I asked this before and didn't listen to the general consensus.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070309150120AADh6Ia
I got to know her better. Right after the above link her ex came to town (lives in CO, we're in CA) for a week. They are now back together.
I asked if I imagined that she liked me too and she said no, she was sorry though. She said that even though she felt that way about me too we still don't know eachother that well (only a few weeks). She still wants to be my friend and continue to see me even though she is back together with her old boyfriend and engaged.
My question. Why would a woman who hasn't known me for more than a few weeks. We both knew we felt something for eachother. She knows I want to date her. Why would she still want to see me and continue to get to know me.
I don't think she is just being nice. I know that she really does want to keep seeing me. Really, what is this girl thinking. I need womens input on what she is thinking.
2007-03-22 03:48:08 · 7 answers · asked by scimitar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like telling her doesn't she think she is playing with fire. I mean, if she gives me more time to get to know her what if she does start liking me more. Is she just going to bottle those feelings up to continue to be in an interstate relationship with this other guy.
2007-03-22 03:50:42 · update #1
First, she is not thinking of you. She is thinking of herself. She knows you're into her, but she likes you and the attention and so she'll keep seeing you. Second thing, she obviously is into you. She is attracted to you, yes. But she is in love with her boyfriend. She's engaged to the guy, and the fact that she WORE THE RING even though they were split? That should've given you a clue. Finally? Stay away from her. You like her a lot, and you're probably already in love with her. You don't need this heartache. Really, no contact with her.
2007-03-22 03:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's one of two things, possibly both. First, you are an ego boost to her. Your attention makes her feel good. Second, you are a safety net. If Mr. Colorado doesn't work out, she's got you in her back pocket.
The way you write, you make it seem like all these decisions are up to her, like she has all the control. You have decision making power as well, don't forget. You can decide to stop seeing this girl and avoid getting hurt and getting involved in a complicated situation.
I'm sure Mr. Colorado would not be happy if he knew she is spending time with you (I assume he does not know).
I would walk away....quickly.
Good luck.
2007-03-22 10:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are waaaaaaaaaay overthinking this.
Let me simplify it for you.
Her relationship with her bf/ fiancé/ whatever she's calling him today is not stable or reliable. She's keeping you around as backup, and to do this she's encouraging you just enough to make you think that there's a chance.
Do not waste your time on this girl. She is using you, plain and simple, and if you get more emotionally involved in this mess than you already are, you're in for a world of pain.
Just walk away.
2007-03-22 10:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sorry to hear that. what i'm going to write is only based on my personal opinion. anyway, few weeks doesn't promise anything..she may be likes you but she love someone else! and the guy was her boyfriend before plus they know each other longer than few weeks. i bet she still have that feeling to her former ex. do not be too frustated. Please do cheers yourself. and my advice, do not see her again eventhough only for friends because it's only makes your heart broken into pieces. you also would not be sincere to act like a friend because you have that kind of feeling to her. It would not be that simple. it is difficult to get into what woman is thinking because only herself knew what is passing through her mind. Best of lucks to you..
2007-03-22 11:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by MoonStar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her back up. She obviously is scared to death of being without someone. You are her insurance in case she and her fiance break up.
2007-03-22 11:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes keeping u on the side as an "option" incase her and her fiancee break up... i wouldn't deal w/ someone like that... just tell her honestly that u shouldn't be left as an option and that she should be happy w/ her fiancee...
2007-03-22 10:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by chi_twnchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants.
She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
That's not fair to you...I would tell her that.
2007-03-22 10:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋