I have a guy friend that I am very close with and he has recently gotten back together with his ex-wife. I feel hurt and jealous about this because it came out of the blue. I see him atleast twice a week. What do I do to hide my hurt and jealousy? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
2007-03-22 07:16:13 · 14 answers · asked by Michelle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you can do is smile alot & stay being his friend. If it ended once between his wife & him, it will happen again. Stick around & be there for him.
2007-03-22 07:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being seeing this women all along. (It was just a surprised to you because he kept the whole situation from you). That's the reason why all of this has came out of the blue. As my Grandmother used to say, "Baby, you don't have to play second fiddle to nobody". And now, I am sharing the same info with you. Let him go now. Because if not, you WILL pay for it in the long run. So what ever you guys have done, fun, sex, great conversation, put it in the pass and move on. YOU DESERVE MUCH MORE!
2007-03-22 07:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really your "friend" than I don't think that it would have hurt you. You probably started to have feelings for him and thought maybe somewhere things may have gone another way for the two of you. I can see how this would happen considering you have been there for him and starting spending time with him but, you need to be there for him as a friend and friend only....He needs to fall a couple of times for him to realize if his marriage is truly over..... I don't think you should say anything to him. Allow him to sort his feeling out and find his way. By you expressing your feelings, you may put him in a situation he's not able and ready to deal with. Good Luck ***
2007-03-22 07:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....that sounds like something I am going through myself!!! You aren't in MI are you...lol. You know I told him that I would wait around for a little bit to see what happens between them. We were only talking for a short time, but he had given me his # years ago and I was always attracted to him. And, when we finally got together and hung out we were together all the time and there was this immediate attraction between us. And, he had said he thought he was over his ex-wife until she showed up on his door step one day. And, he still calls me all day everyday (while he is working or at the store and things) and he still comes to see me when he can (because there is a little distance between us...hour or 2). And, there are so many times he tells me he is confused. He loves her and her children, but yet he knows things could work between us. His ex-wife and him had different issues...but she has been comin n going for the last 2 yrs or more. And, it is her who decides she don't want him no more (sometimes within days or months). And, she has already been acting a little funny in my eyes, so I truly don't feel she will be around for long. And, I get the feeling that there are reasons he still talks/sees me. I wouldnt usually wait, but I really felt this was and could have been a good thing. So, I would stick around (but, not for long), let him know you enjoy his company, but that you are also out there enjoying yourself at the same time! It can be hard to hide the pain, but you just need to be strong and hang in there. And, go out and have fun with your friends/family too....still get out and meet new people.
2007-03-22 07:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by tanya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem with getting very close to married men-- they have wives.
If he's married, stop seeing him and stop being his friend. You'll just cause problems with his wife if you keep trying to be his pal. If it all came out of the blue, you weren't as good of a friend to him as you thought.
2007-03-22 07:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This happened with me and my very best friend
He got back with his ex girlfriend and i told him exactly how i felt.
maybe your feeling hurt and jealous because hes not with you.
and your hiding your feelings that you actually do like him like him. and your scared to tell him that.
I think you should tell him how you feel.
if hes your very close friend i'm almost sure he'll want to know your input on everything.
good luck<3
2007-03-22 07:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid this situation like its toxic waste. Dont be perceived as the reason his marriage is in trouble.
2007-03-22 07:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just could stop seeing him all together and try to date someone
2007-03-22 07:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dnt avoid him that would definatly giv off somethins wrong just act normal mayb even talk to him bout it everythin will work out dnt worry.
good luck
2007-03-22 07:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by ashl2e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and keep away from him for a while. don't try to call him or see him at all . try to get out with your g-friends and have fun.
2007-03-22 07:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋