What is going on with us? Is it normal?

Question

Ok, so at the beginning my boyfriend and I were inseparable.. He always held me close and wanted to include me in everything he did. We have lived together for a year and a bit and I am starting to feel like he has lost the love for me. He wants to go out without me... not a lot but just in general. He isn't as affectionate as he was at the beginning.... but I still feel like I want to spend as much time with him as possible... am I too clingy.. should I give him his space? Is it normal for a relationship to go this way. I am still happy with him, I just want to know if he is too... when I ask him he tells me that he is VERY happy with me, but we need to do our own things as well... is this normal?

Answer 1

Yes it is completely normal. When you first began dating you were in the lust stage and now things have settled a bit and you have fallen into a routine. Just spice things up a bit, go out on the town with the girls one night a week away from him and try not to be so clingy.
P.S. Guys like the chase so make yourself unavailable for a few nights and he will come begging on his knees

Answer 2

That is very normal. Things do seem to change after living together for a while. Us woman just have to realize that a man will go out of there way to get us and may slack off a little once they know that they have gotten us. That doesn't mean that they have lost interest, it's just they don't feel the need to do as much anymore. They want us to be there mothers at times, seems like it. But unless you're getting no attention at all, you don't have anything to trouble yourself about. It's a must that you trust him and give him space though. It sounds like you are pretty much like me. I find myself trying to make my boyfriend stay in and get this, he works out of town during the week. When he does get out I have found myself to even accuse him of cheating. You know what that is? INSECURITY! It's just that when your hurt so many times, you feel like things will always be the same. But, it's not there fault. And let me tell you, we can run a man off by being so insecure. If he's doing anything he isn't suppose to do, trust me, it will come out. So, coming from a woman who can relate to you, trust him and give him his space because it's way easier for a man to get smothered before a woman will. Let that man be a man. You just continue to do right by him and you will be rewarded. Oh! You need to be thankful that he's coming home at night. Now when he starts to stay out all night and start to look suspecious, then it's time for you to question him. If you want to keep that man, let him have his space. You should want him to get out sometimes anyway. That way you'll have some "ME" time. You can do and think of different things so he'll be happy that he's coming home to you. Try cleaning the house, having a surprise and unexpected meal waiting, hot bath water and get a little massage therapy set up, etc. Must I go on.? Just relax, cause it seems to me that you may be a tad bit clingy.

Answer 3

ABSOLUTELY NORMAL.
YOU MUST BE SEPARATE BEINGS AS WELL AS A COUPLE, SO THAT YOU CAN STAND ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET.
ALL YOUR INTERESTS WILL NOT BE THE SAME AND YOU MUST EACH PURSUE YOUR INTERESTS IN ORDER TO KEEP GROUNDED.
YOU CAN'T GIVE UP EVERYTHING BECAUSE YOU HAVE A MATE.
DO NOT BE CLINGY, YOU WILL DRIVE HIM AWAY. TAKE YOUR SPACE AND GIVE HIM HIS.
DO YOUR THINGS LIKE HAVING DINNERS WITH GFS AND ALSO HAVE ANOTHER COUPLE OVER TO DINNER.
IN ORDER TO FEEL RELAXED AND IN HARMONY WITH YOUR PARTNER, YOU SHOULD SPEND TIME WITHOUT EACH OTHER DOING YOUR OWN THING.
THIS IS A HEALTHY WAY OF LIVING LIFE.
YOU CAN'T BE CONSUMED 24-7 WITH A PARTNER..IT WOULD BE TOO INTENSE...
THE LUST IN A RELATIONSHIP WILL DIMINISH A BIT AS TIME GOES ON, CAUSE YOU ARE WITH EACH OTHER, BUT YOU CAN ADD EXCITEMENT TO THE MIX WHEN YOU ARE TOGETHER.
GET CREATIVE AND ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER AND APART.
YOU WILL APPRECIATE EACH OTHER MUCH MORE AND WILL DEFINITELY BE HAPPIER...

Answer 4

Totally normal. You are a couple but you're still unique individuals. Find some of your own activities and interests, and trust that he is being honest when he tells you he's happy with you. I think it makes for a healthier relationship when each person has at least somewhat of their own life. You don't have to be joined at the hip. Practice a bit of your own sense of security and independence.

Answer 5

It is normal for a couple to become comfortable in a relationship and not feel the need to be with each other constantly. I am sure his feelings for you have not lessened any and that he still wants to be with you. Many couples pick one night a week where the guy can go out with is buddies and the lady can go out with her friends and just have fun away from each other. It acutally can make a relationship stronger.

Answer 6

This is very normal...at the beginning we are still trying to figure out one another and we are more or less in the puppy love stage, once the relationship grows you will have a mature love and with that comes trust and understanding. you can't spend ALL your time with one another.

Good Luck

Answer 7

yeah, very. He has his own life, as do you. He needs space and probably doesn't want you clinging on with him everywhere he goes, since you guys live together. I'd be worried if you guys didn't see eachother everyday, but eh- you live with the guy. Just give him his space and expect him to give you yours =]

Answer 8

Of course its normal honey,,just have a little trust.I would not worry about anything .Maybe he is very comfortable where he is and feels that you arent going anywhere.You go do your own things as well.

Answer 9

Yeah it could be normal. The "lovey-dovey" stage could be over and he just wants to chill with the guys sometimes.
Without knowing you two or more info I can't say whether it could mean anything else or not.

Answer 10

He is getting exactly what he wants, sex anytime without commitment. That is what "living together" does for the guy.