My first time was with my love and he was a virgin too. I told myself that I was going to wait until I was married to have sex again after we broke up. I met another guy and a month later I asked him if he wanted to have sex. He was a virgin too. We went out for six months. Another six months pass by and I get together with my friend of three months. We became official and then a month later we breakup. In between there I told myself I wasn't going to have sex with anyone and then when I'm breaking up with my friend I meet this new guy. He's a nypho and I told him that I wasn't going to have sex with him until he loved me. He lies to me and I know that he lied...he says he loves me and wants me to say it back. So like a dip I had sex with him. Now we have sex like two times a week and he doesn't want to commit to me.
2007-03-22 05:09:32 · 16 answers · asked by ForestGirl20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, at least you see the problem is you. All these guys are different but you know yourself and you know you have crappy judgement. Women always think they can take the shortcut and pull the guy in to a closer relationship by having sex with him. This is true if the guys is looking for some regular sex but not much more. And in any case it works for awhile because it can seem just too difficult to pass up an opportunity with someone so easy.
Well, how's that workin' out for ya? Not too well, I would say.
I guess the answer you want is: there's a guy out there who is going to make you a better person and less of a 'rhymes with nut' (although being nuts helps). He's not out there - he's not going to make you a better person.
So get a spine yourself. There are lots of self-help books about just that topic. There are plenty of pastors who will sit down with you and, just based on the next step, which for you would be getting 'knocked up' because you are ever more desperate, talk to you about straightening your values out and learning self-control.
I'm sure you're a nice person. You're just like anyone else who lets something in their personalities run wild and make a mess of their lives. Is this fun? Going somewhere with it?
2007-03-30 01:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't expect him to commit because it sounds as if he knows he doesn't want that. You are not a slut, and no one should judge you because you enjoy sex. You're supposed to enjoy it. Maybe you need to take some time off and not be in a relationship for a while, until you spend some time with yourself learning what you want from a relationship. Masturbation can be fun, too. These guys are probably just using you, so you should take a time out and get back into the game when you know what you are looking for.
Whatever you do, make sure you use protection!
2007-03-22 06:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by NacioHB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Classy,
No, honey, you're not a s***, you're not a dip, but you ARE
dissatisfied and feeling unloved. To correct this situation,
you must become comfortable with yourself. Learn to love
yourself--learn to VALUE your own life.
Guys usually want sex from a girl, and if they get what they want right away, they WILL NEVER commit to a relationship
with any girl!!!!
We all LOVE sex, so, honey, you have PLENTY of company!!
2007-03-30 05:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol u cant jus have sex n keep promising that later on ur going 2 wait until marriage that's dumb... once u start w/ sex u'll never be able 2 get enough of it so u might as well accept the fact that ur officially like the rest of the world :-)
2007-03-29 19:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehehe why are you having a sex w/ that guy if you dont want it
but anyway
your not a slut some time speople cannot resist of having a sex
you know the best anwers is in your heart k
take your body and always pray to God
because God knows what is your problem some times God cannot help you w/your but God has a reason k alway bealive in God k
see ya bye
2007-03-30 02:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by lowell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay to like (love) sex.
..., its your as* ,its up to you who you give it to!
but don't forget most guys out there are only after one thing....SEX!!!
once they get what they want from a girl without having to commit to then first they leave & if they stay they're only going to be around for the sex & not because they're looking to have a b/f g/f relationship with you.
2007-03-30 04:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by p@nKiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously very young and insecure.
You shouldn't be having sex to begin with.
I hope you realize you've made mistakes... and fortunately
you can stop this behaviour before you get pregnant or sick...So make the right decision and take care of yourself!
2007-03-30 04:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you use sex as a coping mechanism, to feel loved and wanted, to feel closeness, and to deal with hardships (losing your friend). if you want to have sex with commited partners, don't have sex with the current guy. seems to me that you learned somewhere in your life that sex can solve problems, when it can't. maybe explore what you feel about sex itself and look into different coping mechanisms. sex is great, but not when you're not in control of it or when you're putting yourself in harm, in your case, emotional harm.
2007-03-28 18:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as your not having sex with like every other guy you meet than your not a slut
2007-03-28 08:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Brianna*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as u protect yourself and are having sex because YOU want to, youre not a slut!
2007-03-26 09:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋