i'm 17 and in my family, I'm the older, mature, wiser, straight A student. i almost never get into trouble because i'm the good kid. my 15 year old sister gets in trouble all the time, because it's what she does. i never get into trouble because it's what i do. right now, i just feel like staying out all night and partying over the weekend. i'll be grounded for the next month, but i don't care. i hate being the responsible one.
i think i've already cracked. what should i do?
2007-03-22 04:41:02 · 15 answers · asked by I'm 17 and ME!!!!!! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
oh yeah, Lesley. forgot about prom for a second. scratch the above idea, i'm not missing prom.
2007-03-22 05:52:25 · update #1
Listen, I've always been the responsible one and its not always all that bad. At times I'm considered a bore or too consevative but that doesn't bother me because thats who I am. I can have fun but do you need to break the law to have fun? Usually when you decide to completly let loose you will end up paying more than it was worth. Find something you like to do and do it, don't do something only becuase someone else does it. You don't need to crack I would reccomend associating with people that have similar intrests; people you can be with and have fun wihtout leaving your comfort zone.
2007-03-22 04:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by phantom57212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have that set in our family too. The 17 year old is ready to join the marines when he graduates, never gets into trouble, doesn't cave in to peer pressure even though I know some of the things that are in his face, he still handles it well. His 15 year old sister, on the other hand, is the troublemaker. She's in Juvie right now, because, as you say, it's what she does. All I can tell you is that your Mom probably really appreciates having "a good one." I know it puts a lot of pressure on my son to have that label, but when the chips are down, I can depend on him to, at the very least, not be the person that the principal is calling me about. As a Mom, I really appreciate knowing that his life is going to be okay. But I also wonder if the pressure of being so good is ever to much for him, and hope that if it ever is, he'll come talk to me about it. I honestly don't know what I would say, except that I understand, and I appreciate being able to rely on him to stay out of trouble. Talk to your mom about it. See if she has something better to say. I know she's proud of you.
Oh yeah- won't being grounded for the next month put a damper on your prom?
2007-03-22 12:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, Big Sis, you suffer from the Big Sis Syndrome. You describe the symptoms to perfection (as a Big Sis is required to do). I do sympathize with you, because I'm the oldest one too at home and it just always seemed to me that my brother had more opportunities and certainly more fun than I did. I still believe that! He looks better, has more money, better clothes. I just hate it. So about the cracking... as a true Big Sis you are NEVER going to crack of course. Even when you are cracking, there will be a little voice going off in your head telling you to behave, to set a good example to the others and to be good. Still, don't let your sister have all the fun. You are entitled to some of it too. Just do it safely and make sure to get home on time :-). Greets!
2007-03-22 12:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your question I am guessing you are still not convinced that you should tell your parents about your siblings planned party. probably you feel this way because you are being told by people that you are too good and you need to bend a little, (i'm guessing you are being pressured by your siblings). You're responsible nature is something you should be proud of and not ashamed of. Believe me, you will care if you are grounded for the next month, probably not about being unable to go out but definitely because you wll lose your parent's trust and that will be so hard to earn once you've lost it. Let your parents know how you feel and they may let you go out with their consent which is definitely the best way to go as they will know where you are and who you are with. You have come 17 years being responsible and you have a very bright future ahead of you and to be frank in this time that we are living in your first 'enjoyable' night out breaking the rules could be your last. Think about it, think of your parents!
2007-03-22 12:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by redz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment you crack you will know it and i bet it will involve your little sister, you see everything that's going on you straight A student mature wiser good kids will eventually fall to peer pressure and when that happens then you shale realize when you will blow up it is when you let all that stress and problems get to you at your very core for just a second your sister will probably taunt you in some way your parents will hassle and yell at you and when that moment hits you will be hotter then a CHILI pepper.
2007-03-22 11:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jason B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you cracked. Most times when teens don't experiment with alcolhol and such and don't give in to the temptations, they end up doing so when they should be doing things like finding a job and going to college. Some become alcoholics.
Don't get me wrong, by no way am I saying go out and get drunk every night. But by all means, one night of partying is okay. Just don't be stupid or go overboard. And if you're as smart as you say that should be easy for you.
2007-03-22 11:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by miss_gem_01 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents if you can do a sleepover at your friends house and you could organize a party between you, or ask your parents if you can have a party and invite a few friends, you have earned your freedom by respecting theirs ,don't give your parents anymore anxiety they have enough on their plates as it is.They are people too with lives of their own, if they have a family who constantly play up they will always be trying to figure out the problems instead of enjoying their selves.
2007-03-22 12:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that your younger sibling is getting all of mom and dad's attention, and naturally your feeling if you "crack" you will get some of that. This is completely normal behavior. Always one of us gets more attention and the other feels like they should"crack" to catch their parents attention.
Myself, I am the baby of 5, from asingle mom. I had to wait 16 years to get that attention. To say I was the neglected one for the attention of my mom.
Anyhow your best bet is to sit with your parents and calmly confront how you're feeling about cracking up. They may not realize just how much attention sis gets, though negative.
Communication should start ASAP. Approach with "Mom, Dad I really don't think your doing a bad job although I feel as though........." Fill the rest in and finish with telling them how great it was to discuss the matter openly with them. MOST IMPORTANT constant reminders of how much you love them.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-22 12:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by rose s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing.
Be responsible.
There will be plenty of time to party and get stupid when you are older, wiser and richer. Study, keep up the good grades and you WILL be rewarded.
But - you are smart. You already knew that. :)
2007-03-22 11:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by kd s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue being the responsible one. you haven't cracked just feeling like you want to try the bad side. you will end up not only grounded but you will jeopardize the trust your parents have in you.
2007-03-22 11:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by tami m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋