answer honestly please?

Question

i have never had a boyfriend or been on a date because I homeschooled through highschool, am i a looser? be honest. do you have any advice for me??

Answer 1

No you are not a loser. You will meet people in college, I promise. If you want to meet people, you could volunteer somewhere or get a part time job where you can meet other people with your interests. You'll be fine, we all develop at different rates.

Answer 2

You are NOT a loser. You just had a different path than most folk, and that's ok. Going to a public school does not guarantee that a person goes on a date or doesn't have a boy/girlfriend, either. There are plenty of highschoolers who have never had a bf/gf or a date. SO - not only are you NOT a loser...you are not unusual either.

My advice would be to just be patient. Do you go to church? A youth group? Those are excellent places to meet people and expand your horizons. A well-formed church has highschool/young adult programs that can keep you busy and around other people. Some of them boys/young men who have a heart for God and living a healthy life. And as far as I'm concerned, there's nothing more encouraging than a young man with a heart for God.

Getting active in something like this - outside of the protection of your home could be really good for you. It will allow you to learn how to "meet" people, give you more chances to practice your people skills and open up the door for more/different friendships. Then, once you feel more confident about yourself, you will probably find that a boyfriend will enter the picture.

You'll find what you're looking for. Just give yourself a little time and patience.

Answer 3

Of course you're not a looser my dear...the fact that you haven't been on a date and you haven't had a boyfriend doesn't mean anything!!! Just go out and be yourself...don't be "fake".... and i'm sure you'll find a boyfriend...and if it takes a long time for you to find a boyfriend don't feel ugly, unattractive or something like that...just remember that good things are usually late but that's what makes them better...
Good luck
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Answer 4

You aren't a looser or a loser either. You didn't say how old you are - parents have a limit on how soon their children can start dating. You will have plenty of time to date in your life, and there will be some point when you will probably wish you never started dating. Don't try to rush your life away - regardless of how old you are you won't be that age for long.

Answer 5

No, you're not a loser at all. I didn't have my first bf till I was 17 - my senior year in high school - because I just didn't find the right guy. My best friend and her siblings were homeschooled, and she has had a couple of boyfriends and so have her sisters. Maybe you could go out for some activity you're interested in - ice skating, karate, etc - and you may find someone you like there ;)

Answer 6

Not a loser but i would say being sheltered through out highschool means college kind of shock you but that is ok many people are homeschooled, some people have gone on first dates at ages of 25 some have at ages of 7 just depends who you are

Answer 7

No you're not a loser. Just get out there girl. Go to the mall or something? Call up one of your friends and have them hook you up with one of there boyfriends [single] friends for a date.. Get to know them better or something. It'd be fun. Like a double date though, so you feel more comfortable. Dress casual so you don't feel so pressured that it's a date and freak out and say something that'd scare you... or him off.

Have your friend help you get ready.. so she can tell you the plans a head of time. A lot of kids are homeschooled and have this problem.. but honestly... a lot of kids in public schools have never been kissed, or out on a date.

Things like that, and your situation don't define as "loser" material. To me a loser is someone who goes beyond the control of it all... and tries to put others down.

Lots of people don't start dating until there twenties or thirties!
And lots of people don't even get that chance.. but there is still time for them. As there is for you.

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Answer 8

you are not a looser, it just means you have to work harder at the social thing. Volunteer someplace that you love like a vet, or an animal hospital, or the hospital and rock babies or the disabled or elderly, this is a great place to meet new people and you know they must be good if they volunteer their spare time to help others. Try it, you will be happy with the results. Take care Heather

Answer 9

Oh I feel your pain!! I homeschooled as well. I didn't get my first kiss till I was 18. But seriously, it turned out to be a good thing.

It made me more "special" to date, I was more "innocent" than the other girls my age and gave me a better chance of dating some of the men that I liked.

I swear, when you are in your 20's, what happened high school doesn't matter so much anymore.

Answer 10

I am 16, have been in public high school and never had a boyfriend.

Does that make you feel a little better?

Of course you are no loser! A girl doesn't NEED a man to make them cool or complete. Sure, it looks like fun and it's natural to want it. But you can be your own person and continue being you and you'll just find that guy.

My friend told me to stay on my path and just keep living...then someone else doing the same will collide with me. I believe I have strayed too much, but it's not too late. It will happen for me and for you.

We're not losers. We're just so good that we won't settle for less than the best.

:)

Feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk to someone!

Answer 11

No, you are not a loser, your social network is different, which can be a good thing.

I suggest that you go on group dates with a bunch of your friends.... they are more popular overseas, until you are comfortable enough to go out on a date with just your boyfriend or a double date.

If it makes you feel better, I didn't have my first (what I consider) true date until I was 26, kind of unusual in this day and age for a guy (don't you think?)