My boyfriend has a really close friend who's a girl. She has a boyfriend too but she claims she trusts my boyfriend more then her own boyfriend. She comes to him for advice and they have really deep conversations. My boyfriend has said that he thinks shes attractive and has a "really nice body". He also said that if me and him werent going out he might date her. He says he loves me and he would never do anything but I'm still really jealous. Should I be upset or am I overexaggerating??
2007-03-22 07:21:06 · 28 answers · asked by willy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and p.s. we live in different citys. He see's this girl everyday and I see him once a month. And to add to the drama this girl is dating my boyfriends bestfriend.
2007-03-22 07:40:41 · update #1
You sound young and inexperienced, sweetie.
Of course you feel threatened...Who wouldn't?
I guess it's possible for a man and a woman to be "just friends"....But with what you've written it sounds like he's involved with both you and her....emotionally, at least!
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In my opinion, long-distance relationships don't work. So I'd really consider ending your relationship with your boyfriend if you don't see him more.
Good luck.
2007-03-30 04:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your boyfriend is a little bit thick. He doesn't understand how he is affecting your feelings and should be a little more considerate.
That said, this isn't necessarily something to worry about. He is being open and honest with you. That means he has nothing to hide, and that you can trust him when he says that he loves you and would never do anything. I'd be more worried if he wasn't saying anything.
That also said, it's tough that you are not in the same city. Unless you have a long history together in the same city, it won't work. Either make plans for one of you to move, or end it.
2007-03-30 06:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tia's answer. give him the benefit of the doubt but I agree, I would be pissed off as hell and definitely jealous. Guys think **** about other girls all the time though....at least he trusts y'all's relationship enough to come out and say "hey that chicks hot, what do you think?" he thinks your a cool chick! But if he says anything to really upset you....tell him to get over this 'last desperate hope' that he is clinging on to and tell him to either STAY WITH YOU or go with the chick. That is, if things go bad
2007-03-22 07:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can be friends!! My wife knows I have female friends on this computer that I have known since we were kids and one I was in the Army with but she does not think anything bad about it at all. She even lets me go party's at a Bar that one of my old female friend's brother owns and she does not go along with me. She knows I love these old friends. The way I love these friends is totally different from the way I love my Wife and she knows it!!
2007-03-22 07:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are your feelings. I think you know better than anyone if you are able to trust your boyfriend. He has been honest with you. I give him thumbs up for that. However, I would wonder why she keeps running to him. Are you included in these discussions? You need to make sure your boyfriend is aware of how you truly feel, if he cares, he will also take your feelings into consideration. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-22 07:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a breath - relax... This guy's friend is just a friend. Guys always talk to girls. It's no big deal. Plus, the "other girl" is dating your bf best friend. Unless your bf is total creep and scum bucket, he's not doin' her. What do you care if she has a nice body; so do millions of other girls. How jealous are you?
You're lucky, your bf is open and, it seems to me, honest with you... Just enjoy yourself on those monthly dates.
2007-03-30 07:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Movinonup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pissed.
Before I wouldn't but I was once in that situation, and wasn't jealous at all. Then he cheated on me.
Men are usually weak. So if she makes a move, I don't know if he will be think with his correct "head".
I don't really know what you can do in this situation, wishing you luck though, and don't feel guilty for being jealous over something like this.
2007-03-22 07:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl I can't believe your still with this loser. He told you all of those things and that right there is a clear indication that he doesn't respect you. You need to drop him because he wants that other chick on the side and it clear and the only person who can't see it is you. Dump him before he dumps u!!!
2007-03-22 07:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you really feel and then start trusting him. Dont get too jealous or overexaggerate or you might just end up ruining your relationship.
2007-03-22 07:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really trust this guy? it doesn't sound like you do.
Anyone else in your position would be jealous too, so don't feel bad about that. You need to talk to him and get him to reassure you, and if he can't do that i'd give him his marching orders!
2007-03-29 22:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋