A few days ago, I totally screwed up while drunk & flirted w/ another guy right in front of my bf (I don't know why & really stupid of me).I love my bf & don't want to be w/ anyone else. He was mad & I felt super bad so I apologized perfusely the next day.When I came home, he was acting nice & like he had forgiven me.The next day, we were talking abt going out for coffee to talk abt our relationship - a plan we've had for like 2 weeks.Tonight someone at work is leaving & people are going out.He's mad that I'm going out cuz he feels that I am not making it a priority to go for coffee w/ him.We didn't have any definate plans to go specifically today and the person at work is leaving tomorrow.When we spoke I had told him later in the week was fine to go so I sorta left the ball in his court.Now he's mad & claims that he wanted to go for coffee cuz of what I did & to resolve it.But I don't get it cuz we've been planning on it before I did that stupid thing.Am I wrong to hold my ground?
2007-03-22 05:54:38 · 21 answers · asked by Main 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly he's being way passive-aggressive. He picked today because you had other plans, and he wants you to feel guilty and cancel plans to be with him so he can feel like you still care.
What I would do is invite him along to the leaving party and then offer to go have coffee with him after. He'll see that you're willing to compromise and then he'll look like an idiot if he tries to stand firm on the today or don't you care because you're willing to be with him today.
Make sense?
Good Luck,
--Lee Ann
p.s. I hope it works out.
2007-03-22 06:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lee Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you really need to ask yourself whats more important your relationship or a party? if you want this to work you have to put all of yourself into it. im glad you were and stand up person and admited you made a mistake but now you need to prove to him that hes more important than any thing. if you love him he should always come first especially when he may be feeling a little threatened due to your behavior. this is your life and if being with him is what you want say goodbye to your friend at work during the day and start the rest of your life with him and have a great time. at least you have a man willing to talk dont loose that! good luck hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-22 06:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by bigmommanova 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I read it right, I think if you guys made plans to go out and discuss things and then you decided to go out with the others because a coworker was leaving, yes that was wrong because it shows that your talk and the relationship to fix it isn't a priority. So rightfully so, he's mad. If I'm wrong and my answer is wrong because of how I interpreted your question , I apologize in advance.
2007-03-22 06:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one!
Since compromise is part of a relationship, on one hand, you should go with him and take care of the problem.
But, the compromise goes both ways! So, since your friend is leaving and that can't be changed, he should be the one this time doing the compromising. You could go for coffee afterward if there is time, or the next day.
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2016-10-01 08:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to coffee with him. If the person leaving work is a friend and isn't moving to another state or anything, then you can Wait and go out w/ them later!
2007-03-22 05:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by ParisLynn16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps doubting you, he is lacking a bit in trust. Try to establish a date where you two can actually go for the cup of coffee. Because if this were happen to me, i would think that tonight would be that time...but then if it keeps getting postponed i wouldnt be too happy, cause then that can turn into a habbit.
2007-03-22 06:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by dennys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a quick solution, invite the ******* to go out with you and the ppl that are leaving, he needs to get over himself (thats what u want to hear, NOW HERE'S WHAT I REALLY WANT TO SAY)
Why is it when ppl like u two have a good thing going and one fucks it up and hurts the other, the one who gets hurt finds time to schedule a "make-up" session the other one "has something to do otherwise", u don't seem serious about wanting him to 4give u. if it was me, i would have to put off whatever it is, REMEMBR: those ppl are LEAVING, the boyfriend is here to STAY(HOPEFULLY!!!)
2007-03-22 06:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by kamarla_phillips06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong. Now he has th eimage of you flirting right in front of him, now he's probably imagining what you do when he's not there with you. Poor guy, you should just break up with him and save him the agony of thinking about what you're doing. Now he's probably always gonna be suspicous, it's all ruined now. So you better suck up like crazy and DO NOT be stubborn, give in.
2007-03-22 06:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by KidBao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you do both? See him for Coffee and then you guys should go out to you're co-workers thing...
If not then I would stay with him and work it out...
If I really wanted to make it work with him I'd definetly have coffee.
If not then I'd go out...knowing the risk of loosing him.
2007-03-22 05:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋