I of course thought she was joking so went along for a minute until i realized she wasnt. i told her I CAN WAIT A WEEK!! and more to the point im in love with you so there is way i would do that even if you were going to be goin a year.
she responded that she knows i love her and she is in love with me and thats why she wants me always taken care of in every way.
I again told her that I appriciate her concern but that isnt who I am or what I do, and I obviously expect the same from her.
she said of course the same from her (seeming shocked) and that I was it for her and the thought of anyone else is beyond her. (she is also going with a group of children and coworkers therefore dont think this is a have fun w/o bf trip)
She said thank you and mentioned i was the only one who has EVER turned down that offer. I told her permission or not that is cheating and anyone who took it was abusive. etc
she honestly loves me and I her
what should i read into/do/ think and act regarding this?
2007-03-22 05:26:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have heard of other instances of abuse in her past both emotional, and physical. she knows that will never be the case from me. is that enough to show and tell her and best left there or not?
She is an incredibly beatiful woman, incredibly smart, sophistocated and a wonderful person. she doesnt seem to see this though i am trying to bring her around. she has mentioned when i tell her how strong she is for going through what she has that its nothing more than anyone else has gone through (which believe me is not the case) dont know if it is better to just leave alone and show her how much i love her or talk about?
2007-03-22 05:29:55 · update #1
Ive considered that this was possibly a test......
I HONESTLY DONT THINK IT WAS!!!
hence my concern
2007-03-22 05:30:54 · update #2
It is a test, but she is also telling you that while she is gone, if she wants to she will sleep with a guy...
2007-03-24 05:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like maybe she had an emotionally abusive boyfriend in the past. Specially if it was the first, or when she was quite young, or if her father or someone she respected acted that way, she could have come to think of that as normal. Her justification sounds like the kind of thing that abusive person would've told her, and maybe to some extent she internalised it.
After a while of being treated better she probably won't think that way, but it could take some time. Just be gentle - sounds like you're good for her.
2007-03-22 05:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Marie Antoinette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that she was testing you. The fact that she thanked you and told you that you were the only one to turn down that offer confirms that for me. I believe that you passed with flying colors. If you had answered the other way, she might have actually ended the relationship, or at least been VERY hurt, and that would have strained your relationship beyond repair anyway. You are obviously a good guy who genuinely loves his girlfriend. I hope that things always work out for you two.
2007-03-22 05:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by angelofmusic387 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
I think that if a girlfriend tells you something like that its because when she is gone, she her self will be "taken care of". She doesn't want to feel guilty for what she will be doing and is OKing for you to do what you want, so she can do the same. I like your answer, "I told her permission or not that is cheating and anyone who took it was abusive. etc" If that is truly how you feel, it proves you are honest and knows how to respect your relationship. I hope she does not take that for granted because a lot of girls out there want exactly that... the comfort of knowing they found someone who really cares and respects them. I think you need to talk to her and make sure you are both on the same page.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-22 05:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...it sounds like she might have a misguided notion of men. She may actually think that all men have a need for sex all of the time no matter who it's with. When she comes back, I would sit her down and have a serious talk with her. Tell her that it's not normal. It sounds like she was with some real jerks in the past if they actually took her up on that offer. She needs to know that a real man who truly loves her would not do that.
2007-03-22 05:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dude! this can only be three things and i am totaly lost on this one. Either she loves you like hell and doesn't want to cheat on her behind her back so she said it was ok with her for you to do what ever you want or she doen't want to feel guilty about herself doing something else while she is gone. The last thing it is it was just a test. It can be any of those three things good luck but don't cheat cause you gave her your word cause if you do it now and say "well you said it was ok" their will be hell to pay. Good Luck
2007-03-22 05:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was testing you. Then again maybe she's playing a mind game, we woman do those things, ya know. I wouldn't try reading into it, you communicated your feelings and I am sure that made her feel secure and that my dear is the key to a happy lady! And, you never tell a lady you can't wait a week, cause you can : ) !! Good luck.
2007-03-22 05:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 08:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by thedford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there:
She could be the type that likes open relationships. If that is not you; you should tell her...Or maybe she was testing you? either way, I think you should talk to her...in my personal experience, people who are used to open relationships are seldom faithful. You maybe want to look in to your relationship and see if that is what your really want. Good luck!
2007-03-22 05:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by peach_tree67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have been testing you, I don't know any woman that would give their boyfriend permission to be with someone else. Either that or she has been with a bunch of real ******* before you that made her fell she had to be like this to keep somebody happy.
2007-03-22 05:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it seems as if she was being extremely truthfull, I would be on my guards for a while. Whatever it means, talk to her about it, tell her why you're confused and what she meant by it.
Kristine
EDIT: If she thinks badly about herself, don't stop saying good stuf about her to her, keep her spirits high.
2007-03-22 05:30:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋