She is nice one minute and mean the next. I have a one warning policy I tell her If she does it again it is a time out in her crib for 2 min. I know she is just trying to get my attention. But pleasae I need some advice. We don't spank in my family. Time out seem to work and yes I'm consistant with them. But I would love to know if it is developmental or behavioral.
2007-03-22 05:09:50 · 8 answers · asked by Alsign 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You get her a doll and model behavior for her. You give her lots of love and attention for being good to her baby. Tell her you are SO happy with both of YOUR babies. (She will think this is a silly joke, not an excuse to be a baby)
And...never trust her alone with a baby until they are both able to interact on equal footing, she is too young...Not that she would be deliberately hurtful, but she just doesn't understand the care that is needed.
(My 3 year old son tried to touch the eyeball of his infant brother when he thought I was out of the room...not bad, just clueless)
2007-03-22 05:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is behavioral...she is jealous of the attention the baby gets, and is trying her hardest to get your attention...wether it's negative attention or not, it's still attention and acknowledgement. What you need to do is try to arrange a schedule to where you put aside some time just for you and your 2 year old. (Brother's naptime is good!) Then, you two do something fun together, or just read a book and snuggle. Also, try incorporating her into being your 'Big helper'-and letting her help with the care of her little brother...say, running to fetch a clean diaper for you, getting his pacifier, or blanket, etc. That also makes her feel like she's "IN" on the interaction between you and the baby, and will help her bond more with her brother and not be so jealous. She is still a baby herself, mentally and emotionally, and still craves mommy's attention...especially if she was the only child before baby came along! Work on the tips i gave you above, you'd be surprised that doing such little things will have a big impact on her acting out. Good luck to you all!
2007-03-22 05:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
2 12 months olds have not more desirable empathy yet, i'm advised. So he does not necessarly comprehend that his tough play ought to harm his brother. that's in simple terms an concept he can not carry close yet. form of how they don't comprehend "do not touch that, that's warm" till as quickly as they touch it. All you're able to do is quite watch them while they are at the same time and do away with the little one while the two 12 months previous starts off to be under pressure or over excited. to not insult your youngster in any respect here, yet leaving your little one around a 2 12 months previous is almost like leaving him with a dogs. the two are slightly unpredictable and might harm even devoid of which skill to, additionally they have little or no impulse administration. So it would help to think of like that for awhile (i'm truly severe here, whether it feels like i'm making exciting). do not bypass away the little one and toddler at the same time in a situations which you does not bypass away slightly one and a mid-length dogs in. additionally, be useful to spend some time on my own enjoying alongside with your 2yr previous in the process the day. toddlers are a great transition for till now in simple terms toddlers, they don't comprehend why your worldwide now not revolves around in simple terms them. Goood good fortune.
2016-12-19 11:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by hogans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Carrie. Make her the "helper". Make her feel responsible so she will have that sense of "bigger sister with responsibility."
And also, occassionally, when the younger one is asleep e.t.c. spent time with your daughter.
Do reinforce punishments if she behave irrationally naughty. Punishments need not take the form of spankings.
In any case, your child is behavioural.
It's developmental only when its applicable to all children regardless of whether they are elder sister or the lone child. Your 2yr old exhibits a behaviour that is 'common' only to those that share the same profile - having a younger sibling.
2007-03-22 05:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its a totally normal developmental stage, and it sounds like you are handling it perfectly. Don't worry about it, as your baby gets older and can play with her better, they'll get along better. But there will always be spats, right up through adulthood! Good luck!
2007-03-22 05:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are some great books called love and logic. I think it's both. 2 and 3 year olds just like to bite and hit until they get it that they don't like to be bitten or hit upon. Just keep doing the love thing by giving her a time out. You might check out the books. They are great!
2007-03-22 05:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
DEAR
READ THE BIBLE SPARE THE ROD SPOIL THE CHILD
THAT IS WAY PUT PADDING IN THE BACK FOR IT TO BE USED OK
SPANK
TAKE CARE
2007-03-22 17:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she's only two there's not much you can do. try to occupy their time with something. keep them entertained. seperate them
2007-03-22 05:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by mlkirchgessner 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋