my girlfriend is not romantic any help?

Question

i have a girl i love so much but she is not romantic she cant even give me a hug she claims she loves me but she is shy to do things i am fed up cos i see no connection with her at all romantically. the relationship is just 3 months old but its getting to a stage i can barely talk to her cos i am really overwhelmed by what is happening. any help i would appreciate suggestions please

Answer 1

are you her first boyfriend???well i had a friend like that too.. after about i think 9 months of being with her boyfriend.. she finally started opening up to him.. and now htey like the perfect couple give her time...

Answer 2

Well--it takes two to tango--so are you doing your part? And I don't mean suddenly hugging her out of the blue and expecting some fireworks...You have to learn to set things up--If she is shy it doesn't mean she is boring---Slow fires sometimes burn pretty steady and strong, u know?..You just have to find a way to inspire her--With all the fast loose women out there--I'd say you are pretty lucky--It seems like your desire is preventing you from calmly finding a way to create the right atmosphere and situations for romance--don't get frustrated--instead--take it slow and do romantic things with her--you probably know what those are--but are too eager to want to spend time doing those..Be patient and you will create a meaningful romance instead of just a quick fling...and 3 months is not a big deal...in this fast paced world everyone wants things so quick and easy--but those things don't last....

Answer 3

Aren't YOU supposed to be the romantic one?

If it's just a hug you're talking about, say, "How come I'M always the one initiating the hug?" Kinda look sad about it... well, you are sad about it.

I remember when I started dating my boyfriend, I would want HIM to initiate everything. I don't know why. I just always wanted the guys to make the first move.. it made ME feel better. My boyfriend got kinda annoyed and said, "So what... you don't hug me?" LOL. It worked. It's been over a year now.

Just do something nice for her... maybe a picnic or something to show how much you care. Keep the spark alive. And maybe SHE will be more lovey dovey as well.

Answer 4

wow, this is a new relationship, and there is no connection. definitely get out of there. I'm saying this because there is a reason for everything. We are all human, and we want some kind of affection. If she is not giving it to you, she is being fulfilled somewhere else. This does not entirely mean that she is cheating on you, but she could be going through something, where she is not in the mood to show any affection to anyone. She needs time by herself.

Answer 5

I understand she is shy but when you are with someone for 3 months means that you feel comfortable and nice with him...so she should have got over her shyness all this time...a good idea would be to talk to her clearly and explain her that you understand her but you are 3 months together so she shouldn't feel shy anymore...the fact that she still feels shy means that she doesn't feel comfortable and nice when she's with you and that "offends" you. After that give her a little time and if she continuous the same things break up with her. Good luck!!

Answer 6

Chances are she feels you may have rushed things abit. There is also the possibilty that she is wondering when is he gonna say "let's have sex" she is probably the most scared of that. She like most females think that once they have sex with a person the person that the connected to will leave them. In any case you should sit down and talk to HER about it because if you want to know whats on her mind what better way to find out than to ask her?

Answer 7

This Depends Man....Upon the girl mostly...this may be leading to three situations.....
1) Maybe she doesnt intend to have a relation wid you(this wont probarbly be it becoz.......if she doesnt want a relation....she wont tell ya that she loves you).....so dont think in this way.

2) In this situation maybe the ur girlfriend wants to do what she wishes.......but she might be thinking that you dont really love her... (hence if u love her.........show her that you mean it.......)(Becoz it just has been 3 months may be you are still not able to understand her feelings ......not that its your fault but show her that you mean it)
***who knows This might really work out***

and the last situation..
3) Your girlfriend is kinda shy to show her feelings and wants you to start kinda flirting with her........she might want you to show the intimacy first...
This is a very complex state.
and is needed to be handled with care.

You can start off by holding her hand....but juz dont jump in suddenly and hold her hand.......try to do it gently showing respect to her conscience.......then after some time you will know that you can go to the next stage.......
Girls are very complex..so i dont know wheter this will work out.......Hope it does man............and if you think i was kinda rude while writing this I apologise......

But dont avoid her ........this will make your relationship worst..

Hope my answer helps you out.

Answer 8

Honesty and open communication is the best thing for relationships. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you need to be shown that she cares . Tell her ways. Tell her that it is putting a strain on the relationship but you would like to work it out. See what she does.

You say you love her but you also say that there is no connection though. Sounds like to me it isnt working out. Ask yourself this... Do you see yourself with this girl forever???

Answer 9

i would have thought that after 3 months you would have been doing more than just hugging . has she been like this since the start of the relationship or is it something that has just come about.if you are so unhappy and the type of guy how thrives on touchy and kissy then she is not the one for you. try going on interrodete it is a great site and free to start.

Answer 10

accept her the way she is or find a new girl. Some people are just not as affectionate as others, it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.. And who knows, there could be any number of reasons why she is the way she is ie. past abuse or maybe she just wasn't hugged alot as a child, or maybe she thinks you smell?