hi, i was wondering if any of you have any advice, the thing is im best friends with a guy i work with, he is lovely and we get on really well. but some of my family members hate him, which makes it really difficult for me! they just wont give him a chance! they have never met him and the only things they know about him is what i tell them (or rather what i used to tell them) they get great delight when i tell them that iv fallen out with him or if we have an arguement why are they being so unreasonable? and what can i do? thanks xx
2007-03-22 03:37:17 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My parents are the same towards my partner although i an 29.They love it when my partner and i argue and try to tell me things will never change and i should leave him,but everyone argues its part of every relationship.At the end of the day its your life.Do whatever you want to do,its not your parents who will be dating the guy is it?I dont tell my parents any bad bits about my relationship anymore,and although i know my mum hates him she manages to be polite when we occasionally call round.If you tell you parents how you feel about the guy and ask them to be polite towards him if only for your sake.
2007-03-22 03:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by becx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you can do is realize that spreading your skeletons around like a disease is truly the worse disease you can ever do. You've brought this situation on yourself. It's up to you to pull up your big girl pants and stop bringing other's into your business. If you're having a spat, have it, deal with it, and move on. NEVER bring other's into it because the end result will usually hinder you more than save you. The second thing you need to do is simply decide if you're capable of having a relationship with anyone if you're this concerned about how anyone else may feel. Is it your life or someone else's? If it's your's- LIVE IT!
2007-03-22 10:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an odd line for your family members to take - to hate the best freind of someone. You don't say why they hate him - has he done something to upset them?
There is a saying that goes something like 'friends are God's apology for your family.'
I would tell you family members to grow up and butt out of your life - it's none of their business and yes stop telling them the ins and outs of your relationship with your friend then they don't get any ammunition.
2007-03-22 10:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should let your family meet him and then they will be in a better place to form an opinion about him. I am sure that you only talk to them about him when there is a problem, try telling your family about the good stuff too.
2007-03-22 10:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's as nice as you say he is, and you've told your family that i don't see why they have taken a dislike to him, especially since they've never met him ?.
Have stories of a previous relationship or reputation followed him ?.
Anyway tell your family he's your friend and an important part of your life, and if they think anything of you they should accept this !!.
2007-03-22 10:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Richard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is just your friend what is the big deal? Your not trying to win their love for him...But if you want them to like him, and they don't, but they only know what you told them, then what did you tell them? You have to play the cards right to get their support. Don't stuff your words with lies, but limit the extent of what you tell them as to make him seem more acceptable as someone you should be good friends with. (If what you have told them about him is all good, then they are just being stupid...mine do it too...)
2007-03-22 11:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by Back 4 Revenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they think they are just protecting you and are worried this guy wants to be more than friends and will hurt you, families are very strange creatures at times, my family have never liked my best friend but 45 years on were still the best of buddies and I won't ignore her just to please my family, like they say you can't choose your family but thankfully you can choose your friends, hope your friends forever he sounds cool.
2007-03-22 10:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough 1, chat to your family and explain to them to at least give him a chance. This is your life and what is important is what makes u happy
2007-03-22 10:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop telling them the bad things and start telling them the good things, tell them why hes lovely, i used to have this same problem and the only way to get it to stop is if you stop tellling your family your business, otherwise they will always have an opinion about it.
2007-03-22 10:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by Youll See 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just tell them really good things about him just keep dropping little hints that hes a nice guy and just keep bringing up in conversations how he reallly made you laugh today when he did whatever he did etc try not to mention anything that they might not like about him and just mention the good things after a while they might change there mind about him :) goodluck !
2007-03-22 10:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋