ok so basically my 11 yr old son has changed -yes i know hormones are kicking in-but within the last 6 months his attitude is just out of contro l-he is lying,he is more aggressive-we do not have a household like this and i know all of his friends they have been friends since kindergarten-he is not doing drugs-i need help with attitude advice
2007-03-22 03:38:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My son has just turned 11. I have noticed a big upswing in aggresive behaviour as well. At first I was tempted to really clamp down hard on him, but, instead I have actually let him have more freedom and responsibility and this seems to help a lot. Firstly, I let him know, in no uncertain terms, that this aggression was unacceptable in or out of our home. However, he is getting to be a big boy and needs some way of expressing this.
He is allowed to walk to school on his own, with an older boy who is a good friend and neighbour. I allow him to run to the corner store to pick up small things, (I stand out front and watch him go there and back, but he doesn't know). He is allowed to make snacks for himself using the microwave, toaster oven, etc. He helps his two younger siblings with their homework. He has an allowance and, with some guidance, is allowed to choose how he spends it.
Amazingly, I have found that all of these things have really helped. He is much clearer on his "new" role in the family, as a big kid. He seems to realize that the new privledges come with responsibilities, especially in regards to responsible behaviour.
In our society of fear and real danger to children, it is very very hard to learn to let go of our kids, and let them grow up. They will naturally rebel against being kept and treated as babies. Try to strike a balance and let him know you acknowledge that he is growing up and needs new freedoms and responsibilities. I am sure that all of your hard work of many years teaching him how to do the right thing will pay off.
2007-03-22 06:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by bugged to death 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to assert his independance and individuality. First, he needs to be made aware that lying and agressive type behavior will not be tolorated. Second, try to find ways to allow him to be his own person. Let him cook his own meal or do his own laundry. May cause some messes but it will give him a healthy outlet to do things his way.
2007-03-22 05:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by kmunis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
only because of the fact he can stretch his tummy would not recommend he's fat. If he's small bone shape and weighs 85-ninety pounds, he could be a sprint over weight, yet while his shape is super, he isn't out of share.
2016-10-01 08:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank his butt. my parents never put up with this behavior. and nether should you. if I had and attitude then I got spanked. there were NO excuses for any bad behavior. if you let him get away with it now then he will walk all over you when he is a teenager
2007-03-22 06:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
enforce punishments for poor behavior and attitude problems.
2007-03-22 08:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent. So parent him.
2007-03-22 05:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by leaptad 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋