the children are usually crying when I show up, and he denies doing it. (alzheimers)
what can I do? I just cant jail him up, id feel terrible!
2007-03-22 06:53:35 · 7 answers · asked by Beastmaster 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He needs round the clock care. You need to get him a home health care nurse to watch him when you are not there. Or you need to put him in a nursing home.
You cannot continue to let him roam around. He'll get hurt, lost and possibly die without someone to always watch him.
2007-03-22 06:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, you could be reported to Adult Protective Services for leaving your father in a very dangerous situation. Your best bet is to call APS and tell them you need some help dealing with a parent with Alzheimer's. They don't try to split families apart, they try to offer resources to help families.
You don't say how old your father is, which makes a big difference in the types of services for which he is eligible.
Be a good responsible son, protect him; take him to the doctor for a check-up and tell the doctor what is going on. He should be able to refer you to a Social Services agency that can help you.
It sounds like your father either needs to be in an adult day care center while you aren't home, or needs to have caregivers available to watch over him. You say you can't jail him up (not that you have to) because you'll feel terrible. But the day you come home and find out he's been hit by a car or lost and injured, you will feel worse. Sometimes we need to do things we don't want to in order to protect those we love. Your father is in serious need of intervention.
2007-03-22 14:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know people with Alzheimer don't really know exactly what they are doing or where they are. But you must be careful when watching them so they won't hurt them selves. It's hard because you feel like he's grown and he can care for himself but he can't. Now about the kids, maybe he thinks he's a kid again or having some type of flashback. Now some other people in this world could think he could be using this disease as a excuse to mess with little kids. I'm not saying that but I'm just letting you know how other people can think. That's scary you can have your right state of mind one min then gone the next. So it pretty much seems as though you need to get some help to come and sit with him during the day. Insurance should cover home health care.
2007-03-22 14:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by missk102 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When Alzheimer Patients reach a certain point they need around the clock supervision. My daddy had
the disease and we were lucky enough to have a large enough family to share the responsibility. Dad had always loved children and chances are your dad did too. So that is probably why he goes to the school yard. But the little kids don't understand so that would scare them. One person can not take care of your father by their self. Check with your local health program to see what is offered because there is help out there. I wish you good luck with your dad . It's a very sad situation because its almost like you lose them twice. One when their mind goes and when they really pass away. God bless!
2007-03-22 14:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire someone from your family or someone you trust to seniorsit him. My great grandmother had full stages of alzheimers when I was in high school and my grandmother hired me to babysit (basically) her for the summer. It was round the clock care and I was paid well. I lived with my great grandmother in her house during that time. But you can hire someone for the hours you are gone. Pay them just as you would a babysitter, by the hour or whatever. It's either that or you will have to hire a nurse. You CANNOT leave him alone anymore!! Before he hurts himself or someone else by accident.
You can also take him to an adult daycare. He will be well taken care of... check them out thoroughly before you decide on which one. You can also get some referrals.
2007-03-22 14:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by deedee4u 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to have a caregiver stay with him during the day. He is not safe to be alone so if you cannot find someone to watch him during the day then consider looking into adult day care for him or considered and assisted living facility.
2007-03-22 13:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
either get someone to come take care of him during the day or enroll him in a day program for adults. some day he might not stop at the preschool and you'll never see him again.
2007-03-22 14:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋