iam 26 years old and i want a baby so badly..i speak english and my husband speaks german...we live in his german speaking country...he wants our baby first words to be german. but i am the mother and i speak english...
right now i am taking a german speaking course but its going a bit slow....i want a baby now because i do want to have my children young and i just want to be a mother..i have very good experience with children and i also have a certificate in child care.
he says our child will be slow at school if i dont know german, that we should wait until i learn...
is he right? because i dont want to wait..we have a very big house and no children.
2007-03-22 05:46:24 · 9 answers · asked by girly 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
He is right. If you children will be raised in Germany they will teach them English in school. Most all Germans also speak English. You need to adjust to your husband's country and take his advice. If he does not want a child now then you need to concentrate on learning German to be able to communicate with people around you. We have some friends who have a child; the mother speaks German to the child and the Father speaks Spanish; the child speaks English in school and she in only 5 years old.
2007-03-22 05:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband does not want a baby you should listen because the ones that want one usually loose interest fast when they see the work involved. I find the language excuse weird because who would not want their child to speak English in today's world. Different languages are hard to learn for adults what if you have not learned in five years is there a cutoff point that he will agree to if you are not fluent in German? People use all kinds of excuses to not have children you should let him know how much you want a child and if he won't comprise you might need to move on because he might never be ready.
2007-03-22 06:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by shannactmr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you got pregnant now...you would still have nine months to work on your German. If your husband will be around the baby a lot, set it up so he only speaks German to the baby and you only speak English. Then your child should be able to grow up bilingual.
I had a friend who's mother was Korean and she only spoke Korean in the home. All her children spoke perfect English (as well as Korean).
2007-03-22 05:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is wrong... how many years until a kid ACTUALLY goes to school? five.
i grew up with bilingual parents. my mother spoke spanish and my father spoke english.... i didn't grow up only knowing spanish.
i think your situation is actually better than most couples where one couple would speak german/english and the other only one of the two languages.
in your situation the child WILL have to learn german and WILL have to learn english. the child will be extremly young and the younger the better it is to learn languages.
also, your living in germany.. more exposure.
AND, i am going to guess your husbands family lives there who speaks german as well and will most likely be spending alot of time with the child as well....
i grew up being able to do both languages equally.
i can write/read/talk both languages since i was little..
talk to your husband about this possibility and how the child would have FIVE years to enter school..
and through those five years you will be continuing your german classes.
go for it...
2007-03-22 05:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by pinkfuzza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the child would be bilingual if you spoke english and german to it. Young children have an amazxing capacity for language. Your skill with the local lingo will have nothing to do with your child's skill.
2007-03-22 06:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 08:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this should have been a conversation you had before you got married. Since that's not possible, you're going to have to compromise. If you want that baby soon, get to learning some German quickly and efficiently or you're going to be one of those late boomers.
2007-03-22 06:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if both parents speak one language that would better for the child for school however I speak many languages and I love it!
It wont make the child slower in school. that's just silly.
If you want a child now than you need to get ready for a child psychically.
2007-03-22 05:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you are 26yrs. and you are young and you need to explain to your husband that you want the baby to learn boyh languages and its just not his baby
2007-03-22 05:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋