Why do men do these things? Me and my ex were spending some time for about month. Then out the blueI find out and not throug him, he's apparently been talking to someone else the whole time because WOW now low and behold he's claiming someone else as his girlfriend! I understand we weren't together but why bother spending time with me when obviously he's taking another woman more seriously?!
2007-03-22 04:53:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to a guy it is killing time, to you it was " maybe we will get back together,, maybe he really cares"
why do woman blame men for this, they should know a ex is a ex.
2007-03-22 04:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally can't imagine EVER dating anyone who raped me and can't fathom why your fiancee dated her raper but the point is, I can't see any reason why she'd be lying to you. Imagine how hard it was for her to tell you what happened and then you reacting like that must've devastated her. It would have devastated me. Here's what it comes down to: do you really love her? Can you live without her? If deep in your heart you want her in your life forever, you're going to have to just let this go. I would believe her about being raped. I totally understand your horror and disbelief over her dating someone who raped her but the fact is that she did and you'll have to either accept it and let it go or call the marriage off. You need to do some deep soul searching and decide what's more important to you: being with her or letting something that's ultimately pretty insignificant tear you apart.
2016-03-28 23:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because most men are really very childish well into their 40's and 50's even. I was just telling my friend this, most people today are all about 'saving face'. What that means, in your case is he is trying to show off, or show you up. Almost like saying, 'nah nah nah na poo poo, I found someone else and you didn't'. I repeat, very childish. I would want to slap him, call him an idiot and walk away. Later laugh about it. :P
I hope you find my answer goofy because that was the way I intended it. I am serious about what I said but I hope you don't take it in a negative way. Good luck with whatever you do as a result and have a great day!
Kristy
2007-03-22 06:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you upset? Because you thought that y'all were getting back together, or because he hid his "girlfriend" from you?
It sounds like you are still attached to him. I mean, were y'all dating again, or were you just friends? Maybe he "bother spending time" with you because he enjoys your company. Think about that? Some people are better as friends than as lovers (or bf and gf, whatever).
And, BTW, don't make mass generalizations about people. Just because YOUR EX did it, doesn't mean every guy does it. In fact, I've never heard of that happening before.
EDIT: After seeing all these answers about how it's her fault because she hung on, I have to say that it IS possible to be friends after a break up! I am friends with most of my exes (and their current girlfriends)! Because I am mature enough to end a relationship amicably and mature enough to realize that the past is the past. Like I said above, some people are better as friends than as a couple. The ones who realize that, are the lucky ones.
2007-03-22 05:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...you allowed him to spend time with you after you broke up. How long was that supposed to go on? How healthy is that, for either of you? DO you understand you weren't together? He is eventually going to take someone else more seriously after breaking up with you. You should do the same, no?
2007-03-22 05:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After "4" marriages, here goes. An "ex" should "always" STAY an ex. Hanging around each other only PROLONGS the agony and hurt of the reasons why you broke up AND confuses you over any future for yourself. There are plenty of "fish" in the sea.
2007-03-22 05:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Theban 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why as the saying goes in jamaica, "if u put it down, nuh tek it up" it means once u have finished with some thing(or someone) stop going back to it and just forget it and move on! you are the one actually at fault and not just him, if he is your "ex" why hang out with him? many ppl think they can b frenz after breaking up, the truth is u cannot, at some point u are gonna hurt each other bcause it is inevitable that U MUST MOVE ON!!! count this one as a loss hon, and JUST MOVE ON!!!
2007-03-22 05:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by kamarla_phillips06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some exes will occasionally spend time with their exes and flirt with them even, because they want to hurt them later by showing that there is another woman in their life. He just wants you to get jealous, but don't show him that he's right. Just understand that everyone acts differently, and that he was a complete moron to do what he did.
Kristine
2007-03-22 04:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop generalizing. Learn to communicate: you haven't provided any relevant details to your particular personal experience: who dumped whom, for example?
2007-03-22 04:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was basically using you until he was able to find someone else...Now its time for you to move on..When you break up with someone you should stay away from that person, so you don't end up hurt..
2007-03-22 04:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋