What kind of wedding?

Question

I've been engaged for almost a year. We haven't set a date yet, but we're talking about in the next year or 2. I thought all girls knew every detail of their wedding till I tried to decided what I want to do. (Google the word wedding and you'll see what I mean). This is were you all can help me. I want your opinion. Should we...
Elope. Just me and my man run off to a beautiful place and make a weekend of it.
Have a small intimate wedding. Run off with just our closest family and make a weekend out of it.
Get married at the court house and have a reception with alot of our friends and family immediately following the "I do."
I'm open for any kind of advice you're willing to give.

Just cause we've been engaged for a year doesn't mean I don't want to marry him. (We've dated for 4 years.) My cousin waited like 9 years before they got married. Do you know how expensive a wedding is? And I've already talk to him. He doesn't care what we do. As long as it's nothing big.

You people are reading to much into my question. I know it's what WE want to do. I'm just want your OPINION on this. Read weddrev and that's what I want!

Answer 1

I would not elope. It's tempting to elope to escape the costs and stresses of planning a wedding, but to me a wedding isn't just about joining together two people, it's also about having those nearest and dearest to you be there to celebrate that union.

I would also not run off with closest family. It's a nice idea, but it also means that you're planning from another location, which can be tricky. It also means that your family is on top of you for the whole weekend, which can be stressful.

I personally would hire a justice of peace or a minister to perform a small ceremony in a casual but nice place. Perhaps a park or someone's backyard. Then I'd have a medium sized party to celebrate with friends and family. There's so many different ways to plan this, you have a lot of options. Outside under a tent? In a restaurant? Or a unique location? The feel of the day will be personal and intimate if you keep it to the smaller-medium sized group, and you'll escape a lot of the stresses of a wedding.

Answer 2

When your child is born you envision their life, including their wedding. However you decide to wed, don't exclude your parents from this experience, if you still have them.

You could have a small wedding, at many places, with family & close friends that would be intimate, nice & not break the bank. You & your fiance need to decide exactly what you HAVE to have, set a budget & work within that parameter. Usually the greatest expense is the reception. If you do the legwork you can save a bundle. And if recruit the help of family & friends all the better.

To find an officiant type into Yahoo your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's' on the end) You will have a few to choose from, usually on the 2nd page. The larger bridal sites seem to get top billing. If you do go to the bridal sites, please visit the site of someone you think you might like. Those bridal sites make vendors & officiants pay for your contact info so you may not hear back from someone you'd hoped.

Answer 3

You have so many choices! I think having it at the courthouse and having a reception with everyone afterward is fine. People like the party part the most anyway! What I did was elope (no one knows yet, and I totally understand about being engaged for a long time, we've been together a long time too!) and I am planning a wedding here and another in Taiwan. Anyway, I think having your friends and family around is probably most important... if you don't feel comfortable saying vows in front of a lot of people, just invite your closest family members (mom and dad) to be there.

Answer 4

Well, you are actually not officially engaged because you don't have a wedding date yet? However...
Go with door number three. Part of the specialness about a wedding is celebrating with family and friends. Have them there to witness the ceremony, and then celebrate at a fabulous reception with lots of good food and music.
If you read around this site a bit, you find a lot of girls who kind of regret eloping, and having that family wedding thing.

Answer 5

don't feel bad - i was engaged for 5 years before we got married. we were about to start college so we decided to wait until after we graduated to get married. it worked out great for us. we have been together for 9 years now :)

now onto your question...

there are sooooooo many options out there. i actually had the wedding and reception at the same location right on the water. it was a great location. we got married outside and the reception was inside.

if you are concerned with the cost consider getting married on a sunday, you usually get a discount. also an afternoon reception is usually cheaper than a night one.

i'd first set a date and then search out places you want the wedding at.

best wishes!

Answer 6

My advice is to have a very small wedding with just family...Send announcements to everyone else....and take the money that you would have spent on that "talk of the town" wedding that will be over with before you know it and have a fantastic honeymoon and save money for a new home...
You can still have a beautiful dress and definitely pic's and a small reception...you could even have a private wedding for family ..then follow with a bigger reception and invite who you wanted...This was what we did for my daughter as the venue was small and could only accommodate 25 people....Myself I went to Vegas and that was nice also....Leave the courthouse to someone else...just sounds so cold and meaningless...
Congratulations and best wishes....

Answer 7

Well honestly this is a personal question. I mean what is more appealing to you? Do you want a small intimate wedding or a larger wedding. Personally i prefer to share the occasion with family and friends, so we're having a larger reception. But, if my fiance and I were alone, and didn't have family or friends that we wanted to invite, we'd probably get married somewhere tropical on the beach. I mean whatever you like. This is something you and your fiance have to talk about together. Good luck!

Answer 8

I think you & your future hubby should talk about what you BOTH want. Marriage is about two people coming together because they are in love. Usually the girl is always deciding every single last detail of the wedding because it's "her day", but in reality it's a day for both of you to share together.
Talk it over w/ your hubby and you'll find out what his take is on the whole situation, he might not even care or he might actually want to be helpful & get invoolved. =)

I would personally suggest that you have an intimate wedding w/your closest friends & family. =)

Answer 9

I got married in 2006 and if I could have done things over again, I would have gone to San Francisco to my fave spot in the entire world and got married there. I would have only invited my family and close friends but made sure they knew they had to pay the flight and hotel. If they couldnt make it, they couldnt make it. I loved by big wedding but at the end of the night, I barely remembered the entire evening. I would have loved just an intimate setting and be done with it. Be sure to do what your heart is telling you.

Answer 10

Do YOU know how expensive a wedding is?? Appearantly not. Your wedding can be as expensive as you want it. My sister and I both got married the same year. She spent well over $20,000 (she even took out a loan). I spent anywhere around $2,500. We had the same guests. She had a church wedding, I had a church wedding. My mom made her dress, my mom made my dress. She had a mexican dinner, I had a mexican dinner. She had a nice hall, I had a nice hall. She had a dance, I had a dance. My aunt made her cake, my aunt made my cake. Our wedding was for the most part very similar. But I worked on a budget and she went all out without checking prices.

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