I did. My step-dad treated me terrible. After I moved out, he changed the locks on the door. He did things to my mother I didn't approve of, so I told him how I felt, and all he did was cuss me out. My mother is afraid to stand up to him, and lets him walk all over her, and my siblings. He even have his own bedroom. my siblings sleep on couches and the floor. I can't wait the day when he gets payback for all of this. Anyone have a story?
2007-03-22 04:20:55 · 6 answers · asked by ~Nellie Nell~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. My step-mother was worse than that abc family movie Step-mother. And I will tell you something. You may have always heard it said that what goes around come around twice as hard. And my step-mother got it hard. She got breast cancer. It came back again and then she got a brain aneurism and then she died. Yes I went to the funeral and cried. But my tears, they were not of sorrow. They were because this woman could no longer hurt me by her mouth,her hands, or her actions. I wouldn't wish an ending similar to hers on anyone, but God sits hi and looks lo. Keep your faith, if you have any.
The things she did to me and said to me, they made the preacher cry. She would take us, my father, my two step-brothers and I out to dinner, she would pay for their food but I had to come out of my own pocket for my dinner. Is that what they call treating you like a step child. She made me walk in the rain and snow down to the store to play her lottery numbers. She would drive my brother to work which was down the street from our house and I worked several more blocks past his job and I had to walk. I moved out and she told me that I would come back. I never came back. By the grace of God I never had to ask that woman for anything ever again. In fact the week that she died, she begged me, she begged me to come and see her. I came to see her on 12/16/05 at 10pm she died 12/17/05 the next morning.
She made me strong and I have learned so much from her. My skin thickened, I don't let anyone tell me what I can not do or that I will never be able to afford anything. Or treat me bad. You may have to sleep on a couch or the floor tonight but one night, your step-father will pay for every tear you have cried every meal he did not allow you to eat every nasty comment he has said to you or to your mother. Mock my words...
One final thing, my father and I have made up since. I moved 3000 miles away and he hopes to see his grandkids one day, that's if I ever have any. He apologized for being soft and allowing this ogre to manipulate him and me. He apologized for the bad times and the times that he should have stood up for me. I was gone three years when I moved out before I actually had a decent conversation with my dad. He apologized for cancelling my life insurance and buying a brand new car with that money. He apologized for falsely claiming me on their taxes when I moved out, and having the IRS watching every tax return of ours now. He apologized for not telling this woman he ahd other children by a previous relation which is the source of her treatment of me. Forgive your mom and pray that she will come to her senses and realize she hurt you to by not standing up to that ogre.
2007-03-22 04:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nique T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. My parents got divorced when I was three, and my dad later re-married. My stepmother clearly didn't like me so much. When one of my sibling's did something wrong or even my father she would wait for me to make a comment and then put the blame on me. I was always the 'wrong one'. She also used meal time's as a punishment. I remember her making me do something instead of eating with the family. Once she even had me out shoveling dirt around a tree that we had just planted while the family ate. It hurts more now then it did then.
Because of her I have very little patience today, I have more of a heart for my good friend's, I do not like to be told what to do, nor corrected (told that I am wrong). My stepmother was VERY influential on me.
Great question, I hope you get some answers that are not as crazy as mine. I hope I didn't cause any uncomfortableness. Have a good day!
Kristy
2007-03-22 11:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am living with my boyfriend and his family.. We are having a really hard time about his kids who are 12, 11, and 8 years old walking all over me.. If their dad says no to something, they come to me. If their grandma says no to something they come to me. If I tell them no to something, they run to their dad or grandma. It just never stops.. And they both are very skeptical of anything and everything that the 11 year old says.. If he says he did his homework they double check.. if he says he didn't do something, they instantly assume he did.. I am so sick of all the crap they are doing within this family it is making me doubt if I want my children who are 6 months and 23 months to live here.. I am seriously doubting if I want to be here anymore... So you think you have it bad?? You do but step parents and the like have it badly also honey....
Now that I have shared my story, back to yours.. Have you seen a therapist or something to deal with the emotions your step father has caused you to have?? I really hope so.. The feelings you have can build into alot of things like problems with boys later in life to trust issues and anger issues with other people... Get some help or e-mail me.... I am willing to talk anytime and will be on line alot this next week or so... My addy is babyangeleyez17@yahoo.com Let me know how you are doing... :) Live life to the fullest!!!!
2007-03-24 03:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by babyangeleyez17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? This is abuse and you have the right to turn him in!! at least get a restraining order , so he cant bother you! your mom has a low self esteem and right now is incapable of protecting herself or you. she needs some help herself. make sure she knows you love her!!! he is abusive and the law will [should help. this question makes me angry and i want to help. how old are you ? if you are under 18 the better. he is abusing your whole family.At your age or any age you deserve to make your own happiness.and your own mistakes. and not live by his bad mistakes . go get help now!!!this ver;y minute!!!get off this computer and go to the police station . and talk to them !!! child, you do not need to live and grow up like this . i would let you come to me first, you always have an option!!!and i believe,a lot of peope reading this would help also..
2007-03-22 13:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dori S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I ve experienced a similar thing and you're very brave to open up and talk about it
What goes around comes around
Believe in karma
2007-03-26 10:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't relate but i know on of my friends can. his step dad yells at him ugly words and hits the mom...it's sad...
2007-03-22 11:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋