abusive boyfriend?

Question

i need help on my boyfriend of 2 yrs doesnt know how to treat me and my heart is tired of it. i want to be happy with a guy. he had a quick temper and he calls me names. when i was little i saw myself married with my dad walking me down the isle. with my boyfriend i dont see that bc his family hates me, and my family hates him. i dont see that healthy relationship. he puts his friends and guitar first b4 me. i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him bc i dont want him to yell at me or make me cry what should i do girls and guys. i need help write back. hayley

Answer 1

Dump him, move on to someone who knows how to treat you!

Answer 2

Get out of the relationship, once abuse starts, that relationship should be over. Dont worry about being lonely, just leave him, find someone more respectful. Relationships are supposed to be enjoyable, not walking on egg shells to keep someone from yelling. Pack your things and move on, doesnt sound like a huge loss for you, you should be happy, thats why people get envolved with each other, once happiness is gone, time to start over.

Answer 3

You deserve kindness, love, respect and compassion from anyone you are considering forming a friendship with, let alone a marriage. Friendship is the basis of a good partnership/marriage. Your family does not like him Hayley probably because they see how cruel, and unloving he is towards someone they love...their daughter Hayley.

What is true in life in my opinion is that you cannot change people. You cannot change him...not in a million years, or a trillion lifetimes. Only he can change himself.

The good news is that you can change YOU. And you can start by loving yourself enough to say, "no more" and really mean it. Choose not to walk on eggshells around him. Choose to not take his verbal abuse. Remember you choose, and that creates your life the way it is right now.

Answer 4

Things only get harder to deal with if a person gets married, if you have issues with his parents and yours well, let's just say it would be totally stressful and unhappy for you because this stuff does not go away. There are so many good men out there, cut your ties while you can... if he already treats you like this you should break up and move on because you don't want it to eventually turn into something that could possible get physical. Gl with your decision!! :-)

Answer 5

Get out of this relationship immediately. Don't torture yourself any more...GO, while you still have time!! These are early warning signs of an abusive marriage. No man or woman should be that unhappy in a relationship...especially if he puts his friends and a damn guitar before you. I would tell him to jerk off, and leave him somewhere stankin'. Far as the guitar, smash it!! Just blowing off some steam here...don't do any of those things. I just don't like it when someone is in an abusive relationship. Just get out of it now, hurry!!

Answer 6

get out of the relationship if you see no future, he abuses you emotionally (which can be worse than physically.) just because you spent 2 years with him doesn't mean you need to suffer through 2 more. find a guy that treats you right.. and now you will be able to see the warning signs of an abusive guy so you know what to stay away from.

Answer 7

Leave him!!!... If it's this bad now, think of what it would be like if you did get married, or god forbid had kids together... he'd still ignore you, but you'd have extra mouths to feed and a ring on your finger... Get out while you still can... Its not worth living each day and the rest of your life with heart ache, it's better, to hurt for a small time, and move on... and more importantly... LEARN from it.

Good luck!

Answer 8

No one deserves to be treated like that, you need a guy that shows you attention, loves you, comforts you, and most importantly respects you. I promise you there are guys out there like that. I just recently divorced over the same problem, he loved basketball more and talked to me like crap I finally left him after 5 1/2 years and found a wonderful guy that treats me like gold, I couldn't be more happy. You could do the same. Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Your actually answering yourself... look back over what you just wrote and there isn't one thing positive mentioned about your bf... I would probably break it off with him immediately and get on with my life and beware of other D***HEADS like him to make sure I don't find another. There's such a short time we are givin for life anyways, I wouldn't spend it on a jerk like him...10-4?

Answer 10

you don't have to stay with someone that you're afraid of. whether it be physical or verbal, why put up with that. just remember, it won't get better it will only get worse if you keep putting up with him. there are men that know how to treat women right, don't give up you'll find one. if you're not happy now, imagine how you'll feel in ten or twenty years with him.

Answer 11

girl, leave him. it will only get worse. i know that you are gonna miss him and your heart will ache for him. but honestly, from experience, it will only get worse. it used to be like that with my first boyfriend. then after 2 years, i felt like i needed him and he got meaner. it started with pushing, then a smack here or there. then he'd yank my hair or sock me. then he started throwing things, he chased me with a bat and tried to hit me through my windshield. he start kicking me. it was horrible. it finally ended when we were falling asleep one night and i was talking in my sleep about how i wanted to go shopping and he reached over and socked me. half of my face was bruised. then when i tried to get the phone, he chocked me till i couldnt breathe. afterwards, he layed there and held me while i cried. in the morning i called the cops and that was it. i could've died. i couldnt ever talk around him and i really thought it was love. i felt free afterwards.