Dinner with Ex?

Question

my boyfriend (age 30) and I (age 25) just broke up. Long story short, he says he needs to be alone, to figure things out, that he thinks he still loves me but he's not sure and needs to figure it out. We've been together a year. I was also to blame, I smothered him, he's a very indpenedent person. He also says that he still wants to keep in contact with me, go to n.y. with me in april on this day trip we planned. So he emailed me Wednesday b/c he also had asked me to go to dinner with him Friday. We made plans for Friday and then today i got an email from him saying he couldn't do it after all b/c he has this county commissioners meeting (he's big into poltics) and that he's sorry. So we planned it for Sunday night. I know it's only two days more, but I'm just so upset. And I'm trying hard not to think we are getting back together, but it's hard b/c I am willing to work on my flaws to make it work. He's a great guy and I truely love him, any advice? Any at all?

Answer 1

My advice is to do nothing...
Let him come to you. You will also be demonstrationg your ability to let him breath.
Men like to feel like there is a hunt. Let him "hunt" you. Don't completely ingore him, return his phone calls & such but do not make the first move. Do this for a few weeks...
Let him Miss you.

Answer 2

I think you should stay away from him. He asked you for space but is still making plans for dinner and travel....To me, that does not make any sense. Either he wants to be with you and make it work or he needs to be alone and sort his feelings out. Obviously, he does not feel the same way about you the way he did and you can't make something work by yourself. He has to be willing to work with you.

Answer 3

get book and read & follow it's an eye opener
Mars and Venus The languages of Love John gray, Ph.D. you could look for in libary also