but i cant get over him!
its been 3 weeks and ive been positive i know he left me to sleep/date around but i truly was in love with him during 9 months we were together!!! i know he doesnt care, want nor love me he is a player, lier and very immature.. SO WHY
the hell do i cry for him and my heart skips a beat
everytime my phone rings hoping its him,
or when i walk down the street i look for him in the crowd..
i want to forget him so much!!!
i tell myself he isnt worth it all! but my sodding heart doesnt nudge! im soo tired and sick of every song every guy just makes feel so sad.. and what hurst the most he is with someone else..kissing them.. sleeping with them.. it effing hurts!!!! how could he do this to me??????
i cant get way from questions and thoughts of him
so i sleep more but then he haunts me in my dreams!
HELP.. ! i should be enjoying being single right?!?

Answer 1

First of all, there's a reason for everything that happens in our lives. One bad relatioship has ended so you can start fresh and think about yourself...what would really make you happy. Getting hurt and your heart broken into pieces is just part of life.....these expriences are supposed to make us stronger & wiser. Sometimes we need to get hurt badly so we can re-assess our lives. I feel for you. I know how it is to be cheated on & lied to many times. It will take time to heal the wounds in your heart. The pain will go away eventually but you have to HELP YOURSELF because if YOU can't then no one can. "START SEEING YOURSELF THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE. YOU MAY BE IN DIFFICULTIES, YOU MAY BE STRUGGLING, BUT DON'T LET THAT IMAGE TAKE ROOT. PAINT A NEW PICTURE. START SEEING YOURSELF RISING OUT OF YOUR TROUBLES. START SEEING YOURSELF AS MORE THAN A CONQUEROR. CHANGE WHAT YOU'RE SEEING & YOU WILL CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE PRODUCING aND BECOMING."
You need to get busy. Focus on something else besides your ex. I know its easier said than done. Hang out with your friends....get your mind on something else....go shopping, do what you like to do......just enjoy being single! Your ex treated you badly...no respect for you at all. YOU deserve someone who will treat you like a QUEEN. and thats how WE WOMEN should be treated...LIKE A QUEEN! Think about all the opportunities that's opened up to you. You can have fun with friends and enjoy the excitement of meeting new guys.
I know there is someone out there who will sweep you off your feet and make you really HAPPY. It may sound like a fairy tale but it's not....it can happen for real. Someone who will treat you right and respect you. You can now look forward to that day....when you will feel so light inside, you can smile and keep your chin up and enjoy life!
One thing that has always worked for me everytime I'm in despair, is to loose myself in helping others. It's one of the best ways to forget about troubles. When you loose yourself to others, you end up finding yourself...what makes you happy.
You take care. I hope this helps. We all deserve to be HAPPY and I know you will be.

Answer 2

Hi

You should be out and about enjoying life to the fullest . The right one has not shown his handsome face yet but he is out there .

I have been where you are and yes it hurts like Hell . But with time you will survive this and be a better person because of it that's if you learned from your mistakes in your past relationship with this guy . Meaning what to do and what not to do in the new relationship . So cheer up and go outdoors for some fresh air to get your mind off of him .

I think it is your loneliness and the fact that you still have feelings for him that is making you feel the way you do but he does not feel the same for you .

He did not deserve you anyway if he could just hurt you with no remorse or second thought . Do what I did stop caring so much and before you know it you will have forgotten about him

Take care
C

THAT SPECIAL GUY IS OUT THERE JUST FOR YOU !!

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel! My boyfriend of 14 years ( we have 2 kids) left me 3 months ago. I have always loved him. Probably too much. But deep down I knew he didn't love me as much as I loved him. So I did everything I could to keep him happy. I used to be very very skinny. But in the last couple of years I put on about 20 pounds. We are both 41. New Years Eve after going out and having a great time, he turned to me and said " I am leaving you, I am moving in with my mother and I want to date other woman. I am just not into you anymore. And the family life is not for me." I could not believe it! Well here we are 3 months later and he already has a girlfriend. He says he can not be responsible for my feelings. He is not losing any sleep over it. I am devastated. Every where I go, everything I hear, reminds me of him. I even cry in my sleep. Maybe it is best that he left after 9 months. Because mine left after 14 years. They both sound shallow, vain, and immature. We will heal. I know it seems like it won't ever stop hurting. But be strong. And have faith that one day both your ex and my ex will get whats coming to them! That they will feel the pain that they inflicted on us! I send you lot's of hugs. And remember you are not alone, a lot of us are going threw the same thing.

Answer 4

It's only been a few weeks. I know you feel like life is over, but it is not. I have been there. The woman I absolutely worshiped left and I just wanted to die. Looking back on it now it seems silly that I spent so much time upset when I should have been going out with friends. The best way to get over him is going out. If nobody is asking you out, then just go out and do something you enjoy. Eventually you're going to feel better and it won't hurt as much. My Friend Always likes to say that the only thing that will get you over the last one is the next one, so go find 'em! You are going to get over this and it is going to be okay. If the radio is upsetting you, stop listening for awhile. Turn it to a talk show or something silly. I know nothing I can say will really make you feel better, but just know we all have been through this at least once and we all get over it eventually.

Good luck!

Answer 5

well I'm in a similar situation, so I can relate...
I also broke up with my boyfriend, except for fact he is not a player, but he simply got tired of our constant fighting.
And I can relate to your feelings, i have exactly the same...:(
I think about him whole day long, every song I hear on the radio reminds me of him, every show I watch, every place we have been together and so on.
You just need time...you need to move on. Right now you are hurt because he left you to be with somebody else.
And although you know that he is not a good match, he is a player, you are still hoping for the best.
There is no cure for it. You have broken heart. I know that you don't want to be single, you don't want to go out and meet somebody new. You just have to wait. That's what I'm doing.

Answer 6

It's totally normal that you are feeling this way. They say it takes about half the time that you were with a person to totally get over them if you loved them and this is still very fresh in your mind.

I think a lot of us have been in the same position as you are right now...I have been in almost the EXACT situation before. Men can be such incredible jerks. I know it sounds trite as hell, but it will get easier...just try to ride it out as best you can. Spend lots of time with friends and try to have as much fun as possible.

I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 7

Right now you're emotionally fragile and needy. You don't want him, you want the idea of having him. Things were probably great in the beginning and that is what you long for. But those days are over. He has moved on and like it or not, you'll need to do the same.

Of course you don't like being alone. You're probably insecure so you need someone in your life and he's the closest thing. That doesn't mean it's healthy. Try to cope best you can and count on friends to pick you up.

Answer 8

You know that he is bad for you...You need to just get through the next few weeks. It is really hard, we have all been there. The best thing to do is go out, exercise do anything that keeps you really busy so you aren't sitting around thinking about him. When you do think of him also think about all of the rotten things that he has said and done. Stop listening to love songs it only makes things worse. Good luck.

Answer 9

Of course you should, but even I can agree that it's a hard thing to do when you're still grieving for a break-up. Resolve to turn your sadness into defiance. If you can show HIM that you're happy without him, you'll feel the same way.

Answer 10

you should be enjoying being single, you just need to find something to do in place of sitting around waiting for the phone to ring,, give me a call, lets hit some dinner and movie,,