Why does my Step Mom hate me??

Question

My dad and mom devorced when i was 6. My dad remarried about 7 years ago. His new wift April seemed real sweet and was my favorite babysitter for a long time. there is a 15 year age difference between the two of them, and a 12 year difference between her and i. I've alwaysed lived with my dad. Things havent ever been good with us after they were married but recently her hatred towards me has grown. She kicked me out in october w/o my dad knowing. Cleaned out my room no seets towels shower curtains light bulbs bed side tables NOTHING. My dad and April also have a 3 year old son. I quit talking to my dad and april in December to so i could heal myself mentally and emotionally. I talked to my dad and went and visited my dad and little brother about a week ago and April was flying (shes a flight attendent). When she called and was told that i was there she flipped. I've done nothing but try my hardest to please her. I even changed who i was to be more like her. but nothin works

Answer 1

You should not have been kicked out of your home unbeknownst to your dad. You really need to sit him down and talk to him about everything, and after that sit both of them down and voice your opinion. You did not mention your age, but if you are under age 18 you should be at home with your father. If you are over the age of 18 maybe you should be on your own. Either way, the relationship between your father and yourself chould never be compromised because he chose to marry someone who isnt keen to you.

After you talk to him and are able to get the 2 of them together, get everything laid out on the table. Find out what the real deal is with her. Let them know you are not trying to break up their marriage but you really want them to recognize that you are part of the family too and deserve to be respected. Use "I" statements and dont back down!

Answer 2

What does your dad think about everything? He sounds like he is being passice and letting her do what she wants or he would have helped you move back in. Some people just hate others. Thats the way my stepdad was and I moved out at 3 am my 18th bday. All you really can do is go to her and ask her straight up what her problem is with you and try to talk it out if she has the sense to talk and listen. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Never change who you are for anyone.

With that said, it's unlikely that your stepmother hates you. Step relationships are difficult for everyone, but especially for the kids. You need to have a heart to heart talk with your Dad and tell him how you feel and what you need. If he cannot (or will not) provide you with a safe, loving home to live in, then you should stay with your Mom and not visit your Dad anymore.

Answer 4

Don't change or cater to that witch, because that's what she is. She broke up your family and now is trying to separate you from your dad. What she's doing basically is alienating your dad from his former family, because she is a selfish, husband stealing b*tch. It's time for you to get angry and put that hussy in her place. You're the daughter. You're his flesh and blood. She is nothing but a mosquito on your butt right now. Time for you to swoop that hand down and squish her. Start being more assertive and don't be afraid to tell her what she is or where to go. Don't let her intimidate you. You must intimidate her.

Answer 5

You could always try to talk to your stepmom about why she has issues with you, but at the same time, it sounds like it's better to focus on your relationship with your dad. If you feel like you're now healed, try to accept your dad and his limitations and move past any concerns you have about your stepmom. You might just have to mourn the loss of the stepmom you'll never have meaning that this situation could never improve and you'll have to accept that. Focus on the positives, like your father and your half brother.

Answer 6

You must have done something for April to do this turnaround on you. Or have you just reached the age where you should be on your own? You should tell your dad everything that April has done to you, as he needs to know. Don't try to be like her, be yourself.

Answer 7

I don't have a good answer for you. Are you of age to live on your own?

Sometimes people aren't willing to take on a family when they marry into one. It sucks but it's there.

If you're old enough to be on your own than I say F**k her. Talk to your Dad, tell him what happened. Be strong about it and don't back down.

But above all, stop changing yourself to please her. She's the one with the problem.

--Lee Ann

Answer 8

she may be jealous of the relationship you have with your Dad. I would continue to see your Dad and brother and she will just have to deal with it. Why should you change to please her and why should you give up your family just because she doesn't like it. Unless she can tell you why she has turned on you, ignore her, I aslo would talk to your Dad about the situation and be very up front and honest with him, he really needs to know what is going on and how this ha s hurt you.

Answer 9

Your stepmom is may have been your baby-sitter just to get close to your dad, and when they married you were no longer needed. You were seen as being in the way. When she flipped out because you were at the house of your father, it is because she felt threaten that you would destroy the world she created; a world that could not exist if you were still living is the house. At that very point, though He is always there, the Bible says in Psalms 27:10: "When my father and mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me." Take this time to truly get closer to God and allow Him to fight your battles. He knows what you are going through and wants to make things right in you life but you have to let Him! But you have to ask God forgiveness thru the Blood of Jesus Christ and your must, I repeat, you must forgive your father and step-mother for all they have done to you. Show them unconditional love as God shows to us and trust me God will do.."exceedingly, abundantly, above all that we could ask or think according to the power that works in us."<--That power is forgiveness, faith, and above all love.

Trust in God and allow Him to work things out in your favor!!
God Bless

Answer 10

Hey man. Please realize that you can't change the psycho. Live for yourself at the moment. Keep trying to maintain the relationship with your dad. Make sure she doesn't drive a wedge between you two. Good luck.