Someone at work is leaving and everyone is going out after work (it was even sorta my idea). My boyfriend is upset cuz I really hurt him the other day cuz I flirted with some guy right in front of him. He wants to discuss what happened first cuz he doesn't trust me to go out cuz of what I did. I didn't mean to upset him again - I figureed since we didn't have specific plans to go for a coffee and talk today that I could say yes to the work party thing. After getting people's answers for a previous questions concerning the matter (everyone said I should appease him cuz after all I was the one that screwed up), I need to make an excuse as to why I can't make the work party after work. I don't have car, no kids, can't to a death or illness thing (already done it), can't say I'm sick (done that too). Every time there is a work party, I always have a reason why I can't go so this one has got to be good and believable (no, I won't tell the truth either).
2007-03-22 07:04:48 · 23 answers · asked by Main 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Sorry I can't make it, there's something I need to do with my bf, it's really important. And no, I can't discuss it. Sorry." See, that's not a lie.
2007-03-22 07:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with them and let them know you need to discuss things with your boyfriend. However, I don't know why you can't spend a little time with your friends. I mean they are leaving and it's a going away party. Maybe you can tell them you are going to go for a few minutes to say good bye and then go home to start the damage control with your boyfriend. If you came up with the idea and then don't go, your colleagues are going to think you are either anti-social or a snob. From your comments, it appears you have ducked out of a few parties. If you keep doing this the office is going to think you don't work and play well with others and it will reflect in your evaluations and possibilities for promotion. Sure your guy is important, but he should understand that it is essential to your job to go to a few functions after work. If he can't understand that, you need to rethink your whole relationship. I mean you ARE flirting, so think about why you are. Is there a problem you don't want to admit to?
2007-03-22 07:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off never commit to the parties!!! When people ask you to go say maybe or we'll see never a definite yes, this way you wont need excuses in the future. Now if you dont have a car say you have no ride or way to get there. Or just dont show up and explain later that something came up (boyfriend surprise or something). Say your tired you went home and fell asleep.
2007-03-22 07:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerlily3030 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What would be wrong if you called your boyfriend and asked him to join you at the party after work? If he is unable to join you then just stay for dinner and a drink then excuse yourself and go home. You shouldn't need his permission to go, although I can see how he is beginning to have trust issues with you. No one likes their significant other flirting with someone else. Best you stop playing these games or you will lose him.
2007-03-22 07:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why can't you invite your boyfriend. He might just suprise you. He may feel left out and taking him with him and showing him that you want to be with him just might be what he is looking for, If he says no then tell him you will talk to him after the office party is done.
2007-03-22 07:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by hncbaxter 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about the truth, "After I organized this great party, I totally forgot that I have a previous obligation and cannot get out of it because it is REALLY important and personal to me. Have a great time everybody and think of me!" Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-22 07:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about sort of the truth. Tell them there is an unresolved issue that you and your bf need to resolve and the relationship takes priorty. Make you you tell the coworker that is leaving that you would love to be there but cannot. Make sure they know you will miss them.
Make sure you go to the next office gathering.
2007-03-22 07:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Carol D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you say that you have applied for a loan for a car and at the last minute they called you and you have to go to Ford, and see what's up, I mean it is a car... right
2007-03-22 07:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by jonni_richter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth. People will respect you, and you will find that you can continue to do so in the future and people will understand. Making up white lies just gets you into trouble and you find yourself always making more. Getting over this habit is a part of growing up.
2007-03-22 07:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by angrysandwichguy_2007 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your boyfriend is sick. but either way... i think that flirting is just flirting.. as long as you dont ahve feelings for them.. and i think that you should go to the party... but if its just going to turn into an arguement... just stay home..and tell the people the truth.. my boyfriend wont let me go.
2007-03-22 07:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by xswtxdrgnxgurlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋