Are they right?

Question

i have had a lot of problems here lately..i have and anger management problem and im always depressed..because for one..my relationships never seem to go right..my first real relationship we were together for 2 months and decided to have sex but then like 1 1/2 later we were fightin all the time so he cheated on me and slept with my older sis then my second real relationship we were together for 9 months and then decided to have sex then 2 months later he said he didnt love me any more and wouldnt ever talk to me and lied to me all the time..then i tryed to go out and date again but i always seem to hook up with losers and it just made me more depressed its been 6 months since me and my last real relationship ended and i still upset about it and i have dated like 20 or 30 guys since then..havent had sex with any of them but im just lookin for the special someone..which i think i have found i now have a fiance but we are gonna through a tough time right now..another thing im depressed..

about is me and my mom never get along like i dont even want to get into detail about that..we havent always been like this..it just started when she and my dad split up. which is another thing..and me and my sis never get along we always get into fist fights and stuff...then theres Brad..hes my best friend but we have alot of different opinons which leads to more arguements in my life..he makes all these promises to me that he will always be there when i need him no matter whats goin on he would drop everything for me but he gets mad very easy and wont talk to me for like a week and it always seems to happen when somethin rly bad is goin on in my life and i rly need him but he wont talk. But is everyone right, do i need a steady relationship to help me? or should i be single? do i rly need to be on all this medication? i take a mood stabilizer, some kind of anti depression medicine and birth control to help with mood swings durin that time of the month.. what do you think i should do?

ppl stop sayin i need to talk to a professional ..i do every week..its not working i still dont feel any better after talkin to someone...i dont know them..i dont want to get to know him...my life is crumbling around me and theres nothing i can do...

Answer 1

It sounds like the problems you are havnig now may be caused by your emotional baggage. Your sister betrayed you like that? That's harsh. You mention the timeframe for sex with other guys, so I take it that was a big deal for you.

You're also all over the place with your story. You've been out with 20-30 guys and haven't had sex, but you have a fiance and THINK he's the one.

You seem to be in a bad place emotionally. Take some time for yourself. Get some counseling. Don't jump into something just to jump into it. The marriage won't last if that's the case.

Answer 2

One of the most important things you can do is to think of yourself first and foremost. There is a stigma attached to the word "selfish" but I'll tell ya, this is the only way you are going to be of any use or good to anyone else or in any relationship (regardless of nature).
It is obvious that this is not happening. You are searching and searching for happiness that you cannot find, because you're looking in the wrong places - other people, guys.
Simply being with someone is not going to make you happy. YOU have to be happy FIRST - or you can date 200 guys over the next year and still not find what you're looking for. Or be with someone and still be miserable (like right now). Understand?
Take care of yourself, work on your pride and dignity and confidence. Realize that you deserve love in your life. No one can tell you how to do this...you have the answer.

Answer 3

Uh oh. Sounds like you've got a problem. Wait it out with your fiance, see what happens. If things start to go down-hill, I might suggest seeing a therapist. You're not crazy or anything, maybe you just have bad luck with relationships. Talking it out with a professional might make you feel better. They may offer some really great advice, or could prescribe you with some anti-depressants to lift your spirits. Perfectly normal stuff. Good luck, I hope your depression wears off.

Answer 4

Ok first off, you need time to yourself. You need to get away from everyone and just spent some time alone. Take a lng hot shower and just stay in there till theres no more hot water left. It always helps me.

Second of all, stay away from guys! Dont go into a relationship so quick, just stay single for awhile till you get yourself together again cause your just making your life more difficult and adding problems to it. Just keep to yourself!

Third off, you need to sit down with your mother and talk to her without arguing or yelling or screaming. Tell her the way you are feeling, moms always have a solution to everything. Your mother should be the second most important person if your life after God. Do you ever have faith in God? If you dont, I suggest you start, guarantee you that will make you feel 100 times better!!!! You dont wanna live life having problems with your mom, I was like that and let me tell you... it was HELL! I couldnt take it all the time fighting and arguing and I just hated her in one point in my life then one time it all just BLEW UP sooo bad!!! And we sat down and actually talked about why I was mad at her that she doesnt ever pay attention to me and my brothers and the list goes ON AND ON but once we had that talk... there hasnt been anymore fighting or arguing or anything at all. Our relationship is PERFECT! We hang out all the time and go shopping together and go everywhere together! You need to SIT DOWN AND TALK about your problems to your mother, she will let you know everything you need to do to get better.

I think you and your fiance need a break till you get better. You really dont need more problems in your life. You need to get yourself situated and get yourself feeling better then get back with him cause being with him while your having so many problems is just too much that you should be handling right now, please I hope you take everything I say into consideration. Be careful and choose wisely. Goodluck!

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you need to got talk to a professional and not none of us out here. They can help you with your problems better than anybody. But if you don't want to do that then just try to be patient the right one will come along and he will love you for who you are .

Answer 6

well, since your already getting therapy or w/e, what you really need to do is get away from it all somehow, take a vacation, stay with a relative, get some time to clear your mind out and just relax. hope this helps. it helps me, i mean i drive around and just chill when things dont look good. just give it a shot if u can

Answer 7

first you need to stop seeing guys period! you are not in a place in your life to have a boyfriend. you need to be YOU before you can be a couple. you need to find someone you trust to talk this stuff through w/. and it sounds like your friend brad is too judgemental. and your sister betrayed you and your mom and you have your own issues. so why not your therapist, he can't legally tell anyone what you say to him in your sessions, and he is getting paid to listen and help. let him help you. good luck to you and i hope that you find closure. ♥

Answer 8

Don't give up. Keep Your head and be proud . There is no reason to be depressed everything will workout.
If You need to talk with someone I will listen.
Good Luck.

Answer 9

If your depressed then I think it would be a good idea to get someone to chat to. That might find out why you feel that way.