We have been on 3 dates and only made out. he has never once tried to sleep with me. We are both 20, I'm a virgin, I dont think he is. Im not asking him to wait forever just a couple months maybe...is that too long?
2007-03-22 05:25:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try waiting until you're married before you do things that make children.
2007-03-22 05:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kristine R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not long enough!! And it's no big deal that he hasn't tried to sleep with you yet. It could be that he actually respects women and is particular about who he sleeps with. Your question makes one wonder why kind of guys you've dated in the past. You're a virgin for a reason. You want to get to know this guy before you even have a discussion related to entering a sexual relationship. I'd give it at least 3-4 months. Otherwise, you could be disappointed when you realize that you've slept with someone that is practically a stranger. You've heard the old adage about ...if you have sex with a stranger he's still remains a stanger. Having sex will cloud your judgment and make you overlook obvious conflicts or differences. Stay objective and keep your pants on awhile longer. Good Luck
2007-03-22 12:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your reasons for dating, if you are still a virgin, you need to keep your virginity until you have a committed relationship that will meet all of your needs as a sexually active female. That will include the need for someone to help you to raise the child you may be creating from having sex. Why give up your virginity to someone who only wants a piece of ***? If your body means anything to you and your feelings mean anything to the person you are dating, be happy that he is not pressuring you for sex or trying to sleep with you before there is a decision about the permanence of the relationship you have. Enjoy socializing until that time comes. Dating should not require the loss of virginity or sex. The real purpose of dating is getting to know someone and getting to be friends. After that comes committment, marriage and finally, sex. Best wishes.
2007-03-22 12:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait for as long as you feel you need to. It doesnt matter if it takes a few days, weeks, months. Its you that has the final decision. If this guy does not respect your decision then he is not the guy for you. Sometimes we fall in love and waiting is not what we want, and sometimes we are not in love and intimacy is more like a have to, do you understand. Maybe when he does try to make a move, let him know that you are not ready for intamacy yet. Your heart, your body and your soul will tell you when you are and you wont regret it. God Bless
2007-03-22 12:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mami, first off he most likely isn't a virgin now a days most men aren't but that's OK. You have to do what works for you sweetheart. Don't rush into sex because you don't want to loose him let the relationship play out for awhile at least until you get a better understanding of what type of guy this dude is.Don't give it up then find out that he was getting it for the next chick while scheming on you, guys love virgins. We love to conquer new undiscovered territory if you know what I mean.
2007-03-22 12:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by William H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is too long FOR HIM. It is all about you when it comes to your virginity, when you feel comfortable and want to. Never let a guy pressure you into it. Even when you're not a virgin it's good to let them wait for awhile (even over a couple months) then you can tell if they are into you, or just want in your pants.
2007-03-22 12:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by exaltedchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Virgins need their time. And don't lose it to someone you 've been going out for that short.
If he leaves you then you 'll know all he wanted to do was have sex with a virgin.
2007-03-22 12:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be too long for me to wait.
2007-03-22 12:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't put time on it, I believe you need to mature and come up with your own values . What do you think is right, it sounds like you could easily be convinced to do something, impressionable.
2007-03-22 13:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so worried he will make his move sooner than later and when he does let him know how you feel. but don't trip if he hasn't yet he soon will they all do!!!
2007-03-22 12:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋