If She was officially my girlfriend now. I went ahead
and said yes. Now I need to let her know that I didn't mean it. I really like her and I want to continue the sex so how should I handle this??
2007-03-22 05:21:15 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a way, I felt pressured to say OK
because of the situation.
2007-03-22 05:22:27 · update #1
tsk, tsk...you probably shouldn't have had sex with her. But you can't undo history. So, now you should be honest with her. Tell her that you really like her, but you don't want to label the relationship. It sounds like she really wants to be your girlfriend, so it might not go over so well. But if you don't tell her the truth now, you will only hurt her worse in the end.
2007-03-22 05:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound a little harsh, but you are leading her on. If you are not committed to her in that way you have no business sticking your thumb in the pie. Honestly, sex is one of the most sincerest forms of connecting with another person. Well that is what some of us go by still these days. Others it is just pleasure, did you initially tell her it was a pleasure thing or what? I would tell her it is not going to work and if you really need to get your jollys honestly rub one out. If you are not convinced then continue cause it sounds like the making of a stalker.
2007-03-22 05:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell her the truth, u are not ready for a commented relationship. Tell her you do care about her but at this point don't want to take the relationship any futher than sex....well, u do realize when u do this the sex will probably stop but u don't need to lie to the girl. From the way it sounds, she is trying to use sex to get her hooks in u.. Better watch out she has plans for ur future!!! Also she may go ahead and have sex with you but if she does then i"ll bet its because she thinks you will come around
2007-03-22 05:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her of the Meatloaf song and just say you felt pressured at the time by the need for sex.
Tell her you really liked the sex - tell her she was so good she should be in songs and that you want to keep at it.
Then tell her she is not "offcially" your girlfriend except while having sex. Tell her you need to practice on other girls when she is not around so you can improve your performance.
Tell her you didn't really want the type of girlfriend that you have to go out with and buy things for and meet friends with. Tell her you thought long and hard and have decided you want her as the kind of girlfriend who has sex with you ONLY.
She should understand - most girls understand that men they like need to have sex with different women so they can practice their sex moves.
2007-03-22 06:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cumjunkie Doner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such an @ss!! I hope you catch gonorrhea! If you aren't interested, you shouldn't be screwing her! It actually means something to her! Find a slutty tramp it means nothing to and then you'll deserve each other!
All she is to you is a hole to stick it in. You have completely denegrated and dehumanized her. But you're too selfish to understand that, aren't you? Because you really think that you deserve, and have the right to use other people's bodies for your own selfish urges. You think that sex is all about you. It means nothing. Somewhere in the world right now, some @sshole just like you could be doing this to your future wife, or to your sister. You are scum on the bottom of a cattle-yard shoe. I hope you can realize that fact some day!
2007-03-22 05:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad boy. Honesty is the best policy. She obviously wants more from this then you do and even if you tell her the truth and contiue to engage in sexual relations with her, you are leading her on. In her mind the fact that you guys have sex means that there is a chance that you are a couple. Be a man! Grow a spinal cord. Don't be such a wuss. Either you're her BF or you're not. But don't continue to have sex with her unless you are willing to make that committment. Stop using the poor girl.
2007-03-22 05:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
So you were just using the girls body to get off. And she dosen't mean enought to you to be your girlfriend? You should be made to handle that by hand, untill you grow enough to be a man. Instead of playing eight year old head games. You don't like her at all, you just like having sex. Grow up be responsable for your actions, and tell her what a punk you are.
2007-03-22 05:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Perry B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're saying YOU felt pressured...it's obvious that she felt pressure from you to have sex. She has feelings and wants them to be mutual. If the feelings weren't mutual you shouldn't have proceeded to have sex with her. Why didn't you just go after somebody who only wanted to have sex? Either way, when you tell her she'll be upset and not want to have sex with you or even be around you...unless she's naive. This is ridiculous...you should be ashamed! You give all guys a bad name!!
2007-03-22 05:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that was wrong! You led her on... well get it out the way and tell her so that her believeing she is your gf, wont be prolonged...
Dont ever make that mistake again! A lot of women confuse sex with actually being with someone and it's hard to separate the 2... Guys dont think like that...
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-22 05:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what would u have said if she was asking the LOVE question? instead of the girlfriend question. if u feel that u would have been pressured into agreeing then u'r still as in as bad shape as she is if not worse. u lied.
i don't think she will continue the sex therapy with you!
2007-03-22 05:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋