I am 22 my fiance is 25 and we are both working and full time students...the last few months sex just hasnt been what it used to be. Sometimes I spend an hour primping for him and he just wants to sleep. He reassures me that its not me, im gorgeous and he's more than attracted to me but he just doesn't have the energy with all the stress from a full course load and demanding job..lately we go a week or two sometimes without having sex and this never used to happen..is this normal? What can i do? apparently my sex drive is much higher than his...
2007-03-22 05:36:58 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust me when I say i have been patient....most nights its a surprise for him because i get ready for him while he is gone..its not a porn thing because we've gone over that..ive also bought games, toys, all kinds of lingerie- he says he cant focus on sex when hes so consumed by school- my fear is that this will not get better over time.
2007-03-22 05:45:31 · update #1
one more thing- ive mentioned being more spontaneous and stuff but he is very sensitive about being showered first so that limits us a lot- ive been trying to get sex to leave the bedroom or even just the bed forever..
2007-03-22 05:47:36 · update #2
Maybe he is getting it somewhere else, or maybe he is taking care of it himself and not including you in it. Check to see if he is suddenly interested in porn sites and that kind of thing. Or maybe he truly is just too tired. Good luck.
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I read your previous posts regarding his problem with porn. I think this is the same issue. He is doing that instead of you. He has a major problem that will not take care of itself. You might want to reconsider marriage with him.
2007-03-22 05:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by sarric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he has been really tired and there is nothing going on with out u. If I was u both of u need to take at least one day a week and don't work or do anything with Ur school work and just go do some thing together or just sit around the house and be together. Try to save u some money and take him out on a night away take him to a hotel and go swimming and sit in the hot tub then go u to the room take a shower get dinner and then go back and make love all night long. there will come a point in life that u just r to tired to have sex to and then maybe if it is still him he can do the same for u girl.
this is more then normal and it is not u he and well u to just have allot on Ur plates and he his trying to make the best of his life not so one day he can just sit around and not work his butt off then look out because he is going to want it all the time.
P.S. it gets bad after u have kid!!!!! so wait till u guys r ready to slow down and don't want so muck sex to have them.
2007-03-22 12:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong he is just tired from his long days. I work full time and then go to school at night. The last thing on my mind after a day like that would be sex. Maybe everyonce and awhile but most of the times im tired and I wanna just come home and relax with my girl. Try not to make sex sch a big part of a relationship. Sitting on the couch and enjoying each others company is great after long days.
2007-03-22 12:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say there is a problem here. Is this schedule with jobs and school new? If so, and it's just the stress getting to him, then you guys should try and rearrange your schedule a bit to spend more romantic time together. You have to prioritize.
If not, I'd be asking more questions. Maybe he's developed a relationship...emotional, physical, or both with another woman. Odds are he would never admit it to you, so if you do suspect that, don't bust yourself out. Get out your detective hat and keep a close eye out and see what you find.
2007-03-22 12:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jena P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably telling you the truth, that kind of work load would wear most people thin. I am going through the same thing with my husband right now. Maybe since he wants to sleep, make it more intimate when he comes over, try giving him a back rub, crawl into bed with him. He may just be going through a pre-spring slump.
2007-03-22 12:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard when you're both busy and tired. Try weekends, in the mornings/afternoons, etc. However, it is rarer for the man to not have energy for sex. My husband could go days without sleep and still want it. They say sex is a barometer for a relationship...perhaps there's something else going on?
2007-03-22 12:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by ralomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him rest, and then when he is just about asleep (or in the morning if time permits) start stroking it, and then give him an awesome BJ - this will get him in the mood and if not then there is definetly something to worrry about. Just remind him how good sex can be and how much better you feel afterward.
If all else fails, get a vibrator!
2007-03-22 12:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a point of putting aside a certain time each week for intimate get togethers. Do not just wait for bedtime, variety is the spice. We all know its difficult if you work long hours but its important for you both to be fulfilled.
2007-03-22 12:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs a new partner. I know about a lot of people who are not hungry for home cooked meals but always ready to eat in the restaurants.
2007-03-22 12:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems odd that when you get all sexy for him all he wants to do is sleep. Mabey you were taking too long to get ready, and he lost his thought of chances in bed and feels like sex is a forced thing to do. Suprise him, dont let him know you are getting ready for a sexy night.
2007-03-22 12:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by s..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋