I have been on three dates with this guy and we talk on the phone often too. I have know him now for a few weeks.Hes great, we get along great and have a lot in common. We have only made out and he has never once pressured me to have sex. I am 20 and so is he, the thing is I am a virgin and I dont think he is. Will me being a virgin turn him off. And when I finally do sleep with him, will he care I have no experiance? And is waiting a couple months asking too much of him?
2007-03-22 03:29:00 · 8 answers · asked by annoynmus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really cares for you it shouldn't matter & why tell him anyway until the subject of sex comes up.
2007-03-22 03:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been many years since I was dating, so my opinion will be out of date. I think the fact that you are a virgin is a plus. If you can give a good massage you will be a great lover. If you can give yourself an excellent climax you will be a great lover. If you love looking at and touching a man's body all over, you will be a great lover. If you are a great lover your lack of experience with another guy means nothing. Many times a women's experience with another man may cause more harm than good. Waiting for you is something any man worth any thing should be able to do. If he has trouble waiting until you really want to have sex with him, he is not worth staying with. Drop him immediately if he pressures you about sex.
2007-03-22 03:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you DEFINETLY have to tell him your a virgin. Lying is not a good thing in a relationship. I doubt that he'll care that you have no experiance, maybe he'll think its sexy :] lol Hmm... waiting a couple of months, just talk to him about it, and if he becomes a jerk about it, well you can do way better
Good Luck
2007-03-22 03:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it wont turn him on and u dnt have to tell him ur a virgin until it comes up,,, bcuz if u do,, he will probably think ur mind is on sex n try to get some,,,,,,,,
but if it does occur where ur in a situation to have sex n ur not ready just tell him u arent ready just yet,,,,, im quite sure he will understand ,,, as long as u dnt make him wait forever,,,,,,
i wish u luck
2007-03-22 03:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to your virginity as long as you can. I know that you are interested in having sex and sometimes the feelings can be overwhelming. Trust me I have been there, but the one thing that I can say is that I wish that I would have waited. I don't know your religious beliefs, but you should wait until you are married to have sex. In this day and age I know that is next to impossible. The worst part of just having random sex is that you run the risk of it becoming a sport instead of what it is actually meant for, which is marriage. People tend to lose sight of that because of the attitude of society which is viewed primarily through people with no sense of religion. Sex as well as marriage is very sacred. You will make your share of mistakes in life (as I have) and you will have heartbreak. If someone honestly loves you though, that person will be willing to wait until the two of you are married. If you feel that your urges (temptation) are greater than waiting for marriage then proceed with caution. I am not promoting that you have sex, but if you choose to have it, make sure that protection is used hopefully on both parts. I would never look down upon a young lady that is a virgin. On the contrary, I would value her, because she would be a rarity in today's society. Trust me, I don't care what anyone tells you, a guy would love to have a woman that is a virgin 10 times out of 10 than to have someone that is experienced. Marriage gives you a chance to grow with someone spiritually, emotionally, and sexually. Pressures from society may tell you differently, but all good fathers would rather have their daughters wait until she is married to have sex than just have random sex before she is married. If most men would look at women that way and if most women would value their bodies then we wouldn't have premarital sex as often as we do. Unfortunately, we live in a twisted society where people say "do as I say, not as I do". The consequences of premarital sex are many. Pregnancy. If you do become pregnant and you decide to have an abortion, that creates more trauma in your life, because you are dealing with another life (hence the purpose of marriage). If you decide to keep the child, then you have to run the risk of having "baby daddy/s" in your life and will this be fair to the next guy or you? Are you prepared to deal with babysitters and the like? You run the risk of developing spiritual ties with someone who may not even care about you (hence the purpose of marriage again). What I mean by that is, everytime that you have sex, a man is actually placing his spirit within you (which sometimes comes out in the form of a child). It becomes more than just physical. That's why some have a hard time with letting go of relationships. Its actually a significant moment. You are developing a soul tie with a person (and just think if you have multiple partners). Most guys unfortunately don't look at sex the same as a woman, but then again, some women don't look at sex as they should either. They say all guys will cheat, but who are guys cheating with? The numbers are generally equal across the board considering there are far more women in the world than men. With all of this being said, if you find yourself in a situation where you actually want to proceed with this step in your life, I pray that you again take caution. I pray that everything turns out well for you. Just remember that rightfully he has no obligation to you afterwards. He can leave you at anytime, just as you could he. That is the downfall of not being married. Trust me, you can still leave being married, but it would be a little more difficult. Because hopefully by the time that you do decide to marry, the courtship was long and the time right. Remember also that just because you decide to give yourself to someone that isn't your husband, he owes you nothing, because it was a choice that you decided to make also and you are prepared to deal with the consequences of your actions. One day it will hopefully become a little bit more clearer as to why you should wait until you are married, until then my friend, I wish you the best. God Luck.
2007-03-22 04:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't tell him at all. Don't sleep with him until you are married.
2007-03-22 04:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it shouldnt bother him.for all you know he is to and thinks your are not
2007-03-22 03:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by marines_sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will probably turn him on more lol.
2007-03-22 03:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋