I'm with my bf for almost 6 yrs. We have ups and downs just like others. The thing is, my bf is a little hard to understand. I don't know how to call these, maybe a little paranoid and controlling. He always thought i'm cheating on him, thing that its not true. The worst is, everytime we go out, if he noticed people laughing, he thought that they are laughing on him and he blamed me for that. He thought i did something bad that's why they are laughing on him. He noticed every single movement of my body when we are out like the way i walk, he question why am i walking that way which i know i'm walking normal and etc. He blames me for everything hapenning to him. He plays poker online and he lost big time money. He thought that i did something on his computer that made other ppl saw his card. Thats why sometimes, i react on what he's accusing me and it will end up to a fight. When it comes to this point he thought that i'm looking for a fight again. And a lot lot more.....
2007-03-22 03:51:41 · 8 answers · asked by Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out now! Leave him, you do not need some one controlling you, that's the worst relationship there is, and NO it will not change.
He is blaming you for a "online poker game", for the way you walk. And worse of all, for people around you two laughing as if you had something to do with it.
To me it seems he's looking for someone to blame, for someone to take his anger out on, for someone to make feel worse so he can feel better about him self.
You don't need this, and 9 out of 10 times, when a man accuses you that means he's really the one out doing something. So to take the heat off him being unfaithful, he puts it on you.
You can do so much better than this, you don't want to have a family with someone like that, you don't want to settle down with someone like that. Leave now before he hurts you badly, emotionally and physically
Good Luck
~Nay~
2007-03-22 04:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marie, it sounds as though your BF may need some professional help. The behavior you describe doesn't sound like behavior that will change without some work. Does your BF think that his behavior is okay? Do you think that his behavior is okay? If your boyfriend doesn't trust you after 6 years, is he ever likely to? If this relationship isn't meeting your needs and there is no likelihood that it is going to change, then I would suggest exploring a change in the type of relationship you share. Acquaintances might be one way to go. If this is a relationship that you want to keep, then a relational counselor or someone you both trust to help you talk things through might be worth trying.
2007-03-22 04:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by TAMAJ13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my. You need to see him for who he is. He is very very paranoid. It might go deeper than that. There are personality disorders -- which are totally incurable -- that make a person paranoid. You do not need to be with this man. He is lethal! Pretty soon the TV set will be telling him that you're a spy and then his pillow will tell him to kill you. Get away from this guy. I'm serious. He is sick and might turn abusive or dangerous.
2007-03-22 03:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT of this relationship! This guy has serious problems that don't have anything to do with you! Think how nice it will be to just walk and talk and laugh, and feel good about yourself! And anyone who doesn't accept you the natural way you are doesn't deserve you anyway! Hell ya! Get your Ba-jing back sista!
2007-03-22 04:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by chikadee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is extremely insecure and paranoid. It sounds like he has psychological problems. This is a toxic relationship and it's not healthy for you. He needs help before he can offer anything in a relationship.
2007-03-22 04:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a bad habit! Sound to me like he is a paranoid jerk. Normally when your BF is accusing you of cheating and you have never given him a reason to think so, then they are accusing you of what they are doing themselves.... Also it sounds like he treats you like sh*t. You don't need that, and some of his accusations are ridiculous. Good Luck
2007-03-22 03:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because one you loose the first feeling majority of the time you loose interest.
2007-03-22 04:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Micka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-03-22 03:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by iCantAidYou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋