So I have just 2 people that i have to have in my bridal party. TJ(my fiance) wants me to include his 2 sisters, whom I dont really know that well, we are completly different and have nothing in common. But TJ has 3 groomsman already, so If I add his two sisters he will have to find another groomsman. What should I do. Either way as it stands we have odd numbers. He has to have those 3 and so I have a nother friend I could ask but what should I do about his sisters?
2007-03-22 03:46:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You state that "his 2 sisters, whom I don't really know that well, we are completely different and have nothing in common".
Well its not true you have nothing in common - you have TJ in common.
You don't know them that well - this would be an ace time to get to know them and would make TJ and them happy, small price to pay for symmetry
Good Luck and best wishes on your wedding.
2007-03-22 03:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, you should get to decide who is or isn't your bridesmaids. If you do not want them to be in your party, then you should firmly (but politely) put your foot down. There are plenty of other things that the sisters can do to participate and be part of the festivities. If you do not have them as bridesmaids, get them involved in some other function! You want to include your new family in whatever way you can.
That said, if your groom has a decent (and not just a throw-in) fourth choice for a groomsman, choosing the two sisters as #3 and #4 would be a great act of goodwill on your part. You are virtually marrying the entire family, whether you like it or not. It does not matter if you have anything in common with them. It is not like you're spending your life with them. You are just including them in a very important day in yours AND their brother's life. It would be a great honor for them, and it would reflect very well on you.
In the end, regardless, the decision on the bridesmaids should be yours to make. Good luck! And Congratulations!!
2007-03-22 03:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why this seems to be an issue for you. Weddings although wonderful... can be very stressful. The most important thing I would say first is... how important is it that his sisters are included in your bridal party?
If it is very important to him... I would respect his wishes and include them. If that should be the case, you will need to find another groomsmen. Groomsmen don't have to be only part of the grooms friends or family. They may also be members of your family as well. So if you have having difficulty finding an additional groomsmen ... look in your family and close circle as well.
If it is not very important that they be included in the bridal party, I would suggest that you ask your other close friend and you find another creative way to include them into the ceremony. Your future sister in-laws can do readings for you at the ceremony and still feel as though they were included in this very special day.
Good luck :)
2007-03-22 03:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by JohnAge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would include his two sisters. When my brother (whose name ironically is also TJ) got married, my sister and I were not a part of his wedding. I felt as though she didn't like us and wasn't trying to know us. By including his sisters in the wedding, you are setting an example that you want to get to know them and are welcoming them into your family and most importantly your life. It doesn't matter if you have odd numbers or not in a wedding. No one had ever said there must be equal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids.
You don't have to have his sisters as bridesmaids, but have them do something special. If you are getting married in an indoor setting, you could ask them to be honorary bridesmaids and light some candles (usually the ones that are in the candelabras.) Honorary bridesmaids usually sit in the first or second row with the guests.
Best of luck to you and I hope you get the answer you want.
2007-03-22 04:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by sunchine girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not really know his sisters than there is nothing that says that you have to include them in your bridal party. This is your wedding and you should decide who you want in your bridal party. You will be fine with just your two bridesmaids but if you want you can add your other friend if you want it to be even. Just explain it to your fiance that you really don't know his sisters just yet and wouldn't feel comfortable having them in your bridal party.
2007-03-22 03:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Krystal A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have his sisters - the bridal party is for both you and your guy, so that would just be the proper thing to do. He could find another groomsman.
2007-03-22 04:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use his sisters if that's what he wants. They will be your family and if it's important to him, they should be in the wedding. Let him know you'd like him to find an additional groomsmen, or have one of your male friends or relatives take the position. Having his sisters in your wedding will allow you to spend more time with them and get to know them better. It's not a huge deal if you don't have things in common now...you will by the end of the wedding! Plus, if you're worried about disagreements over dresses or things like that, don't worry. You're the bride and you get to make the decisions. Have fun and congratulations!
2007-03-22 03:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by jennyss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 08:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my point of view being in the situation of the sisters. My brother and his fiance are getting married and she didnt ask me to be a bridesmaid! It really hurt my feelings and I have told her how I feel about it! I am getting married also and had asked her to be in my wedding and she has solely pissed me off and I have kicked her out of the wedding, but coming from a sister of the groom they might get a little upset about it. I think having them do something else might make them feel like you just want them in it to keep them from feeling left out. At least thats how I felt when my brothers fiance did that to me!
2007-03-22 07:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by AB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise and maybe just ask one sister (explaining to the other one that you're doing it for numbers and you tossed a coin and the other sister won).
Either that, or get the one groomsman to escort both sisters down the aisle, or get a flower girl or ring boy to go with the extra sister?
2007-03-22 03:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋