Cry and get depressed for a few wks. Then start to hang out with friends, pick yourself up. You can start by keeping away all photos and all the things he gave as a form of closure. Delete his contact to prevent yourself from texting/calling him.
That's what I did. Btw, my first love broke up with me a mth ago. its not easy to get over him and I'm still learning. Time will lessen your pain...
2007-03-22 03:45:43
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answered by Grace 3
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thats tough...sorry it happened.
everyone has had their heart broken at least once and there is no advice that ever makes it easier.
I basically have 4 pieces of advice that i hope will help the process:
(1) understand that time is the only thing that will help, so settle in for a little mourning period and try to get through it
(2) move on in your mind. dont entertain thoughts of a future or possibility with this person; it only prolongs the pain period.
(3) when thoughts of this person creep in, push them out and try to find something else to occupy you.
(4) spend time with friends.
It doesnt seem like it now, and particularly because it is your first love, but the pain will pass eventually. The best thing you can do is move forward and let the past be the past. That will make it quicker.
Good luck. I will pray for you because i know it hurts...
2007-03-22 03:50:42
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answered by zeke58 3
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I'm going through something similar, and unfortunitely, it just sucks. Its hurts, you just want to see them or speak to them, anything to make you feel better. But ultimately, time is the only healer. Maybe you'll get back together, but maybe you won't. Always hope for the best but expect the worst. Theres nothing anyone can say or do to make you feel better, but try and get out, make yourself do things you wouldn't normally do, go to a movie alone, it does wonders for your self-esteem. I hate this saying b/c about 90 people have said it to me in the past two weeks, but everything happens for a reason. Maybe he just needs to see what he's missing and he'll come back and treat you right. But maybe he won't and you'll find someone who will treat you like the wonderful chick you are!
2007-03-22 03:58:34
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answered by Heather L 2
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It's different for everybody. I know I'm facing the same problem right now since my girlfriend just left me. Some people prefer to just sever all ties with their ex-relationships, meaning they just make a decisions for themselves that they're not going to speak to that person anymore. It takes a LOT of self-discipline to do that, but it's not unheard of.
Other people choose to continue to talk to their ex-partners, and they just make sure that neither of them begins to take it to the next stage.
The one thing NOT to do is let yourself continue to go after them. They broke up with you because they don't want to be in a relationship with you. There are a million reasons why someone might not want to be in a relationship with you; however, there's only ONE reason why someone would break up with you -- they don't want to (or can't) be with you.
If you keep acting as if they DO want to be with you, you'll only be chasing after something that won't reciprocate. It's ultimately up to your partner if they decide to come back to you. The only real beneficial thing for you to do is move on, by any means necessary.
Whatever you feel comfortable with, is what you should do. It's imperative though to make the choice to get on with your life; it's not gonna wait for you to get on your feet again.
2007-03-22 03:50:33
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answered by Anonymous
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Ive recently been through this.. we lived together for 3 years and he broke my heart. Its been 3 weeks and Im alot better than I was the first week thats for sure. The best thing u can do is not to contact him at all.. and go out with your friends and have fun!!
2007-03-22 03:47:05
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answered by Anonymous
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When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone! Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. You've got to know when it's dead. If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......LET IT GO!!! If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth.....LET IT GO!!! If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship............LET IT GO!!! Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then .....LET IT GO!!!
2007-03-22 03:49:45
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answered by thetruth 2
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Sorry to hear ;o(
Everyone gets there heart broken,probably more then once,and it hurts like hell,you think youll never get over it....but you will ;o)
My advice is to accept the fact you are hurting,cry,eat loads of icecream,hang out with your girls...and give it time....i know its a cliche time is a healer,but its very true...youll gradually hurt less and less.xxx
2007-03-22 04:15:27
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answered by Anonymous
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i comprehend the way you experience, i struggle by kinda a similar concern! to respond to your question certainly, on the commencing up it form of sounds like we can never recover from them, and existence heavily isn't worth living, yet on the choice, i hit upon that by time, it does get much less difficult, and there'll come a time while they'll in basic terms be a imprecise reminiscence to you! you are going to adore returned and greater intensely! good success!
2016-10-01 08:01:03
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answered by ? 4
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Cry a lot and go insane for days and days and days until you just can't cry anymore and then figure out a way to deal with your feelings. Some distractions that worked for me are TV, movies, reading, studying, just being out in public (so that I couldn't cry), and exercising.
2007-03-22 03:45:47
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answered by Confused 2
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just forget about him and find another guy he is not the only one u would fall in love with
2007-03-22 04:44:00
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answered by meme 2
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