me and my b/f have been togther for almost three years we are 20. i want him to move in with me in a couple of months.
have you had exeperiance with living with a b/f or g/f?
good idea or bad?
we are planning to get married in a about a year....
2007-03-22 04:58:18 · 14 answers · asked by Lovley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congrats! I think it’s great that you found someone you want to move in with and eventually get married. As long as he's not abusive and has a good job. The only thing I would be concerned about is household rules:
(1) Can you both afford it?
(2) How are the bills going to be split up?
(3) He's friends? Your friends? They can be a issue sometimes
(4) Family members
(5) Saving money for a rainy day? How much will you both set aside?
(6) Have a backup plan just in case things don't work out, don't get stuck with a lease or house payment. One of you may leave and the other will be stuck in a bind. You may want to rent an apartment, first; and when things go well, then upgrade into something more permanent.
(7) I know you have your own place and he may have his. But men are mountain lions, we are territorial creatures, make sure he's "ok" with moving in with you, because he may want you to move in with him, instead, OR move into a place where neither of you have lived.
2007-03-22 05:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by book 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know you and don't know your peference, but I think you should wait a little longer to move in and marry..Your still young and haven't really experienced..You'll appreciate each other more the more you guys wait..It doesn't matter how long you've been with him, you don't really get to know someone until you actually move in with him and get to know all the bad habits..You will be more adaptable to those bad habits once you guys mature a little more...I am 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years...I lived with him for about 8 months and we were happy, but it would of been better if we would of waited a little longer..We both went back to our parents house and thank God were still together but we realized we weren't ready for the big thing...So think about it a little more and don't rush my dear!! Good Luck!!!
2007-03-22 05:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If part the household approves of the transfer, and it's inexpensive for a extra extended room, I might say, opt for it. Getting extra for his cash might be an benefit to his lifestyles. Now how approximately the foods? Are they complete foods or snacks. Do they get fruit day-to-day. And what approximately tablet dispension. Is anyone responsible of that, to get rid of errors. Some areas have the overseeing of an RN. But additionally many areas can not have the funds for the offerings. And does the dispenser of the tablets, put on rubber gloves for sanitary motives? There's so much to remember earlier than you displace him. Make certain he can manage the transition, so he does not get afraid after relocating. I have a pal, who died 2 days after her transfer. She was once handled badly through employees in that wing, and he or she went right into a catatonic state of brain. And did not appreciate her daughter. And then she died day after today. So weigh matters cautiously.
2016-09-05 11:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can live together, then go for it. My boyfriend and I moved in together at 21 after being together for a year. We lived together fine. You just have to realize that your privacy is out the window when he moves in. But if that's okay with you, then do it.
I mean, he's not moving in with you at your parent's house, is he? Because that's a BAD idea.
EDIT: I just saw the part about marriage. You're too young to get married. I'm 22 and I'm too young. =) Give it time.
2007-03-22 05:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are emotionally ready for this step, go for it. I lived with two boyfriends before I got married. Moving in together does change things. Small things that usually don't bother you, may get on your nerves.
example: Leaving the toilet seat up
Having a bunch of guys over on a night you just want to come home and relax
His mother
2007-03-22 05:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea that way you know how to live with him before you get married. My husband and I lived to together for 3 yrs before we got married so the first year has been easy because we already lived to together and there was nothing that each other already didn't know.
2007-03-22 05:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot can change in a year. Planning is different from getting married. If you're already living together you have to make time for to legalise something that's already happening in your lives. So if and when you do, what would be special about it. To move in together ahead of time would be a moment stolen. And spoken or not, you may end up resenting him for it. Because it would be on his head. And both could suffer. Wait the year, or get married sooner.
2007-03-22 05:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Perry B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are planning to get married then moving in together is a good dry run, but I don't like the idea in general.
2007-03-22 05:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate is higher for couples who live together first.
That being said, I think it's a good idea. Every guy wants to get the milk for free.
2007-03-22 05:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hesitent about moving in with him, you shouldn't be thinking of marriage haha. It's not all bad, i've had bad experiences, bad memories, but as long as you guy's don't keep secrets from each other you'll be fine, trust me either one of you WILL find out.
2007-03-22 05:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋