I secretly have sex with boys, and want to stop because in my religion it is not allowed. I'm over twelve, so technically a Nidah, but I always make sure it's with goyim so it doesn't matter. Do you think I'm bad?
Please, please, please help.
2007-03-22 04:41:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Goyim Schmoyim - you're too young to have sex. Period.
2007-03-22 04:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are bad. I was raised in a very religious home and at 16 I was having sex with boys at a young age as well. You just need to be very careful, 13 (I am assuming that is around how old you are) is a very young age to have mulitple partners. If you are just having fun that is one thing, but if you are getting emotionally involved with these acts of sexuality that is where the trouble can start, and not to mention you are running the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
You may be using condoms but they can break, or slip off and do not protect against all STD's. For example, did you know that you can contract herpes even if the man is wearing a condom? If a guy guy has sores on his body around the area not covered by the condom you are being infected, and most of the time the sores are not visible so you never know. Some people don't even know they have it! Herpes has no cure at this point and lasts the rest of your life! I just read that 1 out of 4 women in the US could be carrying the virus! That's scary!
Please be careful honey, I am not saying to not have sex, it's a reality that people have sexual urges and curiosities but it can cause a lot of problems if you are not handling the situations correctly. I am also sorry that you can not speak to someone in your family about this, I did not have that support either and it makes it tough.
2007-03-22 11:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by pizza_party9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not bad, your actions are. Pray like everything depends on the lord and act as if everything depends on you.
Ask God to remove your lusts. Ask him to help you understand that it is through the atonement of Christ that your heart and life can be changed for the better.
The best and most lasting way I have ever tried is to bind the temptation--in other words just commit to yourself, your God and your future husband that when the temptation comes you won't even question what you should do, you will just get away as fast as possible.
Don't entertain the thoughts that lead to the sin. Don't think about it at all. Don't think about how it makes you feel bad, don't think about the fleeting pleasure. When you find yourself thinking about it in any way, think about something else... Go read a book, watch a good movie... talk to someone who really cares about you and isn't using you.
I hope with all my heart that you can find peace and joy in your life.
2007-03-22 11:54:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your bad. I do think you are too young to have sex, and heaven help you if you aren't using condoms. I do think that you could be acting out on self esteem issues, and using sex because that is how you think you should get the boys to like you. I understand that you might not want to share this information with your parents, and that is fine, but maybe you could come up with some other reason, and ask your parents if you could get counseling for awhile, or something. I guess if not, the main thing you should focus on, is you should value yourself, and your future, and keep in front of you what future you want to have for your self, and if having sex indiscriminatly is going to make a good contribution to that or not. If not, then keep that picture in front of you, what you ultimately want out of life. Good luck
2007-03-22 11:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has some bad side to deal with and that's what makes us better. If you cant deal with this in this life, you will at next life.
Yes, I have my sins too and I pray, asking for God strength. If I fail again, I pray again and say "not this time, but I'll try again, give me strength..." and so on..
However, if you are compulsive about sex, it might be some psycological issue there. Seek for help.
Sex is not bad, but you shouldnt do it just because... you know what I mean?
Peace!
2007-03-22 11:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Reincarnated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of teenager girls will be sexually active with boys in order to feel some sort of emotional love -while the boys will say they love you, they frequently are just in it for the physical thrill and really just using your need for love to get it.
If you want to overcome this, you need to first learn how to feel your self-worth - to know that your worth more than that, that you really deserve true love that would stay by you whether even if you won't have sex with them - that loves you for you, not your body.
Pray to be able to feel this self worth, and for the strength to express it to those boys.
Good luck - I know you can do it.
2007-03-22 11:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray for God to take away the lust you have.
To fulfill your life with his guiding word.
Everyday, pray that simple prayer but you have to reallly want the help deep in your heart.
And yes.... I have overcome some things with just what I've said above. I fell short of it many times before I overcame it. It takes time.
2007-03-22 11:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by sassinya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over 12? Why did you start so young?
2007-03-22 11:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by 00666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think yu are bad you are just doing bad thigs. you should take care of it with the lord. He will forgive everything and all that you need to do is ask him for forgiveness and ask him to help you no have sex with boys anymore
2007-03-22 11:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad. You need to explore the history of how sexuality became a sin in the Christian faith. In my opinion, use proper protection and enjoy yourself because when you become old, you will not be able to enjoy sex any more.
2007-03-22 11:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by MoPleasure4U 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋