What should I do, he used to LOVE being a cop..it was a huge part of him, now he just wants to quit. I know I should support his decisions, but I feel like he's going to regret it. Should I just go along with it, or should I try and talk him out of it?
2007-03-22 04:33:48 · 15 answers · asked by elfkin, attention whore 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Sounds like he is just burnt-out. That is common at a certain level in your career as a law enforcement officer. I'm no Dear Abby, but I know what I would want my wife to do in this case.
Support him no matter what career decisions he makes. Express your concern for his welfare and happiness at leaving the job. Tell him that he is probably just disillusioned at the job and will probably want to return one day, so advise him not to do anything to hinder his chances of returning; don't burn his bridges. If he wants to leave, let him. He will be miserable otherwise.
I mentioned that this is a common occurrence with officers getting burnt-out. It is also common that they realize that law enforcement is their true calling and return to the job.
2007-03-22 06:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by LawDawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support his decision on being a truck driver. You can go with him on his runs and it'll be a change of pace for the both of you. You may even learn how to drive a "big-rig." I learned how to drive an 18-wheeler when I was 19 and I've never regretted it a day in my life. Out there on the road is a whole different world that you'll come to know and appreciate. Without truck drivers this world couldn't go 'round. Some body's gotta get the commodities to the general public.I haven't driven a rig in 12yrs. and I do miss the road.Don't get me wrong, there will be days that all is not well,but the good always out weights the bad. The people you meet and the sights you see are well worth the effort of a change of lifestyle.
2007-03-22 11:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by buckskinbabydoll♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men have that dream of being a truck driver since being a child. There is nothing wrong with the profession. I say stand behind your husband, and find a support group for trucker's wives. There is an awesome support group at www.atruckerswife.com These ladies can answer many of your questions about the lifestyle of a truckers wife and the pros and cons about the job.
Good luck and follow your heart.. being a truckers wife is an honor and it takes a special woman to be one.
2007-03-22 11:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by croy282000 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a truck driver.. and i have a lot of friends that are police officers... truck driving is a lot safer.. and more money
with the way criminals are today.. it is a safer move for him to drive trucks.. and if he leaves the department on good terms he can always go back if he doesnt like the driving.. i would let him.. more money and safer.. besides truck driving can be very relaxing.. as a firefighter and emt i have a lot of respect for the things that police officers do. the job is very stressfull and maybe he needs some time to unwind and do something else.
2007-03-22 14:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by dodgeforlife1982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something has happened and cops especially one with the time he has do not open up to very many people. He should talk to a counselor before he pulls the pin and if he still wants to go he should. Guys who are burnt out and stay tend to be careless which creates a danger to themselves and other cops as well as the public.
2007-03-22 13:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by watchman_1900 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As anyone who works in public safety will tell you, the vast majority of those police deal with are morons. 9-1-1 centers across the country are barraged with calls from ignorant dickslaps whom the police eventually have to deal with in one form or the other. After a few years (many times far less than 15) people get tired of it and just want to work a no-brainer job and be left alone. Quit complaining and let him. He earned it.
2007-03-22 11:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Grampa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea how much this job sucks. Everybody hates you, alot of people want to hurt you, you see pain and suffering constantly, and nothing you do ever makes a difference. Our supervisors don't back us up because it's not politically correct, a number of our coworkers are slime, and you are always worried about getting sued. There is no justice, and alot of bad things happen to good people and nothing ever happens to the bad guys. It isn't fun to chase down a dirtbag, tear up your knees in the process, get yelled at by the boss, belittled by the defense attourney, only to have the savage either released because hes black and your white, or some chicken*&^% sentance or probation.
2007-03-22 13:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by christopher H 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What was it about being a cop that he loved? Maybe what he needs is a reminder of why he became a cop in the first place. Find out what attracted him to becoming an enforcer of the law and remind him of why he chose to do that. We need all the good men and women out there to serve our country as best they can.
2007-03-22 11:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Maverick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to say without knowing more. Has he had a friend killed in the line of duty recently. When a cop is killed in the line of duty it seems that over the next year or so there is a lot of turnover
2007-03-22 14:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Keith 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does he have 20 year retirement? If so, he should think about what he will be loosing. He should look at options to help him emotionally (counseling, transfer to other duties - like investigations, training division, etc...). Making 20 years is great. The pension is great to have every month.
2007-03-22 15:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by cramer.fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋