I know most mothers are kind and loving. Absolutely, only few mothers are too selfish to love her daughters. So, I'm asking a small population of those in this situation - Does it hurt deeply? Does the hurt last a life-time? How do you cope with it? How do you forgive your mother?
2007-03-22 06:33:47 · 10 answers · asked by latebloomer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it hurts deeply! The hurt does last forever...you cope with it by learning to accept them for who they are and expecting nothing more. Time, change , life, growth & maturity help you to forgive, but you never forget!
2007-03-22 06:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never received a mothers love , she always gave love to my brothers and then my daughter , i had to sit on the side lines and watch and it was pain full , you always seem to look for something that you know you Will never get , eventually you wake up and turn a corner and begin to stop looking , i am 38 and its just happened to me , after another bust up , i decided that was it , the best decision i have ever made only wish i done it sooner the problem is there not yours , i finally feel free and that's a good feeling no contact is lovely as you are not feeling the rejection all the tome , you will reach that point and turn the corner the only answer is when and only you will know when
2007-03-22 06:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by sprookey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts if you allow it to.
You never get over it.
Everyone has to find his or her own way to cope.
Why forgive her? She doesn't know that what she is doing or not doing has any effect on me. She doesn't get it.
I must add that those who have been adopted and have the mistaken idea that their birth mother "didn't want them" need to back up and review the situation. Some mothers weren't given an option. They were told to give up the child for adoption. In most cases, it worked well for the child. Some mothers who were unwed and not in stable financial situations felt it was best to give the child to someone who could care for it. There are very few mothers who gave up their children because they didn't want them.
2007-03-22 06:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are afraid of the truth because they do not want to see that there might have been a dark side of adoption. I think people want to believe its a good thing. Right now, I believe its too corrupt. If you add foster care adoption, international adoption and domestic infant adoption, its a multi-billion dollar business per year. Its hard for an adoptee to hear that they were coerced out of their parents. Its hard for an adoptive parent to hear that the child that they adopted was stolen from their parents. Its easier for them to reject the truth. I wonder what the children of Camira, Allison, Cody, Stephanie, Shawn, Joshua, Matt, Brynden, Bryce, Ibby, Craig, and the other nameless parents will say when they find out that they fought for their children. Being a child of that situation, I know that ticks me off. People need to answer to me about it. People will need to answer to those children as well.
2016-03-17 00:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
motherly love is as important as fatherly love. When its not received it can hurt very badly and it can have repercussions. Some people get over it and some people just dont want anything to do with her.
2007-03-22 06:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts real bad.
Mum seems to favour sisters more than me and I think the reasons are quite lame. They are more beautiful and knows how to do or say things to please her; and as if it isn't enough, she even seems to favour their children more than mine.
Well, I just have to move on. I guess time will heal all wound. I don't know whether i will learn to forgive her but definitely, I learn NOT to be like her.
2007-03-22 06:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by Celia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it hurst and it never goes away, is sad but true, the best way to deal with this is to not think about it.
2007-03-22 06:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom never got it, my uncle got it all. She knows her mom loved her, but was much more all about my uncle. My mom has taken pills and seen shrinks since before I was born. She treated all of us equally.
2007-03-22 06:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you think!!!? OMG!!! There is nothing that can compare to motherly love! I'm sure it hurts like hell not to be nurtured by amom
2007-03-22 06:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Corey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been through that situation,and to tell you the truth it was not easy, have you ever gone to her and told her that you love her and express your most deep loving affection to her come on she is your mom. also she could have problemsand try to take it out on you tell me what happens. i know its hard but i had to do that and she ended up telling me why she was acting like that
2007-03-22 07:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by nick t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋