ok i have two kids and some how they are very messy. Im a clean freak so i get frustrated and mad when they make a mess. I feel so bad cause they are just kids. My question is that Is it ok to have a messy house sometimes and i should just relax?? I feel that no womens house should me dirty and when my house if dirty i feel like im the only mother that has a dirty house/? Do you have kids that are dirty and how do u handle it in a nice way???
2007-03-22 07:25:04 · 12 answers · asked by flaca 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My house is just messy with toys etc... but i feel it just filty i hate it
2007-03-22 07:48:36 · update #1
I've three kids and my house is not always in the way i like them to be. I'm a clean and neat freak but i just learn to let go a little coz all i have to is keep reminding myself that this will not last forever. One day, when they decided to move out and you are alone in the house, you can keep it however clean you want it to be.
But of course, basic hygiene and cleanliness are necessary. Don't want them to get sick, either. You can also delegate some chores to them. Get them involved at an early age. Put up a chart indicating the chores they have to complete and reward them when they managed to finish it. Be creative!! Good luck!!
2007-03-22 07:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Celia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 very messy children, and I am a bit of a neat freak myself. In my house, I let the kids go crazy until 4pm. Then it's clean up time for everybody. They make small messes until bedtime, but I make them clean up. After they're off to bed, I clean for the next morning, when the havoc starts all over again. I have always been over the top about the way the house looks, but I didn't want my kids to inherit this, so I made the 4 o'clock rule. I want them to learn to clean, but they don't need to be obsessive about it like I am. So they get their time to go crazy and I get a relatively clean house by the time my husband comes home.
2007-03-22 16:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Krissi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are only little for such a short time.Spend your time making memories with each other. Paint pictures, read stories together,make cardboard mobiles,bakes cookies, go for walks, play ball.etc.Twenty years from now your children will remember the time you spent together.They won't remember what they ate but they will remember sitting around the table sharing their day.Your children will not remember a house that looks like a museum or a house that was dusty.Relax and teach your children they are loved.As for the housework put on grey gloves. A home is meant to be lived in.
2007-03-22 17:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is okay to have a messy house. To keep things under control, I only let my daughter play in her own room, game room and family room. She is not allowed to go into the formal rooms, so those are always nice looking and I have guests sit in them and not see the rest of the house. Recently, since she is older now, i have also started having her pick up her toys and put them in a box before going to bed at night, that helps keeps the mess under control.
2007-03-22 07:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit of a neat freak too and I did okay until the last one was born (we have 5 kids). It still bothers me but for the most part I have come to the conclusion that they are only young once and I will have plenty of time to keep a spotless house after they are on their own. Trust me, honey; you are not the only woman whose house is dirty.
2007-03-22 07:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I go to someones house and see a **** and span house and they have (especially) small children, or anything under 17.... I know how they spend their time. When you have children having a super clean house is a warning sign... all is not well here...
messy and dirty are not the same.
2007-03-25 08:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter loves getting her toys everywhere too, and I am a clean freak aswell.
My thinking is that as long as the place is clean, it's okay for it to get messy- there's a difference between messy and dirty.
It's okay to not have your home looking pristene all the time...relax, and enjoy your children's creative play!
2007-03-22 07:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, settle down. Take a breath. all people with childrens have been there. childrens that age DO force you nuts! My youngest is 4 and that i'm only now feeling back to my old self! you're able to desire to do 2 issues. First, locate some thank you to get a wreck from the youngsters. A grandparent, a chum, the wonderful woman down the line.....every physique! one concern that helped me while my childrens have been very youthful became hiring a pre-teen mothers helper. She might come over, play with the youngsters on a similar time as I have been given some artwork carried out or took a snooze or study a e book. childrens that age love little toddlers and are not as costly as a toddler-sitter. some dollars an hour will do. Then, as she gets older, you have a depended on babysitter for once you're able to desire to leave the abode. She'll comprehend you, your toddlers, your recurring. that is super! the 2d concern you're able to desire to do is to get your place so as. take a seat, by ability of your self first, and write down your acceptable day. Make it like a time table, what you will do each and each our of the day. Make it a catalogue of ways you like your day might pass. next, take a seat including your husband and clarify what you're dealing with and what he would desire to do to help. a number of those issues may be momentary. the full thing approximately childrens is they DO become old and greater autonomous. As him how he needs his day to be to boot and the two one in each of you artwork the main important factors out. Make a plan to get out if his abusive behaviour would not substitute. permit him comprehend to boot. permit him comprehend which you refuse to place up with him performing like yet another baby! If he looks responsive than artwork with him, if he would not, commence making plans to leave him. era. existence can extremely be super although that is on the subject of ways you're making it ensue each and on a daily basis. in case you haven't any longer have been given a supportive better half, doing it devoid of him may be much less difficult. Suicide isn't an determination at this factor. think of of your toddlers. do you prefer to leave and permit HIM strengthen them? I constantly say this....i might extremely be chuffed living in a shack than depressing in a mansion....think of approximately that. if your existence is depressing, you are the only person which will substitute it. Make your determination and pass from there. good success!
2016-10-01 08:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by celia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have assigned chores-once a week they change but all the kids (6 of them-4 mine 2 step) know that they get home do homework, chores, and clean their rooms then they go play. It took alittle bit of fine tuning but now it works really well.
2007-03-22 07:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Monell K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the children the responsibility of cleaning up their mess. If they don't, throw out what is left laying around.
Why do parents always want to handle things in a "nice" way?
Be a PARENT!!!
2007-03-22 08:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by elmar66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋