I had a roommate that I lived with for almost two years. We really didn't know each other, because we only had class together one semester at college. I was having problems with my dad one night, and out of no where she calls me and asks if I wanted to move in with her. It all started out fine, for the first year. She had a fiance and everything. During the second year we began to get on each other's nerves, as most roommates do, but we tried to work it out. Just when I thought it was fine, she starts letting one of her "friends" spend the night every night at our house. This went on for two months. Around last Christmas she broke her engagement off with her boyfriend of 6 years and decided to tell me she "might" be gay and the girl who had been pretty much living with us was her girlfriend!! Anyway, I decided to move out, not because my roommate told me she might be gay, but bc her friend did not pay one single dime for two months. When I finally moved out, I told my roommat
2007-03-22 06:59:22 · 18 answers · asked by hapigrl85 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
e that her girlfriend needed to pay the last month's worth of utilities instead of me since I have been paying for her to live with us. She didn't think that was fair, since she was spending the nights in her room, she didn't have a room of her own. Keep in mind, my roommate never even asked me first to have her friend stay with us, then she lied and told me reason she was living with us was because her "friend" was having problems with her former boyfriend she lived with! It is one big Jerry Springer mess, that I did not want to get involved with! Bottom line, do you think it was wrong for me ask my roommate's girlfriend to pay for one month's worth of utilites, before I left?
By the way, I live on my own now and I love it and probably will never get a roommate again!
2007-03-22 07:02:42 · update #1
I can't see no way in the world you were wrong! You saw something was not going right and you were caught in the middle! You are right. You were to share the costs of living with your roommate, not help support her friend who was doing nothing on her own!! You were SMART!! There is a world out there and you are on your own to find it to make yourself happy!!
2007-03-22 07:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because her and her girlfriend share a room doesn't mean the girlfriend never uses the water, electricity or gas.
of course she should cough up some money. she is saving an awful lot of it not having to pay any rent. and what are utilities costing nowadays... 50 bucks? thats not very much for 2 months of free loading. since you live on your own now anyways there is no reason to even talk to these girls anymore. they can deal with the mess they got themselves in together.
2007-03-22 14:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you communicate your concerns regarding the rent payment earlier before you moved out? If you didn't like this girl living there for two months why didn't you say something earlier? Did you give your roommate a notice before moving? It seems like you are trying to avoid drama, which I can't blame you. However on the other hand it seems like this was a great excuse for you to get out of the situation.
2007-03-22 14:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lenka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong at all. People should pay for their side of the rent. You have the right to live wherever you want for whatever reason. She also should have told you about her romance just to see if yo would be uncomfortable at all.
You are not in the wrong. Forrget this and get a ubercool new place!
2007-03-22 14:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by ARGH! (Usually a sunny person) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The agreement was between your roommate & you, not her girlfriend. You should have just told the roommate. You are right that the girlfriend should pay her share. But maybe your roommate & her had another oral agreement, in which you should have been involved in.
2007-03-22 14:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't say you're in the wrong at all... It wasn't fair what position she put you in when you had to pay your share of rent and food. I'm sure her friend was mooshing on your food too while she was there...
The rent should have been split three ways if she was seriously thinking of being serious with this girl.
Anyway, hope you have better arrangements now... you deserve it.
2007-03-22 14:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by ButterflyBride 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea. The last thing you need is that freeloader of a friend around. It will just be nothing but aggravation. Good call to get out while you're still sane.
2007-03-22 20:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends because if you found somewhere else to be then no you are not wrong, you don't want to be miserable when you are going home, a home is a place where you can relax not a place you don't feel comfortable. Well i say you did the right thing.
2007-03-22 14:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are deffinatly not in the wrong... infact i would of left a while ago.
P.s are you in university as they can often put you in urrgent accomadation if needed. Hope it all works out for you
Alec
2007-03-22 14:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good thing you did move out, your roommate might have wanted a threesome.
2007-03-22 14:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋