ok i have this friend and i told her that her boyfriend was cheating on her what should i do. she want even talk to me any more. and the girls i was talking to she talks to and it is like she is turning them against me and thats not right. now im looking lonely and stupid.
2007-03-22 05:25:51 · 7 answers · asked by keysha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you really new he was cheating you saw it with your own eyes and you wanted to protect your friend then you did the right thing. If you only heard he was cheating but really did not know then maybe you should have waited and tried to see it for yourself.
At times we want to help our friends and at times we can make them mad by being honest what we see as trying to help they may see just the opposite and get mad.
In time she will come around and she may come around if she finds out he is cheating and she may even say thanks for trying. Just understand people feelings for another can get in the way of their thinking and if in love or atleast they feel like it they most likely will side with the BF . we do not always want to know the truth and maybe admit our partner is doing wrong so we get mad at the other person.
Hang in there, maybe try telling her you are sorry for telling her, that you are her frined and did not want to see her get hurt but you never meant to hurt her either. She will either accept this or not if not in time if she was a true friend she will come around again.
It is hard to know something about a friends BF and such and know what to do in a case like this. Because if you tell you risk making them mad but if you dont tell and they find out later he/she was and you knew but never told then they get mad anyway.. sigh....
You tried to help according to what you thought was best so give her time.
2007-03-22 05:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you should know who your real friends are and who aren't. You did the right thing by telling her. You were only being a real friend. In the end you will see who will be looking lonely and stupid. If you are absolutely positive that this guy was cheating then in the long run she will come back and apologize (if she's woman enough). Now, if you weren't sure and didn't have proof then you shouldn't have said anything. If that's the case you must go back and apologize, that way it wont be on you anymore. This wont make you look or feel any worst than you do now. Chances are she wont want to hear it. A real friend will understand that you was just looking out for them. As for those other girls that you say she's turning against you, let them go cause a real friend wouldn't turn their backs on you. Just consider this as a lesson learned and hold your head up and move on.
2007-03-22 12:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you'll also be viewed as a good friend that is willing to risk the friendship in order to be honest. She apparently can't absorb the information and is reacting in an immature way. Hopefully, she'll share with those other girls what it is that you supposedly did wrong. Those girls may realize that you were only attempting to keep her from being hurt. In time, she'll find out for yourself that her boyfriend is a jerk and realize that you were trying to spare her. Even if you made it up (and you didn't say it was in fact true) there's no way to salvage things. Let it ride and see what happens. You're trying to 'over-explain' at this point will not help you. Keep your composure and stand your ground. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't take the bait.
2007-03-22 12:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and talk to her. Tell her why you told her that her BF is cheating on her. That you care for her and you didn't want to see her hurt or being used. I hope you had proof to back up your accusations. Good Luck
2007-03-22 12:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some other friends and stay away from her sounds like she trouble
2007-03-22 12:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by petal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it out with them. tell them how you feel. if all else fails.. make new friends!!
2007-03-22 12:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Phoebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not your bussiness. You are stupid and you should be lonely.
2007-03-22 12:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by Suchness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋