Ok my boyfirned an i were sitting in his car this morning and he was looking at his phone awfully hard and at first i couldnt figure out why!!! but when i looked over he had a picture of another gurl on his phone and was looking at it!! When i conforonted him about he got upset and told me taht a friend of his sent to his phone and told me he didnt understand why i was getting upset and told me to get out of his car!!! Did i have a right to get upset or am i over reacting? I need to get cheered up y'all guys cheer me up!!!!
2007-03-22 04:19:42 · 15 answers · asked by JessieRae07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you caught him in the act. drop me a line and I'll show you the respect that you deserve.
2007-03-22 04:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if the story really goes as you say than he is a fool. But I have a felling your not telling us the whole story on how you confronted him. It could make all the difference. P.S. Why are there idiots telling you "Baby Come with me I'll show you what's up." Bird dogs. She does have a boyfriend. For now. Respect.
2007-03-22 12:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Brown Sug. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy,but i dont think you were wrong to be worried.
HOWEVER,it could of been his m8s new g.f or something that he'd sent to show him? Im just thinking,if he was up to something,would he be so dumb as to do it infront of you,you know? Then again it sounds like he got very defensive over it which isnt a good sign.But no,wouldnt say you were wrong at all.x
2007-03-22 11:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by lil c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I feel....Asking you to get out of his car is just DEAD WRONG! Now that would be a totally different story if you were yelling and going on a nut. I do feel that you had every right to question him (NOT YELL) and then listen to his reply. Just make sure you are listening to him and not over reacting before he has totally explained himself to you. If it is all innocent? You should be able to ask him to please remove it and more so? He should say he will do it himself with out you even having to ask. Just keep in mind that it's a picture and not his phone ringing with that female on the other end. A relationship is all about communication and if you can't both sit down and talk as adults calmly to one another? You two might need to give your relationship a time out. Time tells EVERYTHING! I know it's not a easy thing to do but it actually really will. Trust is also a HUGE factor. If you can not trust that he is being true and honest with you? You absolutely have nothing but maybe some awesome sex if you two are active that way. You need so so much more then that to make and keep a healthy relationship going. My advice would be to let him cool down for a day as hard as it may be for you. Then ask to get together so you two can clear the air with one another but do it in a clam setting and a clam voice with a clam attitude. Tell him how it makes you feel hurt inside, that you want to be the one on his phone and not some bimbo who would not go the extra mile for him as you would, probably have and more then likely have already done. If it's a sexy picture? Ask him if he can replace it with a sexy picture of you. If he seems to be negative or blows you off and is not taking your feelings seriously? I would say it's time to pull the plug & bail out. Sometimes doing the bail out and not blowing up shocks the hell out of guys but make sure you do it in a clam tone of voice. Men turn off their hearing when they hear yelling or are being barked at. Don't make a long big lecture about it because all they hear at that point is (BLAH BLAH BLAH). someone that truly loves you would totally respect your feelings. His reaction towards you might be (FINE WHAT EVER!) The best thing for you to do is... Get up clamly and (WALK AWAY) without running your mouth at all. This shows him self control and men are actually turned on by that. They might not voice that to you but they are. If he has a heart or a brain at all? He will in a day or two come back to you and be willing to talk about this situation and (he should apologize to you) for not taking your feeling in to consideration when you noticed he was looking at this picture and questioned him about it. If he doesn't? I would say he did you the worlds ((biggest favor then.)) It's much easier to break it off now rather then 10 years down the road when you have tons of time and more of your heart and maybe children invested in to him. Don't waste your time on someone that is not willing to waste their time on you. Sure it's goning to hurt like hell! Sure your going to cry! AND sure you will move on and find someone else. WE ALL DO! If he found you attractive enough to date you for a point and time? Some other man will do just the same and (have respect for your feeling) on how certain things make you feel. That's my advice to you. I hope all works out for you and I wish you truly the very best. Just keep in mind you both need to hear one another. It's a two way street. Not a one way at all either. One ways are always dead ends. That's just a fact of life. (HUGS) Cath :o)
2007-03-22 12:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I'm not a guy, but I don't think you were overreacting, it's shocking to see your boyfriend or husband staring at another girl but you. Tell him what went through your mind when you saw that photo and him staring at you and ask him why his friend sent it to him. If he can't be honest with you, then you'll know something's up.
Kristine
2007-03-22 11:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not a guy but yeh I would be mad too. You need to check his phone and see if it really was sent by his friend or ask him to show you. You will be able to tell. I guess it depends who the girl was and if it was a suggestible photo or not.....
2007-03-22 11:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously lying. Boyfriends don't deliberately look at pictures of other girls, especially right in front of their girlfriends. Sounds like he's not willing to discuss it either.
Simply put -- break up with him. You can do better than that.
2007-03-22 11:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him go because he is not telling you the truth. he got made because he lied and got caught. he wanted you to see what we was looking at to make you made and leave him, to say you broke up with him. then he kicked you out the car, there is a problem with that and you need to move on. signs of cheating and you chouldnt have to deal with that sh-t.
2007-03-22 11:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over reacting,don't get UPSET.................There are alot of GUY THINGS out there that Y'all don't like. One of them is trying to get a Buddies girl Pissed Off.
2007-03-22 11:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, for him to get so defensive, something's up... He would have said something right away about why did this get sent to him..but he didn't.... doesn't sound like a very honest bf you got there....
2007-03-22 11:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋