one of my freinds admitted (while very very drunk) that he has slept with his step sister! i always knew he thought she was hot and thought nothing of it, but i think thats a step too far even though theyre not blood relatives. i asked him about it again and for a while he tried to caver it up, but the truth has come out that its happened more than once. the worst thing was they were only 15 the first time!
i find it hard to be freinds with him ever since, what should i do, forget about it (i think it might actually still be goin on) or tell him that its sick?
2007-03-22 05:39:39 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes they were brought up together since they were 12 or 13
2007-03-22 05:48:43 · update #1
i want to make it clear that i don't neccesarily think its sick, just thinking of what it could do to his family, reputation and social life. if it were to get out his life could be ruined!
2007-03-22 06:01:59 · update #2
God's truth there's nothing wrong with it.
My ex in laws took it one step farther.
My ex husbands older sister married her step brother. Their younger half-sister and brother are referred to as "full" aunt and uncle because they're related to their nephews on BOTH sides.
Still, they aren't related by blood... what if they had hit it off and been dating and their parents hadn't even met.
--Lee Ann
2007-03-22 05:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lee Ann 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take this into consideration---I know a young couple that fell in love and got married. Well, the bride's mom was single, and the groom's dad was single, they met and fell in love and got married. How weird is that? Seems kinda weird for step-siblings to be married, but in this case, the kids were together before the parents were! While it may seem weird, it could be worse. Technically, they are not related so there's really not anything wrong with it. Its really not any different for step-siblings to marry or have sex than it is for any two random unrelated people. The only time it might be really weird and possibly not a good idea is if they have been step-siblings since they were both tiny children or babies and were raised together as brother and sister from the start. That could cause family issues.
2007-03-22 05:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said step sister and you also said that they are not blood relatives. So, I'm assuming different mom and different dad for the two of them. As they don't have any blood relationship, even if they have a kid together, its not considered incest and there should be no problems with the kid's health. The only real problem I see is that they are way too young to be having sex. Starting at 15? Way too young...... I would advise him to tell his parents because if the relationship is serious and if something does happen, they can help. If they really want to get married (assuming they're 18 or older now) I think they need to make sure that the two kids are under two different last names. IE, both of them follow the paternal father. Legally, I'm pretty sure there is no big issue.
2007-03-22 05:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by TMemories 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is sick, personally. It's not as though they are related - their parents are married, but otherwise there is no blood tie. I think it's surprising it doesn't happen more often, with so many extended families around.
The disturbing thing is that they slept together when they were 15!
I'd forget about it - it's none of yoru business. Maybe they'll get married one day and have lots of little babies.
By the way - all those adopted children and babies that are the result of some forms of ivf - they have no idea who their brothers and sisters are!
2007-03-22 05:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put it behind you. He is your friend and it is entirely up to him who he sleeps with (Although, I have two step brothers and eeewwww!! Never think of them like that!!!) I know it is weird but, he is your friend and I bet he has been dying to tell someone and talk about it and he trusted you (Unless he is bragging, which is wrong!!) It is just something you know about him so let it go. It has nothing to do with you at the end of the day but I can understand why it would freak you out. If it is too much for you to handle then cutting the friendship may be the only way. I understand you may never look at him in the same way again but its done now and you just have to try and get over it.
2007-03-22 06:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. They are not related. Don't think of them as brother and sister they are not.
If the case was that the father/mother remarried when your friend was 3 and living with the step sister for 12 years then they would be close to brother and sister closeness, and that would be wierd.
If the case was that they remarried when you friend was 13/14 and he has only been in the home for a years or 2 together then they are not brother and sister close. I was in this situation.
2007-03-22 05:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is too terrible since they are not blood related. They were both curious about sex and intamacy at the time since they were 15. they both probably regret it and wouldnt do it again after the embarrassing encounter because they know more about sex and are older.
Talk to him to find out if its still going on, because if it is, even though they aren't blood related they shouldnt be doing it. Its very risky.
If your friend wont talk about it and just shrugs it off, tell him that you arnt talking to him until he tells you the truth, and its not like you would tell anyone, but you are a friend that cares what he is doing and thinks he isn't doing the right thing.
2007-03-22 05:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by s..... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend, he trusts you. Back in the day marriage and sex was only kept in the blood lines, their not even related by blood. It's odd but **** happens. I would talk to him and tell him you know and that his secret is safe with you and leave it at that, no confrontation or anything. This way when hes ready he will come talk to you. Just be a friend, It'll surprise you how it turns out. I dealt with a similar issue. In the end, you wana be there for him. That's all that matters. he's a bit lost right now, and well, what are good friends for right! :)
2014-03-21 04:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sani Florez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he and his sister may have serious psychological problems. If they were raised as sister and brother then you're right, that is a sick thing to do...blood related or not. Both of these kids need counseling for sure. I think that you should make an anonymous phone call to his parents and tell them that their kids are sleeping together. Maybe if you do that, they won't do it again. Stay away from friends with that kind of scary behavior.
2007-03-22 05:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by peaceseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that it is sick all day but you cannot change what he has done in the past nor what he will do in the future. You may have to consider this friendship dissolved unfortunately.
I do think that part of your friend really wanted to confide in you in an effort to gain support from you. He probably does not even agree with his own actions or at the very least is totally confused. If this friendship is that important to you, find out what he really feels (is he trying to get help, seek counseling, etc.) and help him in his recovery.
The best of luck to the both of you.
2007-03-22 05:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by ericka1031 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mindset and reactionary thinking will get you in trouble if you don't change.
1. Your friend was not placed on this earth to live up to YOUR level or "moral" responsibility.
2. No blood relationship is still no blood relationship.
3. Define "normal"...from who's perspective? Culture defines "what" is normal, not people. So is eating grasshoppers...normal, for you?
4. You tastes in sexuality may actually be mild, or very perverse...who will judge you for what you like or dislike?
2007-03-22 05:45:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋