Ok...I'm in a committed relationship with a great guy. But we've been together for a long time so what were sparks are now flickers :) I guess it's normal...
But there's a new guy in our circle who seems interested in me -- He does weird things like stare at me across the room and then turn away as soon as I look.
The other day he asked me to dance (he's a good dancer) and then he dipped me!
So am I so desparate that I'm imagining the interest?
And even if there is any...why do I feel so guilty?
I would never leave my current partner and I should probably just enjoy the attention while it lasts, right?
2007-03-22 06:01:31 · 10 answers · asked by Lana K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well... it happens to the best of us... new person comes in, all mysterious, interested in you etc... but you have to remember, mr. dancer there is just your everyday temptation, they come and go... and you dont know his true intentions.
Your great guy there, he's there for you, he's been there for you and he loves you.... he might not be as mysterious as he used to be cause you know him all too well, but you know that he is yours.
you should go to ur guy, and spark up some romance with a surprise candle light dinner or something, make things exciting again ;)
forget about mr. dancer, he might just be a player... not worth the risk to lose ur man.
2007-03-22 06:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by almostdeadman1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this why women think all men are just dogs. Ladies you have to understand some men are not as smart as your are and we don't understand signals ( signals this is all men by the way). If your not getting the same attention that use in the begging of the relationship you should tell us. Because after a while we think that we don't have to impress you anymore and we get comfortable with you, so we stop doing the things that we use to do for you. If your man is creative he will find ways to make those sparks again. But you should really tell him that you don't feel the same as you use too and he needs to pick up his game. Or you will lose interest in the end. Good Luck
2007-03-22 06:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The great myth of modern society is that you can be attracted and in love with only one person.
To find life long pair bonding in the animal kingdom is rare, to find those that also don't cheat some (and it's found that even the most monogamous birds often cheat - found through DNA testing), is rare.
Some humans are both monogamous and have no desire to stray once pair bonded. Many do.
With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think it's for the reasons people assume (just sex or for the thrills, etc).
In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.
Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people, IMO. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two choices. In over 80% of the cultures active today, polyandry (having more than one wife) is acceptable. Monogamy isn't the norm than westerners think or wish it to be.
I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). My wife can have her own ourside relationships as well. Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.
For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.
I've always wondered why people find cheating (breaking the rules) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.
2007-03-22 06:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls love attention, so probably your current partner did not give you the attention you want, and now are looking for more attention. But, if the guy is interested in you then you might have some problem wit you guy. Becareful and dont let it affect the relationship
2007-03-22 06:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by dennys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your boyfriend. Anybody who would pursue you, even though you are already in a relationship, is not someone that you want to be with. Just my opinion.
2007-03-22 06:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because you are asking yourself so many useless questions. Distance yourself from this guy.... Hes not your boyfriend
2007-03-22 06:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Scared 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um..no. How would you like it if your man was getting some one one one attention from some hot chick? Karma's a bytch.
2007-03-22 06:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by Spare me your bull 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're married, DO NOT CHEAT EVER! If you're not married, you better get it out of your system before you do get married. Good luck, better now than later.
2007-03-22 06:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by KidBao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were really committed, you wouldn't be confused.
2007-03-22 06:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
never say never
2007-03-22 06:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋