We dated for 9 months. She did like me but I was kind of a jerk, I didn't see her enough and broke the plans we had. The breakup came out of the blue. I am not devastated but would like to continue seeing her. Does she want to get back together or does she want to tell me why we were wrong for each other? Should I meet her to talk tonight?
2007-03-22 04:31:39 · 29 answers · asked by mossman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only meet with her if you feel comfortable with the idea of learning either A., what kind of screw up you were or B. what you can do to improve the relationship.
Remember to keep an open mind.
good luck
2007-03-22 04:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should meet with her tonight. You are so wrong for standing her up they ways you say you did. If you are going to be with someone then be with them. Can I ask you why you always broke the plans she would make? If you really cared for her then you would be devastated, so did you really love her or not? You are not right for her she deserves someone that is going to acknowledge her for the things she tries to do in a relationship. Just let her go even if she wants to make you change b/c if you didn't try to change within those 9 months then you are not ready to change now.....Just let her go man.
2007-03-22 04:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only go see her if you REALLLY intend on wanting to be with her and treating her better... otherwise move on. She probably wants to tell you what a jerk you are, then hear you say how sorry and wrong and stupid you are, and then kiss and make up and live happily ever after. I KNOW girls who do this all the time... they just can't let go ... they just keep praying he will all of a sudden understand her needs, but I never see it work out. It ends up just being a big waste of time for both parties involved... precious time that could have been spent looking for a partner you are actually compatible with.
2007-03-22 04:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your not devastated then it really wasn't that important to you. But if you think you can keep your plans with her and not be a jerk and you would like to keep seeing her then go see her tonight and do something sweet for her, if she is coming to tell why you broke up, the sweet thing will throw her off guard and she may decide she wants to be with you again. If she wants to be with you anyways again and you do the sweet thing she will love it just because girls love romance, give it and at least try to actually mean it and a girl will love you forever. Its better if you do actually mean it
2007-03-22 04:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just wants to continue the breakup discussion. You will most likely be able to turn the conversation around into her going out with you again.
At this point make sure you have reconciliation sex in a big way. Try to film it if possible.
Why?
Because you will not change your behaviour and when she dumps you again you will at least have something to remember her by.
You will always find another girl if you can behave this way - girls LOVE bad boys.
2007-03-22 04:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cumjunkie Doner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, go bro. she wouldn't wanna meet you tonight if she didn't wanna be with you. She just probably wanna tell you how you've been screwing up and to change it and she broke up with you as a warning to get your act together. haha Girls are crazy. That's what I think if she wants to see you the day after a break up. She just wants to explain herself. But eh, there's a chance that all she wants to say is that she can't be with you cuz of blah blah blah. Just hope for the best. Good luck.
2007-03-22 04:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by baby_wrestler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez. You were a jerk, and you want to continue being a jerk by being her "friend". It's time to do the mature thing. Tell her you think she did the right thing by breaking up with you and do not meet with her. Leave her alone! She doesn't deserve any more pain from you.
2007-03-22 04:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey give her the chance to speak her mind . As for you life is short to play mind games not saying you are but is better being honesty than playing her . I also believe that you should keep it real with her. Be honesty with your heart no one like to be hurt . If you don't feel for her just be straight and I believe that it would work better for both even doe that we might not hear what we like but keep real with her . if is meant to be it will work . Yes meet with her and listen to her and let her know how you truly feel hey the best is honest and being true to your feelings ok good luck hey If it works good luck & blessing .
2007-03-22 04:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by boricuasexy1210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cant hurt to go see what she wants to talk about. maybe she just want closure. If you are going to continue being a jerk dont waste anymore of her time by getting back together.
2007-03-22 04:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! maybe she's going to tellyou something important, like what you did, and what's really bothering her.. or something. Go, and if ya feel uncomfortable make sure you have a reasonable reason to leave, because if you don't, she'll get the impression that your up to something, like maybe with another girl. And 9 monthss! wow thats a long time.. Good luck!
2007-03-22 04:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋