stay at home moms in 2007? i used to work, because of loosing almost all of our income to 3 bad daycares over my son's first year, i've been staying home for the last 9mo.
i feel as if i cannot please my husband in doing so. my staying home was just as much his idea as mine.
what do you feel are the most important jobs of a stay home mom? how do you feel about what she needs to get done around the house? how would/do you react if you come home and noctice something like the floors are dirty, or there are toys all over? how does/would it effect your esteem and financial planning to be the only one bringing income to the house?
2007-03-22 03:57:49 · 15 answers · asked by sherman supporter 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I were the husband I would like to see the house clean, not spotless, but presentable. I would like to see my wife presentable, not looking like she hasn't bothered to comb her hair or dress half way nice.
I would like to see the child clean and not running around with just a diaper on.
It would also be nice if sometimes when I came home there was a meal which took some preparation time and was something I really enjoyed.
It sounds like financially it doesn't make much difference whether you work or not considering what the day care costs and the expenses involved with working.
The main thing is keep yourself attractive to your husband and make the house a nice place to come home to.
2007-03-22 04:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be questioning your own self-worth. Both of you agreed to let you stay home and care for the kid. You asked how the man would feel if he came home and the floors were dirty, toys strewn all over. The question is not for him, it's on you. You seem to be remorseful that you're no longer out there working and pitching in for the income, thus causing you to be tired of the repeated activities of the house and becoming lax. Well, if you're not a soap opera stay at home mom and want to return to work, why are you not looking into reputable daycare research? Why are you not looking for employ that has child care facilities, which are more abundant now? Do this and present them to your hubby and he may agree to your working again.
2007-03-22 11:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it's ok to be a stay at home mom. And if you're having self-esteem problems darling, what makes you think it's easy to raise children? Most men i know can't handle being around children for more than a few hours on the weekends . i had the opportunity due to an injury many years ago to experience being a stay at home dad and my wife had to work. Thank God our income was sufficient . The experience gave me a whole new appreciation for the work that women once HAD to do because of socio-sexist restrictions.
i bow to the wondrous nature of who you are, a child of God who is willing to do whatever it takes to ensure the health, safety, and well-being of these little souls is done. And if your husband has no appreciation for what yo have to deal with, tell him to stay home some saturday and do what you do. Make him a list of what you do each day, WITHOUT pay, and see if he woul be illing to do the same.
Much love and prayers to you.
2007-03-22 11:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a stay-at-home single dad for the first few years of my daughter's life, and only NOW can I fully understand what it is like to spend most of your day keeping your child busy, entertained, safe, happy and providing them with as much love as you possibly can. The time off you have after cleaning only their mess up, all you want to do is sit down and watch a bit of TV before it starts all over again! If he can't understand that and help out a lot more around the home, then swap positions for a while- he'll beg you to let him go back to work, pay for a cleaner, sitter and stay-at-home mother-in-law if need-be!
2007-03-22 11:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man but I've been there already...... you need to manage u'r time wisely and not just that understand that he is the only one working and that the last thing on his mind would be to come home to a dirty, unorganized house..... it would get to a point where he is going to ask u what are u doing with u'r time while he is not home and just start an argument..... also try getting a small part time in the evenings..... just to get u out the house before u go crazy....... good luck and take care of u'r son right now that u can and that he is only u'rs before he grows up and it'll be all about friends, party.....etc.... and enjoy this moment it only come once in ur and ur childs lifetime....... Good luck
2007-03-22 11:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bothering your husband, it is important that you talk to him. You should ask him what he feels is the most important and why. Ask why he reacts the way he does when he comes home to see dirty floors and toys. Ask him how he feels about being the only income bearer. And most of all LISTEN! Reseach shows that men a less likely to discuss their problems with anyone, except their spouse. Communication is so important in a relationship.
2007-03-22 11:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Michael H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels good to earn enough to look afte rmy family without struggling. My wife stays at home, she sometimes does not get house work done but that bothers her mmore than me. I know my 2 yo and 9 mo can be a handful, and I think it is better they have their mother to bring them up the way we want them bought up and not bought up by the system. Also it is pointless her going to work because it costs us to much in child care. I would only want her to go to work for hewr own sanity and adult company. You are doing ok, and if the house is dirty so what, you know that you get it done when you can. Kids are hard work.
2007-03-22 11:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as at the end of the day the house isn't burnt down, the kids and pets are still alive, and there's food on the table I'd give ya a pass.
Toys get taken out and put away all the time, no biggy, dirt, well dirt happens, as long as it isn't feces on the carpet I can pick up a broom if she's running after the rugrats.
2007-03-22 11:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by John S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home mom is, in my opinion one of the hardest and least appreciated jobs in the world. It is a blessing to have a chance to spend time wiith the kids but generally speaking, it is a thankless job unless your spouse is a great communicator and able to see beyond his own job and issues enough to show appreciation. This is key, as is making time for yourself to feel good. Again, this depends on your spouse, but I would recommend taking a class or doing something outside of the house to allow you to replenish your energy and enthusiasm for this difficult job.
2007-03-22 11:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by findingselflove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a purely selfish point of view, I think it is fabulous to have my wife stay home. It certainly removes alot of the stress of grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking etc from me. As long as the house is not a pig sty, and the kids are happy, I think it is a great situation. If your hubby is giving you crap, he should probably lighten up
2007-03-22 11:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by Greedisgood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋