Shes always asking me to pick her up to take her places that arent close at all. Shes always calling me saying 'well arent you gonna pick me up?' Stuff like that. Shes very presumptius
2007-03-22 04:45:19 · 26 answers · asked by carraj420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just say " i need gas money". you aren't her personal taxi service . she acts that way because you guys are dating. she taking it as an advantage.
2007-03-22 04:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the places you are asking her to go with you on a date, you should pay; however, you shouldn't have to if you did not ask her and she is asking you.
Tell her that you don't have enough money for gas to come pick her up to take her where she wants to go. If she offers to pay gas money, tell her how much you think you will need and if she doesn't have it when you get there, tell her you already told her, you just don't have it and don't take her. If she throws a fit, she is being childish and selfish...just leave. She will either get over it, or it is time to find a new girlfriend anyway as she is just using you as her personal taxi.
Don't pull the I don't have any cash after pumping gas as the person recommends above; that is tacky and she will feel used and tell all of her friends what a jerk you are for pulling such a stunt.
2007-03-22 11:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key here isn't to ask her for gas money. She's using you as a taxi service, which is not what a good boyfriend is. Next time she calls, be busy. Have other things to do. She's eventually going to leave you, from the sounds of things. Besides that, I think you could find a better girl than her. Good girlfriends just don't act that way with their boyfriends, unless they're using them.
2007-03-22 11:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you don't mind taking her places, but gas is expensive and she should give you gas money every now and again or at least offer it. If she don't understand she is not a very good girlfriend and you should consider that in what you want out of the relationship.
2007-03-22 11:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by brndbradsh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very kind and gentle and tell her that you love doing things for her... but that gas is just so expensive, and you would really appreciate if she could contribute to your gas tank. Let her know that you aren't asking her this to be rude, but that you want to make sure that things are ok financially for yourself as well... just be kind and honest. I'm sure that she will understand, and if she doesn't... ask her to find someone else to give her rides all over the place, because then it would just be like she is using you for your car and your willingness to make her happy.
and all this stuff about you being her boyfriend and you are supposed to do stuff for her is bull..... she needs to start doing stuff for herself and be more independant. Having a boyfriend is NOT about taking advantage of the situation.
2007-03-22 11:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Scared 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I wouldn't ask at all unless it is really breaking your bank. That is part of what being a boyfriend is about... if it is really creating financial problems... next time she calls for a ride say this" I would Sweetie but my car is out of gas and i don't get paid until Thursday." Then she will realize the situation and should offer you gas money.
2007-03-22 11:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she pulls the attitude on you about "Well, aren't you gonna pick me up?" then you should pull the attitude back, "Well, aren't you gonna start giving me money for gas?"
Another approach is to have a serious talk with her. Tell her that you care for her and are happy to take her where she needs to go, but that you just can't afford to keep it up. If she can't find another method of transportation, you need her to help pay for the expense.
Good luck.
2007-03-22 11:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your girlfriend you could ask her to throw you a couple dollars. However, she is your girlfriend and I would think you won't mind picking her up if you really wanted to see her. B/c you live far away from one another, one of you is going to have to sacrifice more gas and more money to see each other. If this is too much of a burden, maybe you aren't as close or good as a couple as you think you are.
2007-03-22 11:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two ways you can go with this. Get a higher-paying job and go along with it. OR, talk to her about it and ask her if there's a way to spend your time in closer areas.
As guys, we should ALWAYS offer to pay the expenses of activities; if our finances permit, we should pay it without question. It's not saying that girls don't make money; we respect women by allowing them to conserve their money. If a girl ABSOLUTELY wants to contribute financially (and a LOT of women do), we should acknowledge the offer and politely decline. If she becomes insulted, there's no reason why a girl SHOULDN'T pay for activities or events...but ONLY as long as she consents.
2007-03-22 11:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and ask her the next time she asks to be picked up. If she gets that upset over something like that then she was just using you for a ride anyway.
2007-03-22 11:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by eggshell134 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if that's the case, come out and let her know you don't have a problem helping her out but with the mileage and gas prices, she's going to have to kick in some funds. If she doesn't think she needs to help pay, she doesn' need your ride bad enough you know? It's rude and selfish for her to ask you all of the time to tak her everywhere and not to help pay for it. She'll either help you or stop asking =)
2007-03-22 11:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋