i have been married three months now and ever since i met my husband father..he cant keep his eyes off of my breast and hands off of my butt... i am a caribbean blackgirl and my husband is european white we are very happily inlove....i feel if i do tell he will deny it and make me look like the fool...
i want to tell my husband because i hide nothing from him...but he loves his father very much and he is the only child of his parents..his mother is dead since he is 3.
i dont want to hurt his feelings by telling him bad about his dad but i just dont feel comfortable when no one sees what father inlaw is doing...he does these things to me like if its normal and if i say anything he will do like he never did..i do not wear sexy clothes when i know he in the house visiting ....what shall i do other than kicking his old balls?
2007-03-22 04:54:29 · 6 answers · asked by girly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So in another words, you're just going to let your feelings stay in the shade and keep letting this ol' fart do what he does. I will tell you the same thing I told my husband. He isn't married to his parents anymore. He recieved a new family, a gift from God, when he married you three months ago. Of course you need to tell him. Or you could just tell the father in front of him that you don't appreciate him looking at your boobs and grabbin your ass. Don't keep it in the dark because if you do. The husband will be made because you kept it from him. Don't ever let something become a deep secret. It will only hurt everyone worse.
2007-03-22 05:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband everything! Tell him to watch the father and see for himself. That way there are no surprises and you don't come off as suddenly paranoid, or making it up. Then you and your husband can both say something to him, together. If that doesn't work, start refusing to go with your husband to see his father untill he takes you seriously. Any man grabs my butt besides my husband gets a quick little thrust of my knee to a serious area!
2007-03-22 05:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by chikadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these answers address only what you should tell your husband. I say, don't tell your husband anything! Confront his father. Tell your father-in-law that he makes you feel uncomfortable and that he has no right to touch you. Tell him that if he does it again, you will THEN tell your husband. I suspect that your father-in-law is not going to give you any trouble if it will cost him the love of his own son. Good luck!!
2007-03-22 06:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by threeblahs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband, he may love his father but he also loves you and should be willing to protect you from his fathers actions. I am sure he would rather hear it from you then catch his father doing it sometime. Just tell him what his father does and ask him to watch sometime when he is visiting so he can see it for himself.
2007-03-22 04:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if hubby gets mad, tell him anyway - he'll probably be more mad at his father rather than you, if that's not the case you deserve someone better. It's better to do this that let that old grubby man get away with sexual harrassment.
2007-03-22 05:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your husband's side if his father is around to.
2007-03-22 05:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋