I am beginning to have feelings for my roommate?

Question

This could be a long story, so I am going to try to make this short. I moved in with this guy. He is from Poland. We are basically living together to help each other out. I have a very strong bond with him. We support each others dreams and passions. When we met he had a girlfriend and when that began to break up we decided to move in together because he wants to improve his English and we get a long, blah blah blah. We are also legally tied to each other. I adore him, he has helped me so much. Last night I had a concert (I am a singer) and he showed up late and in a bad mood, he left early without even saying goodbye. When I got home he was asleep and I didnt want to wake him. This morning he said he had an argument with his ex-girlfriend on the phone and he regrets leaving my concert early because fighting with her wasnt worth it, I am upset and realize I have feelings for him.. What do I do???

Answer 1

tell him!

Answer 2

Hi, it sounds what you have going on is really working for you and him. I bet 10-1 he has feelings for you too. When you mean legally tied, are you married to him so that he can stay in this country?
You guys are probably both dancing around the issue of getting together romantically. He is probably afraid that things are working out so well, he does not want to ruin it by starting up a romance. Its typical, and very normal. I am sure that you feel the same way. And also, it sounds like the ex is still very much a prominent figure in his life. I am positive he is thinking so much of his negative experiences of her, that maybe he might not emotionally be ready for you right now.
If I were you, I would sort of hang back on this for a little while longer. I don't know I would approach him with your feelings yet, until you realize that they are true feelings, and not just the convenience of the living situation. It is very easy to get attracted to someone that you are with everyday and share a routine with. I would also be hesitant if I were you just because of the ex girl. Give him some time to get over her. You do not want to seem pushy or the rebound girl.
Also, I think it would be better if maybe you waited for him to make a move on you, or confess feelings towards you. I believe that this is going to happen in a matter of time, and you just need to be patient with him. Seems like he has been through a lot lately, and you may complicate things more if you start confessing your feelings. It would really hurt if he does not feel the same way about you. I suggest that you wait this one out for a little while longer.
Give it time baby girl. I think he has feelings for you, but you do not want to make your living situation uncomfortable by pushing this on him right now. You are worth the wait. I would just be cautious. You have a good living situation right now. Just wait for him to say something or make a move. Its bound to happen.

Answer 3

It sounds like he has feelings for you too--that's why his girlfriend is upset with him. Tell him the truth--it will be difficult for him to keep a girlfriend as long as he's rooming with a beautiful singer.

Ask him to think of a way to solve the problem. He might figure out that he cares about you. It's best to let him figure it out on his own, but if he doesn't you might have to hint around that you are not out of his reach.

This is an awkward situation. You two might have to skip dating (you've already gotten to know each other) and go directly to marriage under the circumstances.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I think you need to weigh the pros and cons about telling him and then make your decision. The pro is obviously that if you tell him and he feels the same way it could be the start of a great relationship for you both. The con could be if he doesn't feel the same way or if things don't work out it could make your living situation difficult in the future. I'm sure you can come up with more pros and cons since you know more about your situation than I do and make your decision from there. Good luck!

Answer 5

Make him dinner. Or your a singer, write him a song. But you must tell him how you feel! If you dont you never know what might have happened. So make him dinner and tell him over dinner. Or like I said, write him a song, put it on a tape/cd(if possible) and give it to him but when giving it to him make him know that its important he LISTEN to the words and emotions in the song. A good song title would be "Dedicated To You" but Im not singer/songwriter so that could be crap for all I know. But make him realize that your heart when out in this song. Make it work! Good luck! Hope it all comes together.

Answer 6

Ask him what he thinks about you. Tell him you find yourself being attracted to him. See what he says. If he does not seem interested in being more than a friend, say you will just keep it as a friendship and let it go at that. You will need then to find a boyfriend.

Answer 7

You cant force love Sounds like he still cares for the other girl..How are legaly tied? Do you have a marriage for immigration purposes?

Answer 8

Tell him! If you are in love with him you need to express it toward him. He is looking for someone like you to help him be the best he can. If you do that for eachother than you have found true love!

Answer 9

Start dressing provocatively around the house..
Wear revealing lingerie around the house..
Lots of casual close body contact..
Flirt with sexual innuendo...
Lots of coy eye contact...
Touch Touch Touch Touch..
Slip into his bed late some night....

Answer 10

Doesnt seem that he is ready to be in a relationship right now. give him time to get over his ex, keep up doing what you are doing. In time, im sure that something will arise.

Answer 11

Let him know how you feel. maybe he will give you an
opportunity and start a relationship with you. Good Luck